Starting a chastity relationship

I'd just say that a chastity relationship is whatever you want it to be. Do you want it to be random with dice, then fine he gets to keep the key until then but maybe he is allowed to extend it?

I would say the same for the type of orgasm. I would think he would have full say on that. Not only the type but how you are allowed to orgasm. Does he always provide it, does he force you to masturbate in front of him, does he let you use him to orgasm, do you have to stay caged and use a vibrator, or hump his leg, or does he allow you to use a blow up doll. All of these are ways that you can suggest to him to give ideas and then when it is time to unlock you don't know what he will choose.

Is that helpful or did I not answer the question?

 

Make a clear difference between letting him know what it is that turns you on, what you'll like and prefer him to do, and then what happens when "playing the game".

In the first part, feel free to ask for what you want, for example, you'd like to be denied orgasm for days or weeks at a time, or to be teased without cumming more often than when he allows you to cum.

But when "playing the game", as long as he works within your hard limits, it's not your place to ask, or to say what's going to happen, you've given that right to him.
If you want him to be the dominant one, you have to become the submissive one.

That was one of the most difficult things I found when we started doing chastity "seriously".
Once I realised and I stopped topping from the bottom, my partner had the space to grow into the dominant role.

 

Communication is key.

 

I could not agree more! Keep talking about things and make it clear what you want and need, and ask him what he feels to. It is what ever works for the both of you, if using dice solves that then go with it until you both have built up confidence to take it further, good luck!

 

What works for us is chastity being part of dominance and submission. My partners pleasure comes first.

I'm not supposed to ask or nag for any form of sex (which can be difficult). So no talking her into letting me cum.

We do talk about things she or I would like to try. But the choice of if we do them and the timing of when we do them is hers. I can suggest but then no nagging.

I'm allowed to cum as frequently or infrequently as she likes. Often she uses me for her pleasure and she's the only one who has an orgasm. This makes her very central to the period of chastity, it's based entirely on her mood.

It sounds as though you're thinking of the chastity device as a foreplay toy to spice things up rather than power exchange, which is totally fine, that's how we started, we went from edging to chastity, that evolved slowly into more of a full time dominance thing. As long as you're talking and are on the same page it's a lot of fun.