To help others understand how things might go and what to expect on their journey of fantasy and denial... What are the stages of chastity you have gone through? I'l go first; Longest locked without release is 31 days. No unlocks at all. In order... The first 3 weeks was just insane horniness, some begging. Mostly it was a blur. Journalling helped. Porn was nothing to me after 3 weeks. Acceptance was next. The next 10 days was "okay", I knew I could do it. I missed my erection really badly. Insanely! Thinking about porn, having a look, and finding it empty. My mind had better fantasies. Flatline, feeling almost asexual. Not broken, just uninterested. I felt a little sad for no real reason. It passed quickly. Once released no erection problems but there was a lot of dead skin build up and my erection was kinda puffy and the skin was tighter than normal. Next couple of days my penis was a little sore but night boners were like an iron bar. After 31 days it was another 6 days before I started to feel like a sexual animal again, and that's when I jerked off. I was surprised I waited so long. First orgasm after 37 days was underwhelming and a little painful. Post orgasmic sadness lasted for 3 or 4 days, felt a little depressed. Porn soon came back into my life, as did masturbation, but I didn't feel like orgasm was such a treasure any more. What has been your experience of, say, the first few months of being locked in a cage and denied orgasms and/or erections?
I don't get post-O sads after sex, but I do get the sads a few days later, usually just before my brain flips over to being 100% hers. It's gotta be the hormones. They usually last a day or less, and then I'm trippin' on the good hormones, and desperate to be just the best nicest most wonderful husband ever. Not a bad place to end up, but the sads do suck. 31 days? Nope. Never passed 2 weeks. And not complaining. (Please don't show her this thread.)
You description reads as though by you were using chastity to sap the joy out of your life? Just my general feeling and no offence intended, but given that, I don't see any reason to push past three weeks.
I'm sorry to gave given that impression. Nothing can be further from the truth. It's everything I wanted and more. What's your experience?
I tend to prefer burst type play, whereby at some some point the sexual turn on is satisfied. For me, that can be a few days, a week, 24 hours. I'm not personally a fan of timed challenge lockups. At this point 2 weeks is about as far as I have gone, and care to go. I'm locked all of the time, my my KH and fiance makes the decisions regarding it. We are both quite active and have a crazy chemistry, so it plays in more with an eventual sexual experience. A drawn out foreplay, I guess. I don't have a problem with those that do prefer longer lock ups, so it's cool. But the way it was written it basically says you went from massively turned on, to sad. I have all of the reason in the world to be sad, so I tend to not want to poke that particular bear. The elements at play, simply just don't suit me. Thanks for taking a sec to clarify. I do know you only described the series of events, and never try to challenge anyone's idea so much as understand it. M
My stages: Orgasm About 2-3 days later I start getting that horny feeling. About 10 days starts the active fantasy and dreams taking a more erotic tone phase. At this point my mind is preoccupied with everything sexual. I look at porn for small periods but obviously I don’t get the usual ending so eventually give up. This is probably the sweet spot up to day 30 or so. After the first month, the tide turns, and I’m not nearly as horny all the time. I’m just as horny just not all the time. It’s like a fast car that goes 0-60 very quickly instead of taking awhile or being constant. Then around the 2 month mark it starts over and constantly horny for a week or two then it goes back and the cycle repeats. The longer I go, the more I would rather wait until we can make it special. I’ve had a few long lock ups that ended rather plainly with a quick romp in the morning and felt somewhat let down. It felt great, but after all that time I wanted it to be an event and not just starting the cycle over.
I am deprived of orgasms since Mar 15. Very seldom unlocked for my Wife's pleasure only. Here is my experience: A few first weeks (4 - 6) are most difficult. Excitement increases, nocturnal erections are harder and harder and disturb my sleep. It is hard to stop thinking about sex. After a month or so: - horniness diminishes a bit, althought it waves, sometimes a little bit higher, sometimes lower. But in general is constant, high, but not as high as during first weeks. - nocturnal erections are either weaker or rarer. Not as problematic as at the beginning - craving for orgasm goes down very much. But craving for touching / stroking my cock and for full erection (out of the cage) is sometime overwhelming and very frustrating. My Wife allows me to get out of the cage sometimes (very seldom) and I think it even stimulates my desire afterwards. - premature ejaculation is what actually unables me to please my Wife with cock. Therefore my Wife almost lost any interest in PIV. (Of course I do not ejaculate, I have to stop on the edge i.e. after a few thrusts. - porn is not really appealing any more - licking my Wife is now the summit of my sexual activity, but sexuality migrates to new altenatives: pegging, cock sucking that stay fantasies so far.
Pretty much the same experience here. Although my interest in porn never reduces. Never really get sad. It takes quite a while before erections happen and ejaculating can be quite uncomfortable. Been in chastity off and on for 15 years. Usually locked 30-90 days but now we are aiming for Full Time chastity
Since being locked permanently for almost 3 years now. (November anniversary) I find about every couple months I’m so horny and frustrated for days. It will pass, and along I can go again with just carrying on life locked. The orgasm denial is tough at times, but I have learned that pleasuring my wife feels better for me now then a orgasm. The frustration is incredibly, and watching and listening to her cum is just as erotic as having a orgasm myself. I don’t think I could ever go back to self pleasure, it’s so much more enjoyable being horny and frustrated 24/7. And it keeps me focused on my wife’s needs and pleasure.
Most of all, I managed to abstain for 2 months and 4 days. This is my record, although I've only tried it three times. I know that I can do more because I get better and better at controlling myself every time. I even tried watching porn on Phim Sex Hay, but it was more interesting than exciting for me. The more you abstain, the better your imagination works, and you can create plots much better than those offered to you by the porn industry.