Spanking

afterwards she will tend to the redness with a cold flannel then normally a cuddle whilst I am thanking her for correcting me. I hate to feel the resentment it just happens.

 

@Her Boy well if you being spank for not doing what you telled to do then it best and try to do everthing that you telled to and then you wont get spank as much.

 

Thank Jemima, I can assure you it’s not intentional. I just slip up trying to remember everything I’m supposed to do to keep Miss happy. Being relatively new to FLR I can sometimes forget a chore!

 

Spur of the moment punishment is more of wtf has just happened but feel warm inside once is over
Being told its coming (say your out in public or get a text message) a whole different level of different emotions Anticipation the butterfly's in the tummy of knowing what's going to happen and its completely out of your control
The lump in the throat when you see the cane on the bed
Embarrassment as bottoms are pulled down and made to bend over
The rush of adrenaline as the first stroke hits
The sence of relief when it's over
Mixed in with my shame that i have let down my Mistress or broken one of her rules
Then there is the mixed feelings over the next week when I catch sight of the red welts in the mirror

 

well that ok then. cos after a bit you will get better at doing chores and then you wont get spank as much. i was paddle a lot more when i first was with Mistress.

 

We get in maintenance spankings when we can about once a week if we have the house to ourselves. Only just recently has my Wife pushed me into the “zen” zone, she would apparently quit too soon to get me there previously.
The last couple times, she would get me warmed up and then really start increasing swings mainly with the tawse.
I haven’t experienced anything really like it, my head got tingly, almost like I had been drinking a little, I was in a wonderful submissive headspace, each strike would sting but not severe at all even though I knew she was swinging harder and harder.

The canes I fear, those hurt, the heavier wood hurts deep, and the thin delrin stings so badly. She’s still fairly gentle with these.

Overall with these sessions, I love everything about them. I know they make my Wife feel her dominance which I enjoy, I get a nervous excitement leading up to the event, and while I do not enjoy pain at all, I know I need this to help keep my mindset correct while I’m a caged husband.
Afterwards once I’m ok to stand, she tells me to go look at her work, then she holds me on her chest for as long as I need.

I have not yet received a real and true punishment beating, and hope to not find out just how severe one of those would be!

 

My Mistress likes to use a riding crop. She punishes me like this when she's not happy with my behaviour. It doesn't happen very often.

While she's using the rising crop on my bottom I'm thinking about what I did wrong and how to improve, all the way through the punishment she interrogates me about my behaviour and I have to respond to her questions. Keeps me very focused on promising to do better.

Afterward she lets me cuddle her while the stinging subsides. I'm always naked, she's always dressed. During the cuddles I feel very submissive and very infatuated with her.

 

Well, I got myself an actual real spanking last night. It was supposed to be a maintenance one, and like an idiot I left one of the implements in the drawer that I hate. A large wooden spatula, I was talking to my Wife when I was grabbing the canes and the tawse, so I really don’t think I was doing anything intentionally, but damn did I pay for it like I did!
She warmed me up with light swats from the tawse and then asked why she was missing something, and I immediately thought…I’m dead. I was correct.
I will not make that mistake again. She said it was something small, but it’s still undermining her authority, making a decision for her. And she’s correct, I’m glad she called it out and corrected me. I really try to do all I can to stay submissive and let her lead.
I asked for a minute to catch my breath a few minutes into the spanking, and she sent me to the corner for my break for the first time in our now 4th year of using the cage and chastity. It was humiliating, she told me to tell her when I was ok to continue, and when I said I was ok, she said to come back to the bed and when I got back into position, she said “ok now we can start over from the beginning”
Up till last night I was questioning whether she’d have the backbone to give me a serious punishment if she felt I deserved it.
I don’t question this any more, at all!

I also feel this was something that needed to happen at some point, just as part of our role / dominance swap.

 

Some knobs are hard to turn to just the level that you want to ... especially when it's someone else who controls how far to turn the knob.

My wife, fortunately, has not taken up the strict corporal punishment as of yet. But she does know that it is full well within her range of options. I might enjoy a playful swat or two, but I'm not really into receiving pain. On the other hand, there are a few times where I really deserved a good lashing, and maybe it would do me good. So I'll respectfully accept it if/when it comes.

 

I try very hard to be quiet during spankings. Its difficult when Mistress uses some things like a hard wooden paddle and I am bare bottom. If they go on too long I do squirm and kick my legs a bit. I have been heard to whimper and squeal a bit too when they go long.

Some spankings are for reasons and I think about that during the paddling. Others are for task or Mistress/wife fun.

 

Wow how do you manage to keep your composure and silence during a spanking? I would be in a mess certainly.

 

Certainly not easy but complaining or whimpering too much just incurs more "redness on my bottom"

 

I have so much admiration for my partner. When I first suggested flr and chastity she was unsure but she has researched various topics and finding her feet. I am so grateful for that and I think she is starting to enjoy herself. At first she was quite worried and cautious about how hard she should spanking with a tawse or paddle. She said it didn't help that I seemed to enjoy it too much. Yesterday she did find the right level with a tawse which was bearable but painful enough for me to be a deterrent but not too hard for her where she felt the spanking went too far. I know she looks at some of the photos posted on this site and feel that the marks left are far too much. Hopefully in the next few weeks with the weekly maintenance spankings she has decided after reading this thread she will find that level where she doesn't feel bad and it is enough deterrent for me to maintain my respect . One thing I do know is that in and out of our flr she is great and I'm pleased to be with her.

 

Interesting, but I've never been spanked by the wife but I was beat regularly by my step father

 

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