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    While I've never really had this happen, especially not within my friend groups, have had it happen with co workers a few times. Generally I would try and be respectful of the woman and not join in the talk about it.

    Would I tell them if I was in an FLR, perhaps. Guess depends how close we are, and how much she has permitted me to drink that night.

    I certainly hope it will change, but perhaps is a long way off.
     
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    A handful of my colleagues are like this... And not even with alcohol added, they do it in the office. Fortunately the bulk of my colleagues are decent guys. The wronguns are definitely in the minority.
    I had to stop car sharing with one of them as he would just hate on women constantly for the whole trip... And it's a 40 minute drive. He had been through a bad divorce but that was a long time ago and he still holds some strong views.
     
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    I wish I could say I was a better man, but when this has happened, instead of stating my disagreement I think I've usually just turned quiet, laughed it off, changed the subject, etc. I'd like to think that if I heard something especially heinous I would say or do something. For the jokes that are typical of some of my friends I've simply avoided confrontation. However, in cases where 'boys are being boys' and making dick jokes, or putting down each others' size (though I haven't seen most of my friends' dicks, nor have they seen mine), if my wife is there she will always set the record straight, which I think is wonderful.

    Example:
    Someone at a restaurant or party: OMG, that thing is HUGE! [referring to a plate of food or something totally unrelated to the male organ]
    Me: That's what she said!
    Her, loudly and clearly so that everyone will hear: Well, nobody ever said that to you!

    So far I haven't, at least not directly. Many of our friends and family must know by now that I'm not well endowed, because of the comments and jokes that my wife often makes. That much probably gives some clues about my place in our relationship. I can remember the topic of chastity coming up in a conversation with my closest friend, and I sort wish I had seized the opportunity to discuss it further, partly because I was in chastity at the time and wasn't sure if or how he could know. Maybe he was in chastity too? He should be from what I've seen of him with women other than his wife.

    I think it should change and probably will. Perhaps not so quickly in our current, um, situation in the United States...
     
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    All of my friends know if mama is not happy no one is happy. My best friend knows everything...locked, diapered permanently, FLR, and cuckolded. He does not judge us and believes if that is what excites my Queen and I then more power to us.
     
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    I think the assumptions made in the question are interesting :)

    Not to say it doesn’t happen - I can’t even remember the last time a friend spoke in this way. Probably twenty years or so ago when I was in my early twenties.
     
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    Apologies I read the post incorrectly.

    ‘If’ conversation leads to crude remarks

    Basically I tend to find it is rare nowadays - maybe that’s just who I socialise with.
     
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    Actually since i have been in a FLR i have not gone out with just a group of male friends
     
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    I try to stay out of such conversations, since I'm wearing a cb6000s , with a pair of panties over it. I know I'm not a real man and should not talk like that. But yes it is boys being boys.
    No I would never tell anyone....but I know my wife has.
     
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    In 1993 I was in high school and I saw guys like this in the locker room in PE. They were not friends of mine. Back here in 2018 or even 2000... I have not seen this anywhere expect on TV.

    I saw someone in person a year ago so the N word at a subway. I think he was drunk.

    I guess I live a sheltered life. lol
     
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    As a general rule I don't read the stuff on cuckoldry or sissyfication. So if some guy(s) are being asses on those threads I probably have not seen them.

    I am not aware that have overlooked anyone behaving in that way on other threads..
    I will however attempt to be more vigilant in that regard in future.. we don't need that sort of thing on CM.

    I suggest one warning then out. No point in messing around.
     
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    When I was pure alpha and not smart, I was a Bro's bro. I had some nasty stuff happen to me and it started me down a twisted path tl;Dr but I can share with thoae that want to know. (#metoo)

    To fix me a little while a go I started reading feminist theory and books to understand more and to become a more authentic male.

    So the short answer is if it went dark IRL I would shut it down. I would let them finish their statements but I would ask them why they don't like women, because if they did they wouldn't act and talk like that.

    If they continued, I would start the alow distancing process.
     
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    Hi I am a bit confused - are you asking the male members of the site to police it?
     
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    never have liked the way some guys talk about women.. for this reason slave believes all men should be enslaved.
     
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    I wouldn’t go so far as to say All Males should be enslaved or Locked but a lot of men need to learn about Respect. It is sad how some people treat their wives this isn’t as big of a problem with the men here that are locked and committed to serve but it still exists. Yes the world would be a better place if everyone respected and excepted each other as they are.

    A world we’re every man is locked in Chastity? That would be Very Very different. I think I’m to old to see that happen but their is always a chance.
     
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    Dear Lucy,

    While I do think there are many examples of men not being defensive against misogyny here in this site, I also think the vast majority of males here are here because they are timid to a degree, or submissive, or just happy to let women take the lead. Because of that, as noted above, many oppose that kind of discussion, and aren't even involved with others who would be so Thicke headed ( :p ). Those men that really cut into women to discuss them as objects or pieces of meat aren't going to admit that, certainly not here where they pose as submissive or chastised.

    But I would like to delve into this a bit deeper. What is to be said of women who denigrate other women? What is to be said of the stripper who makes her living selling her sexuality as a visual stimulus? Taking full advantage of the known ways of men? Are they any better? And to that end, I don't think it will ever get better, until you have selected a proper group of friends, and shut out as many pigs as possible.
     
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    I would like to note this post in the FLR section was directed at males.
    I digress.
    It may be that biologically what you are pointing to is innate. It cannot be helped. Further, by trying to make conformity happen, we as a humans are failing miserably. By denying our sexual needs and not allowing them daylight, they are categorized as private, then depraved or predatory. I truly believe there are far too many whose minds are not caught up with the rest of evolution, and in making all things sex taboo we actually have enabled the sickest or most ignorant some sort of gray area to our attention. I also believe this may be implemented upon humanity by the patriarchy, or otherwise, to stifle human mental growth and keep a unified front amongst biological sexes from happening in the face of tyrannical governments and oligarchs. Never underestimate the power of greed or the need to keep it.
     
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    I haven’t been on CM long... but to be honest I don’t think I’m staying. I have a devoted and submissive relationship with my girlfriend. However although I do respect women and to that matter all people that I meet - I am a positive person who likes to think the best in everyone. I am ONLY submissive to my GF. This site appears to only be interested in men being submissive to ALL women. That’s NOT what chastity is about. chastity is about trust and giving your most intimate parts of yourself to one person. Not to all women. I find it very interesting that there seems to be very few gay Men couples in here. This just seems a site for Domme women that want all men to honour and obey them. Good luck to all. Be happy and yourself
     
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    Incorrect. I don't want all men to submit to me, I would like them to act like gentlemen though and not talk about women in degrading ways while here. I don't think that's a lot to ask.
     
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    There was a quote elsewhere that stated ...

    Men want the Victoria's Secret model with larger breasts.

    Women are ok with the dad bod but just want respect.

    I thought how succinct for 2018 .....

    If a guy showed the courage to act vulnerable and have empathy, he would realize a women needs safety and security to be able to fully let go. Some women deeply prefer love also and that is ok too.

    When he with or without Chastity understands that when a woman has this "and" has respect she will want to enthusiastically consent and more then likelu consent "a lot".

    I had a cheesy line ... After my shit storm I needed trust to go through with things. So I would go down first and attempt to get her off first and that would unnerve some Midwestern women.

    You first don't worry about me. I am doing this for us ... U smile I win and if you are happy then please return the favor.

     
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    Yes. Sadly, I suspect there will always be men that look at women that way. Take the current US President for example........
     
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    I’m sorry to here that your upset. I’m also in a submissive relationship with my Lovely Mistress. She is the one I serve and No other. Not everyone here wants to serve every women. I have commented on different occasions that If I Could I would serve an other Lady But that’s not possible. Sorry if I was one of the people that miss lead you.

    Live your life how you want. What others think isn’t important. All that’s important is the one you serve Take Care.
     
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    It's the very least you could expect from any man......alpha, beta or otherwise.
     
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