So You Want A Keyholder To Keep You Locked

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  1. Mistress Jules
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    Excellent idea, let’s just check a few minor details first before we send you into the big wide world of Keyholders.

    Do you have a device? If not, then you are looking for a Mistress rather than a Keyholder and they are two different animals.

    What is the longest you have continuously worn your device? If you are asking someone to hold your keys, you should at least be able to wear a device for a couple of days. Ain’t nobody got time for that constant whining that you need unlocked.

    Do you expect anything else whilst you are locked? Don’t expect the person holding your keys to be spending their time teasing you every five minutes just because wearing a cage makes you feel horny. Whether it is a partner, friend, lover or professional, they will not have planned to tease you mercilessly for the duration. Ain’t nobody got time for that constant teasing.

    Have you made sure that you are not going to be in any situations where being locked could cause problems. Small children climbing in your lap, asking what the hard bit is, climbing up and down ladders, house guests?

    How do you propose thanking your Keyholder for this privilege? If you are using the services of a professional then the terms will have been set. If you have asked your partner, then I am sure they would appreciate some recognition of their efforts not to kill you when you start sniffing around like a dog in heat. By that I mean some non sexual recognition like flowers or chocolates, gin etc. No doubt you will already have offered many sexual acts whilst in your locked state. This should be something personal for the lady concerned.

    Once you have gone through this list and made sure you understand just what is most likely to happen, then you are good to go. I wouldn’t want you going out into the world of Keyholders thinking we had nothing more to do than spend time teasing locked boys without being appreciated.

    Ain’t nobody got time for that.
     
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    Just finding someone in real life who even knows what it is, would be a start :(
     
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    I can vouch for the situational awareness pointer.
    I hadn't really considered the true implications of not being able to remove the thing at my own convenience.
    It pays to plan ahead if you've any say on the duration.
     
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    again, excellent advice. Common sense, but so many of us on here lack that commodity...
     
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    I do hope you consider all these things before you ask your partner to hold your key.
    If you haven't thought of the above, then who are you doing this for. If it is for yourself than
    you will never understand the real meaning. You give up whining rights when you give up your
    key. She is #1.
    You don't become her life, you become someone that loves and cherishes her. She should become
    your lifes work to please Her. Think before you leap, it could be a long fall.

    This advice should be listened to, it is from someone that has seen it all.
     
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    Joroincharge Lock em up - 24/7/365!!

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    I would endorse this 100%, I am not myself looking to be a key holder or Mistress to anyone here for the foreseeable future, But if I were, or ever may be in the future (who knows?) this is EXACTLY what my standpoint would be.
     
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    Great common sense as usual from @Mistress Jules !
     
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    Great posting, but from experience I would like to add 2 more points:
    1. Be realistic in your expectations.
    2. Be true about your expectations - to your potential keyholder or mistress as well as to yourself. It will not help anyone if you look for one thing, but in reality want another or realize at a later point that you want something different / more than was agreed to before...
     
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    I love this whole thread. Thank you all for your inputs.
     
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    Great advice @MistressJules, but...

    ...my KH is more partial to Tequila!

    Festen
     
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    @Astarte ,

    Good points, especially 2. I'd only add that, dependent on the KH, you should also discuss their expectations. After getting some great advice, we had a long discussion after we started chastity and determined we both had expectations, and have been working to mesh both of ours together.

    Festen
     
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    Strangely enough i am asked to be a keyholder more often than i like. (and: no, don't try it, because i am meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeean because of being locked myself) :p
    But this really is a nice "starter-kit", wich should be read before asking (someone else but me)!
     
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