We all go through it.. and try different sizes of cages, rings and such. I found the smaller cage worked perfect for me. The erections at night are fewer and normally just a piss away for relief. I eased into the 24/7 with my wife, the all day wear first for the first 4 or 5 days (just during the day off at night) and then when I was wearing it 7 days a week except at night I didn't even know I was wearing it most of the time. Then went one night, then skipped a day or two. then two nights, after that it did feel strange when I didn't have it on. So now it's 24/7 and off for cleaning, or when wife wants to use it.. so relax go at YOUR / KHs pace! If this is your life style it works out!