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  1. WendySlaaf
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    WendySlaaf Mistress Wendy's cuckold

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    Hi. We are a d/s couple and we like to do denial periods.

    We have discussed many times that as much as my mistress deny me, she is denied also cause we cant fuck.

    The thing of playing with toys, licking,...is difficult for her casue she feels to release me and fuck like a crazy.

    We have considered cuckolding as logical step, but her principles are too strong for it. She thinks she would feel guilty, even we both fantasize of it.
    But we both know one thing is fantasy, and a diferent thing is reality,...

    Has anyone lived such dilema? If yes, how did you solved? Did you finally go to cuckolding, did you find the way with any kind of toy,....

    We are a bit lost in this point.
     
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    Yes, we have this dilema, and no, we haven't solved it. Ms Tinks uses me most nights and mornings, but if I cum I am serverly cropped.
     
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    wendy, many couples think, initially, that cuckolding may cause feelings of guilt. And while cuckolding is clearly not for everyone, there are many couples who do try it and realize that it's right for them and wish they had done it sooner. Sometimes, the Mistress discovers she likes it far more than her subby. You can imagine how it makes a subby feel when Mistress is being truly satisfied by all the men she meets. The only real difficulty that occurs is a loss of spontaneity - Mistress will have to plan her dates. Maybe you can help her with that - keep her date calendar for her.

    What you need to do is assure Mistress that it is her choice. Once she knows that you truly accept and want to be cuckolded, there shouldn't be any guilt - just sheer sexual pleasure for her while you remain nicely chaste (and femmed).
     
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    chastityslavejohn Mistress Irianna's pet

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    for a non-cucking option try using a strap-on on Her. i particularly like the gag strap-on so Mistress can fuck your face. there's also orajel and multiple condoms on your cock so Mistress can ride you hard but you can't feel a thing.
     
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    Yes. That would be cool. But how can you manage being fucking with your goddess and not cumming, after a time denied? Do you use any pil or something to stand long?
    If u say, you havent solved, you mean both of you are in the cuckolding fantasy also?
    :)
     
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    If cuckolding isn’t an option for you, perhaps a good strap-on would be a good idea the doc Johnson Vac-U-lock is a good all round product. It can be difficult denying pleasure for your sub whilst trying to get pleasure yourself.
     
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    My own advice would be a combination of plain and strap-on sex. Use can use your own equipment, there's no rule saying you have to cum when you fuck somebody, and you can use the strap-on kind when you don't have the staying power.

    Oh... You could also let your mistress fuck you, i.e. use a strapon to take your behind - buy her a double-sided one and it might let her fuck like crazy while keeping you locked up :)
     
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    my Mistress and i are in agreement that cucking is not for U/us. satisfying Mistress with no relief for me is just part of the BDSM and chastity lifestyle. i exist to provide pleasure for Mistress...period. Mistress always comes first. i only get to come if it pleases Mistress...not because it pleases me.
     
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    Another thing to consider is penis extension sleeve. Similar to strapon but a little different. Like this one? http://www.lovehoney.co.uk/product.cfm?p=4656.

    I believe if you are very aroused you could feel frictions but I guess it would be quite difficult to cum. I'm getting one anyway!
     
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    In my opinion, cuckolding is logic consequence of a) male chastity an b) male submission. As long as a relationship is more a kind of equal partnership than some kind of female led relationship concerning the everyday life, the feelings of guilt will remain. If your wife understands herself as your Mistress even in everyday life situations, cuckolding her slave will not be called in question.

    I think it is you who plays the crucial role in this game: If you point out to your Goddess that it is your true wish to live under her command, she will feel that freedom that is necessary to fuck with other men while you stay in chastity. But beware... once done, there is no way back to an equal partnership.
     
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    everyone is entitled to their own opinion, and certainly there are a wide range of practices discussed here at the Mansion.

    here's how it works for U/us. i am completely submissive to Mistress. i am Her slave in every way, including orgasm control. W/we agreed a long time ago that neither O/one of U/us has any interest in other men...but threesomes with another Woman is very hot (and W/we've done it, check out my journal).

    Mistress has orgasms whenever She wants. i enjoy worshipping Her pussy more than i do my own orgasms. when Mistress wants a good hard fucking She releases Her cock (if it is locked) and W/we fuck away. Mistress is very horny so chaste periods are seldom more than a few days except when She has Her period.
     
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    You aren't alone, my wife and I fall into this practice as well. We can't do the things we always would like to because she likes to be fucked when she cums although the last time we were together she had me use the wand, my tounge, and a vibrator anally (first time for this combo) and I don't think we'll be fucking AS MUCH in scenarios.

    Find what works for you guys, that's part of the fun, the experimentation.

    Cuckolding is not for us, it's something that neither one of us are interested in. I like it from a fantasy standpoint of, not our life fantasy, but more of a pornographic fantasy. The thought of someone else with my wife that I don't get to participate in is not something I want to do, ever. It'd libel to end up VERY bad. Then again I am not into that style of humiliation/degradation at all. To each their own however.
     
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    Wendy I don't know how much of my blogs you have read here at The Mansion, and I have been out of the loop for a while, but we have had the EXACT same problems as you.

    We have dabbled in cuckolding (ish!) twice, and I really don't think that it's a good solution for us at this moment in time.

    There is no wrong or right, Mistress gets what Mistress wants... and if Mistress wants fucking, so be it!

    Ruined orgasms are a good way to go. Although pet and I aren't fully back into the D/s swing, we had sex the other morning and I ruined it for him. Just as he was about to cum, I stopped moving, looked straight at him, twisted my hips and .... well, he was pretty annoyed. It makes him quite docile afterwards too.

    We tried the numbing spray with hilarious consequences, only use it once you have an erection! (Duh, read the instructions lol)

    It's one of those things we all seem to be working on, so let us know if you find the holy grail!
     
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    well i am not as bad as you my wife keeps me lock up cause most time she does not care if we have sex or not,,,she will use me to use toys on her and to perform oral on her.once in while she will grant me release to be used

    strap on does sound good im sure your wife would love that more then anything

    my wife does not like big things up there even the toys we get has to be soft jelly type 6 inches or less and no more then 1 12. wide
     
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    We've pretty much addressed this in two ways, both of which my wife finds acceptable and fulfilling, not just because of sex but also because of the intimacy she feels. The first is a strap on belt that actually is designed to go around a chaste cock (cb-X device) with a nice vacu-lock penis. Works great, very easy - no release. The second integrates more intense teasing and involves taking me out, putting de-sensitizing lotion followed by a thick sheath which numbs me enough where I cannot cum no matter how long I've been in. Both work - both are erotic and terribly frustrating for me while giving her a sense of normal, sensual sex that she craves sometimes. Bound
     
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    hmmm, i don't think i would stay hard if i was numbed and in a condom...i think i'd just lose it.
     
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    John we have done this. i am 53 years old and can stay hard for quite some time this way. The best part is after removing the condom and a little teasing is i can get hard again. We can then have intercourse again like 10 minutes later bareback sometimes i can orgasm then but most times not.

    i realize for any younger folks here having sex twice in one night is not a big deal. i felt the same way until my mid to late forties but since then it's been once a night until we discovered this. When we do this my body runs out of gas before my penis.

    rachel
     
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    well being a younger folk, I can say that 2x in 2 days I don't always finish. so you are one up on me.
     
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    ok rachel, i have a few years on you. i can still do twice a night once and a while. i'm still staying away from numbing...don't think Mistress is interested anyway.
     
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    like most i am in my 50s and only when i was teenager did i have sex twice in night
    in my 50s before lock in my cb i was lucky if i had it 2 times if week

    now when lock in my cb i am lucky to have it once in months or should say around 3 times a year

    my mistress keeps me uncontrol good and demands alot of attention by my mouth and toys then my penis

    slave boy tj
     
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