Hello! I come to you looking for some advice. First, some background: I am currently living with my girlfriend of almost 5 years and we're a fairly happy vanillia couple. I've always been interested in Chastity/orgasm denial, but have left it be a fantasy. Last year I had "the talk" with her and tried a couple cages. She was willing to play along but she definitely didn't see the appeal of it for her. unfortunately I ran into... anatomical issues with all 4 cages I tried (ht knockoff, cheap amazon cage, cb6000s, and a ht nub knockoff), mainly related to my penis turtleing out. So long (or really even short) term chastity hasn't really been possible... but here I am, wanting to give it another go. The reason I'm reaching out here is more related to my conflicted thoughts on this. I masturbate ~2 times daily, and it completely destroys my ability to perform sexually with her and I've also noticed that I become less agreeable/more argumentative and less affectionate/romantic (a big complaint of hers) when i've recently had an Orgasm. On one hand, my (and definitely her) sex life would substantially improve if I could kick the habit. I've tried using willpower to quit but I can never seem to go more than a few days without doing it. The hope is I could re-introduce chastity and use that to solve my masturbation problem. On the other hand I am terrified to hand over that kind of control to someone else, and also of being in a submissive role, even if just in certain areas. In general I hate being ordered to do things or be told what to do. Not sure If i expect this to help with that, but I definitely would like to be a more submissive and agreeable partner. (For her sake) Im just feeling quite conflicted about it, i've been lurking on these forums and have learned quite a bit about chastity and flr's but I still feel uneasy about it. Any advice on how to move forward would be appreciated. Would love to hear from people who are "on the other side" and have embraced this. Thank you!