Sites to ease girlfriend into keyholding

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    my girlfriend and I are starting keyholding. After two devices I found one that's gonna fit. She says the picture quotes I have sent her make sense and she's excited but wants to do some more research. Is there any articals that you can recomend she read? Had been locked for a couple days at a time and she's glad she doesn't have to do any extra work i.e. Pay more attention to my cock
     
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    When we started 3 years ago I bought my mistress a book simply titled "Male Chastity" authored by Lucy Fairbourne, I bought it on Amazon. It's pretty basic and is a decent beginners guide. This site is a wealth of knowledge and has a lot of great women who could help your girlfriend out if she were to join the Mansion. She would be able to privately message with other female members for tips and advice. It's easy to make friends here there are a lot of great people on this forum.
     
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    Yes I'd have thought this was the perfect place. Our female members are wonderfully supportive and knowledgeable
     
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    Sarah Jameson has some good publications too.
    I will say this.
    Aesthetics are important and to be frank I think of more importance to your lady than you.
    Comfort is your concern alone whilst wearability is a practical concern for you to share.
    She wont want you wearing something that looks hideous and you wont wear something for long if it hurts or annoys all the time.

    I can assure you though even if you buy the perfect look size and fit etc the first time you will be looking at and for another sooner or later. You by then have a better idea of what you want though.
     
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    I am not sure how old she is, but my kh is in her mid thirties. Computers and google are not new to her, and a few seconds after I had tried to tell her about being submissive and wearing a device for her to control...she had already looked it up and did a zillion searches.

    You may have to reassure her of some things. Mine had questions.

    1. Do I feel guilty about something that I want to lock it up and not be able to touch it? Do I hate myself for something. Answer...no I don’t.

    2. Do I hate my genitals and wish they were gone, or want them to be female. Answer...no I don’t hate my penis, but I do have some feminine feelings that I struggle with expressing.

    3. Are you gay? Answer, no. Although I do find attractive men, attractive, I have never felt the slightest interest in being intimate with a male. Sexually it wouldn’t bother me I don’t think, but thoughts of kissing or holding hands makes me feel very uncomfortable.

    4. Were you attracted to me because you thought I was bossy or dominant? No, I was attracted to you because I thought your kind demeanor would allow me to express myself.

    5. Do you need this to feel attracted to me? Am I something you have to work at being excited about? No, it’s simply extended fore play that keeps me in a constant state that I find euphoric. I desperately want you, and could never refuse your touch. I love not having any control in the matter, I love no matter what I do it’s right because it’s what you want, I love being someone that pleases, and I love the freedom of giving those decisions to you.

    She did more research on the Internet, and must have found what she was looking for. We also talked about it more and more the longer we did this. The nice part is that there is such a large spectrum of people doing this for so many reasons, she new enough to start and find out where she wanted to take this.

    She is a all or nothing kind of person. If she was going to be my kh, it was going to stay on and our roles would change. None of this “locking up for the weekend” or telling her what to do...either she was doing this all the way, or I could have the key back. I ended up giving her the other key as well.

    I’m rambling now, anyway, I am certain if she has access to a computer or the internet, she has looked all of this up and has found a lot. The next step is to ask her if she has any questions, or if you would like to take an easier path, look for blogs that have the very kind of keyholder relationship you find perfect, and tell her to read their blog. That this is something you aspire to achieve one day. Books and reference material may work for some, but I have read many times how they have gotten these materials and they went unread or ignored. They don’t particularly want homework, and it seems just like that.

    Good luck, I am sure she has found stuff on the internet already, I suggest u point her in a direction that describes how you feel, and not the huge information stockpile on chastity online.
     
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    Avoid Tumblr at all costs. There are some good chastity blogs on there, but on the whole it is full of fantasy fuelled nonsense that will likely put her off for ever.
     
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    For more info, she has ordered a cage she likes and I agree that would be comfortable to wear as I've tried a few with great disappointment. I have found a few, 10 at the most posts on tumblr that could express what the truth about chastity is and she said it helped her when I sent it to her. Her first fear was that this was something that now I'm wearing it, she has to pay extra attention to my cock until she realized nope! She loves the extra shivers I get when she just "brushes" her hand against me
     
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    There are alot of chastity blogs out there but one I have always liked is this one.
    https://vanillaedge.wordpress.com/

    Tom keeps things grounded and doesnt delve too much into the fantasy and BDSM of chastity. Its good reading if you want to stay away from the fringe areas of chastity.
     
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    I find this portal very useful to make clear the dynamics of MC to the KH. But of course every person is different: yours will be the best judgement.
    http://malechastitydevices.com.au/
     
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    Thanks for the shoutout. And yes, I've tried to keep it grounded even before I started blogging - the chastity/denial kink can be very vanilla-oriented, but it's often connected with a lot of kinks that would turn off vanilla women.

    Although she's been MIA for a few years, I think that Sarah Jameson's book "Be Careful What You Wish For" has a really good approach, and explains things well for the non-kinky people. She very carefully explains in everyday terms why some men enjoy this, and what she and her husband get from it. The site is down, but you can probably find PDFs of her book floating around online.

    BTW, during April every year I usually change my blog over to some kind of prank. Right now it's pokign fun at common femdom porn tropes that you see online (especially on Tumblr). If your wife visits, she'd have to go back to the earlier years.
     
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    Yea I can find that book unless I pay an extreme amount of money
     
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    Her site is like an abandon house falling apart. Can't order nor even recove the free ebook. I think it's gone for good. Sad, considering I heard such high praises for that book
     
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