I was thinking about this for those who are in chastity who puts the device on is the sub or the dom??
I put it on because My KH doesn't feeling like fidgeting with all the pieces of the CB6K. Usually she will tell me when to put it on but there have been times that she leaves me unlocked just to see if I will mess up. I will get frustrated from edging myself and then just force myself to lock up. I think that drives her nuts when I do it without her direct instruction. She doesn't even like to take it off of me. She will unlock it but thinks she is going to hurt me by pulling the cage off. I laugh and remove it for her. Then she sees how weird it looks from being all smashed in the tube and gets sad thinking that it is hurting me. its so cute but it really isn't hurting and I enjoy it! She is learning though.
She hands me th cage with the key to lock it back on, I hand her the key when done. She doesn't need to check me, but sometimes happens to be in the same room or area as me. Usually we are both getting up and ready, she hands me the cage and takes a shower, I put it on and hand her the key before I take mine. She is always the one taking it off though.
When we first started down chastity road my wife would attempt to lock my cage on but she would get loose skin pinched to the point that I would be bleeding. Afterwards she just tells me to get myself locked up and then she will check to make sure things are all locked up nice and tight. Fast forward to the present and her comfort level has vastly improved she will do the locking, but only when I'm restrained after a tease and denial playtime, she knows she can take her time to get it right. For the most part She will just tell me she wants me locked, so I just go and lock up. As for when she wants to take it off, she has no problem with that. lol
Lol, Im guessing that when the new Queens Keep gets here next week things will change. After the trial period for me to make sure I have a good fit and don't need to send it back for alterations she will probably feel more comfortable with it. At least taking it off. Still not sure if she will explode one of my balls trying to get them in the ring. Her nic name around here is Patience sometimes.....for obvious reasons! If you read this sweetie, I mean it with all the love in the world!!
I’m just awful at getting it on him and it results in me trying to jam it onto his growing penis. So It’s best if he does it himself on his own after he’s calmed down.
It's going to be even trickier with the new device. It has the integrated Prince Albert prong so unless she wants to fiddle with putting that through my penis and then attaching the cage, it will always be me putting it on. Although it looks like it will not be coming off all that often.
I can only speak for myself but it seems any correctly fitting ball-trap chastity device is pretty difficult for someone else to install. Getting the balls and then penis through the base ring requires a degree of stretching and contortion. I can feel how things need to go but she sure can't. As mentioned in other posts, if the wife/GF is assisting, it's likely that things start growing and that just makes it harder (pun intended) I can get my MM Jaibird on in under 30 seconds if I am relaxed and not cold... My wife just says "Go put on your cage" or something like that. I put it on myself and then come to her to close the lock most of the time. She usually click's the lock closed and then kisses me while tugging on it or cupping my balls. It's a nice little ritual and very quick.
I put it on, less chance of it nipping. I have a CB6k so there are plenty of opportunities for nipping. She tends to click the lock.
You are assuming that chastity is part of D/s play. In our house it is not. My wife controls my orgasm but she is the naturally submissive one and I am an alpha male to an extent that I do not play well with others unless I am in charge. My wife never put my Jailbird on me. I had her once close the lock. After that, I promised to always be locked unless she gave me permission to unlock because she does not have a dominant personality, but is getting better over the years when it comes to sex at least. I started off with the CB6000 and I had trouble getting it on. My wife is not too dexterous and to tell the truth, I would not trust her to put it on since there can be pinching and other pain inducing things in putting it on. Plus she was finding being a keyholder to be a chore so I am locked up until she says to unlock. I have an orgasm when she gives me one. That is pretty much it. The lazy keyholder's guide to chastity.
My wife usually locks and unlocks it but I put it on. I have a heckuva time getting the ring on so I leave it on and only remove the cage part. This is a jailbird type cage.
I lock myself up and hand her the key. Than it's totally in her control when I get unlocked again. Sometimes it's days or weeks. She just unlocks her property when she wants to play with it when she is finished playing than I lock her jewelry box back up till next time.
I put it on myself and then hand her the keys. She'll wait until I leave for work or have a shower and then put the keys in her hiding spot.
This is the same with my KH. Shes always worried that somehow it's hurting me even when I say I'm fine. She cringes when I put on/take off. When she sees the Streching and tugging and squishing going on. She thinks it's painful. So I guess ultimately I am the one who takes it off and puts it on...
Most always put on and take off the cage by myself. Sometimes she will participate in locking or unlocking though, as a symbolic gesture as to who is in charge. Don't think most KH's are capable of putting a ball trap on their guy without causing some real hurt. It's a very particular process.