Should threads about manipulating women be banned?

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  1. L-u-c-y
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    #1 L-u-c-y, Sep 3, 2017
    I've lost count of how many threads I have seen about trying to manipulate a woman into "liking" chastity.

    Often there are comments like "Give her incentives, let her see what she likes", it's like you are talking about training a dog!

    I think we have had enough of these threads and they should be banned.

    Males are the dogs that need to be trained! You need muzzles put on your cocks to make you more useful to women.
     
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    #2 L-u-c-y, Sep 3, 2017
    MOST males who come here asking questions about manipulating their wives into trying chastity are gleefully rubbing their sweaty palms thinking of what a turn on it will be FOR THEM. They are not thinking about advantages for women.
     
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    #3 hubsub, Sep 3, 2017
    So, by that logic, let's consider the end game:

    1. Those (usually first) posts are banned
    2. Those men, frustrated and angry for not being able to ask their chastity questions on a chastity site, leave and never return
    3. They don't get exposed to ideas and conversations that might lead them to a more enlightened approach
    4. They never manage to get their wives/gfs into chastity, and so they never join the site
    5. CM membership stagnates
    6. People start posting "why isn't anyone into chastity anymore?"
    ;)

    Maybe instead of banning questions, a better approach (especially as a moderator) would be to have a couple of pinned "how to" threads answering these common (if misguided) questions and help redirect these people to a more "acceptable" form of chastity?

    Or is this site truly intended as an elite club for only "Goddesses" and grovelling men who already see themselves as the disgusting creatures the Goddess made them as? "No others need apply"? I suppose I missed that sign.
     
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    #4 L-u-c-y, Sep 3, 2017
    That would be an improvement on a boys club for males to talk about how their penis is the centre of their lives :)
     
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    #5 L-u-c-y, Sep 3, 2017
    I don't think they will ever learn, they will try chastity and realise it's not going to give them the instant kicks they want, then move onto another fetish.
     
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    #6 tomf_22033, Sep 3, 2017
    As someone who has "corrupted" several women into the wonderful world of kinky lifestyles I hate the use of the word manupilate. Likewise I don't like it when others use that mindset. So to me there is a big difference between introducing someone to something and gently helping then along vs manupliating which I see as doing via more sinister means. And usually the later fails!

    So, when I've seen the threads which you elude to, I try to point this out and offer the authors a different view perspective. One that works and benefits everyone.

    Usually others who have similar views chime in and the threads seem to shift to practical means to introduce a partner, not how to manipulate them. So while the appearance of such threads is bad, banning them IMHO would only hurt us in the long run.
     
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    #7 L-u-c-y, Sep 3, 2017
    You are taking for granted that the 10% would leave the site.
     
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    #8 L-u-c-y, Sep 3, 2017
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    Or, by that logic, let's consider the end game:

    1. Those (usually first) posts are banned
    2. Those men, shocked and surprised that their post about trying to manipulate women has been banned, they then think more about the reasons why they are into it.
    3. They sit down and have a good look through others opinions and find out why manipulating women is not a good thing.
    4. They learn sensible ways of introducing their wives/gfs into chastity, and invite their wives to join the site.
    5. CM membership soars
    6. People start posting "chastity is really taking off!"
     
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    #9 L-u-c-y, Sep 3, 2017
    It's like The Prisoner village, once you're in there is no escape :)
     
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    #10 gyrator53, Sep 3, 2017
    As a general principle I'm against banning topics unless what is being discussed is actually illegal.

    As for manipulating people a great deal of human activity is about manipulating others (politics, marketing, health advice, etc, etc) so where would you stop banning stuff? In this case we are clearly discussing adults who should be able to look after themselves.
     
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    #11 demale, Sep 3, 2017
    Agree with gyrator. In the 'marketplace of ideas', anything should be up for discussion.
     
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    #12 softy, Sep 3, 2017
    Mistress Lucy -- I agree --- ban manipulation -- respect of fetish requirements of either gender is a choice ,
     
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    #13 tiemeupalso, Sep 3, 2017
    while we are at it lets ban any chat about the different cages and belts.
    after all that might be considered manipulating people into buying a certain brand.
    after reading some of your post,mistress lucy, i understand you hate men and think they are stupid,but you have to understand a lot of us are in here learn how to better serve our mistresses.
     
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    #15 paulie slave, Sep 3, 2017
    I do agree with what you are saying Mistress Lucy. My personal experience is living in a FLR for a long time and it is annoying to see these "How do I make my wife do x, y, z" posts but I suppose when I started out with chastity I would have been the same. Over time I've learned better, maybe what these posters need is just advice on how to communicate openly and also when they are hell bent on getting what they want, they need to be told what they are getting themselves into. The dynamic chastity creates is not a short term whips and chains fix which I think a lot of men starting out don't really get.

    In conclusion I think that these posts should not be banned but that we should take time to try to share the experience we have but also remember what we were like starting out and give them a little bit of slack, however if they are repeatedly disrespectful to women then yeah, I don't want to see them here either.
     
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    #16 L-u-c-y, Sep 3, 2017
    I certainly don't hate men or think they are stupid. I suggest you read things I have posted rather than reading other peoples views of me.

    https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?threads/matchmaking-for-a-slave.23185/
    https://www.chastitymansion.com/forums/index.php?threads/one-year-in-chastity.19446/
     
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    #17 cuckoldalice, Sep 3, 2017
    LMAO@ banning manipulation.

    No more human interaction.
     
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    #18 L-u-c-y, Sep 3, 2017
    Not banning manipulation, just banning manipulation by men who say they are submissive.

    Manipulating males is fine :)
     
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    #19 Jasmic68, Sep 3, 2017
    I have a mental image of my penis wearing a muzzle, being taken for a walk and my penis barking at another muzzled penis being taken for a walk in the opposite direction.
     
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    #21 Shimone, Sep 3, 2017
    I won't deny that many of those questions have a bad taste and don't seem to have a solid background, but in this there is no difference to many other topics and postings.

    That said I think it quite legitimate to ask for help if you do not know how to communicate certain topics in your relationship. Calling that "manipulation" and asking for a ban while at the same time supporting "manipulation" when the recipient is different is simpy put bullshit and no way better than some obvious fake postings asking for 'help'.

    In fact it's even worse coming from a staff member and no zero-post guy....
     
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    #22 L-u-c-y, Sep 3, 2017
    Oh excuse me, I thought males in chastity want to be manipulated by women, am I wrong? I thought that was the whole point.
     
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    #23 kickball, Sep 3, 2017
    Definitely right, the older I get, the more I think all males should be locked. I am sure Men do endeavour to manipulate women into chastity. It must always be the Woman's choice and any manipulated message should be banned.
     
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    #24 Shimone, Sep 3, 2017
    Not the way the term was used by you !
     
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    #25 L-u-c-y, Sep 3, 2017
    Oh like a dog? I can't help but notice your avatar photo is a person on their knees with a collar and leash.
     
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