Sorry if this isn't the best place to ask this. My wife of 8 years and I have 3 young kids, and are frankly struggling. We love each other and are happy together, but our sex life has vanished since we had our last child. She's admitted to me that she's lost some of her confidence (which is normally high) and wants me to "pump her up", put her first, and take care of her on the day to day. She wanted me to research and "figure it out." This has led me to find female led relationships, and femdom all together. Which of course led me to chastity. For some reason I like the idea of her holding me key, and do believe it could benefit me in serving her. Sexually I'm turned on by the idea of her taking charge, but I actually think what she needs is to do less. That's why a gentle female led relationship might be right for us. I think my wife would take really well to being served outside of the bedroom, but I'm not sure I have the energy for it. I know I should just probably start serving her and treating her as my Goddess, but I don't know how any of the submissive men find that energy. I work full time and am an active father. I feel like I could be a good submissive to her, but without training or any direction with it, I'm afraid it would fizzle out with her being disappointed. I'm hoping some people here could possibly relate. I'm just fishing for some advice in how to explain this FLR dynamic to her. Should I explain it at all? Are there resources recommended we could look at together? I do see her as superior and am willing to place her needs above my own, it's just a little intimidating to get started. Thanks to anyone who read all this. I appreciate any help I can get.