She has a surprise for me

I would do as you are told, we all face this dilemma at some point I guess

 

If she wants you to have an orgasm it is because it is important to her. There is a feeling of closeness she may get from a shared orgasm. After a woman orgasms, she often wants the love making to continue. If she will allow it, snuggle and caress her and talk to her for a while after the sex. You will find this will also help you get back to that state of desiring her and that arousal. Just my thoughts on what works with us.

 

We just went though a similar situation, I finally beat my record of 28 days denied orgasm. As that 29th day approached, I simply texted my Queen that we’re at a crossroad, that I was in a great headspace. I said if we really want to keep pushing my boundaries, it may be time to ruin one, or just keep going.
I of course know any of this is up to her, and I know some may say this is still topping, but we’re still evolving our chastity lifestyle and I see nothing wrong with communicating how I’m feeling to her. I’m at 31 days and I have no clue when I may get a release, and if it’ll be a ruined or full orgasm or what.
She decides everything for our sex lives now and I’ll do whatever she desires.
Obviously your relationship may be different, but I don’t see how it could hurt to give her insight into your feelings and mind so she can decide with more info

 

Do as you're told

 

Who knows what the surprise is. Maybe it’s to tell you that she is enjoying you locked up so much that she now is glad that you asked her to give it a try and she has decided to keep the key

 

In our FLR, a "surprise" could range from having a punishment, a humiliation session, wearing a new feminine gift or some sort of sexual play. I would never know and I've learned not to ask - regardless of how much I anticipate and dream that it will be one thing or another.

If you are truly submissive, you will simply wait and be ready to do as told.

IMHO

 

As others have said, she's in charge, let her make the decisions.

That said, if the surprise is an orgasm and it takes you out of the headspace etc, then maybe loop back around with her and sit down and discuss it. But wait a few days or a week before discussing. There's a good chance she sees the change in your behavior better than you experience it. Most women are very perceptive.

 

Do as you're told, for two reasons. First, as you point out, you dont want to undermine her growing sense of control and her recognition that her orgasms dont require reciprocation. Second, despite your reset and your love for waking up throbbing (which I share!), it's up to her -- she may *want* you to go through reset so that you learn to appreciate your cage and the time she *permits* you to be erection-free.

 

You don't "tell" her.
You might explain what happens if you do and if you don't, but leave the decision to her.

Best to do it in a neutral time, when you're not "having a scene".

 

The best kind of surprise, lucky you!

 

Maybe her surprise is a smaller cage for you! Or permanent chastity!

 

Yes I know what your going through.

 

Do as she wishes, giving her confidence in her dominance.

 

How wonderful of her to tease you like that. Compliment her on f'ing with you head (so to speak).

A couple of people have said this, and it's something I've been learning, with great appreciation -- have the meta-talks *about* sex when you're well-removed from sexytime. Of course, "that feels good" or answering her questions in real time ("do you want me to ....?") are good in the moment. But general discussions ("I like to be denied orgasms for even longer, if it's all the same to you", or "do you think you could try tying me up now and then") are best when you *aren't* playing. They take you both out of the moment and the emotional exchange, into your heads, and might also seem critical or unappreciative: real mood killers.

 

If I had a sub I would require them to always beg me not to let them orgasm and punish them if they were not convincing enough.

 

. Hello I’m just trying to figure this site out. All I know is I think I posted pictures of my chastised penis all over site. Lol. Ok this is me just starting to calm done. I am definitely a grower. If I did not have the piercing it would just pop out. The chastity cage is from Amazon. I looked under ‘steel chastity cage’ it does get very tight when I’m fully erect. Especially around the balls. Hope I did not write to much. Seee ya

 

Last week I told mistress I shouldn't cum, she said that's my decision...and she made me cum lol.

She added, I hope you enjoyed that because it might be a very long time before you get another.

 

Nice I like it. I don’t expect to be let out any time soon.

 

this is great advice!

 

Perhaps after a scene and outside the bedroom is the time to suggest you would welcome longer periods of chastity, unless you have given her full control.

 

Let her decide whatever the surprises might be.. if she wants to cum.. so be it.. if she doesnt for the next few months… so be it too… her wish is your wish..