Sharing your chastity lifestyle

No one will get it
Think of how much explaining was needed for just your keyholder . Assuming it was your idea to implement

 

I'm sure there are some couple who are in circles of kinky folk, but I suspect the vast majority of us just sole couple or singles keeping their kinks to themselves.
That's why we have The Chastity Mansion to socialise with other like minded people.

 

I mentioned to a work colleague (female) today that my man's 'manhood' is locked in a cage. She struggled to comprehend it. That is putting it mildly, she just couldn't get her head around why my man is aroused by denial and how he gets off on being locked.

 

I think that would be standard response, how is that sexy? Unless the woman is already interested in being in charge.

 

We have mentioned it to friends who have a healthy diverse sex life and have been warmly embraced by it. Lots of questions. No conversions yet. But then again I would rather them find it for themselves.

 

Nobody knows of me being locked or in a FLM as most of our friends wouldn’t understand. She has stated she’d like to met other Dommes to loan me out to one day. Of course then other people would know.☺️

 

My best friend knows because he's got a doesn't really give a shit attitude and I tell him most things. Another friend knows because he's part of the friend circle of my ex from when I was a teenager and her and her friend circle saw my twitter after I was laughing at the fact that a guy whose twitter name is just "Dom" followed me and they just looked at who he was following. And they had comments on it.

And it's common knowledge along with the fact that I make porn in another online community meant for finding friends/relationships that is adults only as part of my public persona. Being open about this stuff instead of always remaining reserved really helped me get more people to talk with and find a couple of guys interested in me (one of which I have developed an interest back with).

Oh yeah and my recent ex was very open about telling people when she was my keyholder. Her family knew, some of her friends and coworkers. And in that small town lots of people got an implication about it. It was interesting, never really a problem.

 

A couple of friends, both my sons and my brother all know. We are regulars at a local adult club so it is well known there and I have been told to show her cage many times there.

 

Curious is a healthy thing.
Most of my family knows I'm into BDSM .. but family don't know I'm in a neosteel belt ... except my uncle.
but really many of my friends in the BDSM world in denmark know what i am for ..
If my KH .. will tell that she has a slave in a neosteel chastity belt where she has the key, it's OK with me ... it wouldn't scare me ...
We come to our local BDSM association and to parties where the belt is fully visible once in a while.
And I have more than once thrown the pants to show off my belt.
I look like that if some come and ask for some chastity .. then it is just to spread this kind of play ...

 

When my key holder first locked me up she loves wearing my key around her neck! Both her and her daughter immediately knew it was a chastity key! I turned red and tried to make some excuses like it was for my bike or something like that but they weren't buying it! I'm pretty sure she's showing off pictures of me that she has on her phone! Now who knows who does girls have told? I'm the one that introduced her to chastity so if I complain she just tells me I need own who I am!

 

No one knows as of yet ,but I think that is about to change. She has a girlfriend visiting the last of August . I have heard her tell her that she will show her when she is here how she keeps me in control . I have no problem with her friend knowing and it could led to a interesting weekend . No one in both are family's know and they would not understand

 

Only my closest friend knows. I wasn’t planning on ever telling him, but a conversation I had with him a few couple of years ago led in that direction. He knew my wife and I had a pretty difficult sex life up to about the time we started male chastity. I was visiting his house and he asked how things were in the bedroom since the last time I had visited complaining about things. I said pretty good. He looked surprised, since I always had negative comments about our bedroom life. He asked me how were things better than before. So, I told him.

He laughed a little bit and said “whatever floats your boat. Neither my wife nor I would ever want to do that”. And that was the end of it. We never discussed it again.

 

For me it's a chance to focus on her needs ,I've always been selfish ,wife had accepted I need this ,all men should wear device be a better world

 

First. I'm not qualified to give advice... So don't do anything that I say.

What a great bunch of responses. @luckyhubby83 nailed it right off the bat with "No one will get it" followed by the female perspective @GoddessG who mentioned it to a friend who "struggled to comprehend it" and countless others who are literally telling you that sharing information this personal and different is a bad idea.

I understand that you are excited, but this is a very personal thing that you are doing. Even though you are attempting to repress sexual feelings and do something positive, you are still... Talking about your penis to people... and that is usually unacceptable in public. Definietley NSFW. Definitely don't tell any co-workers.

I know you want to share this experience with people, but this subject is not an accepted practice and talking about your man parts and how you plan to stop ejaculating might make people feel uncomfortable.

Good luck.

 

Only Mistress Lux, who ordered me into chastity, knows about my chastity situation.

I really have no-one that I could tell that would understand, apart from my new friends in Chastity Mansion...

 

My wife has told several of her friends all about my small penis, in detail. And many more of our family and friends have heard her make jokes and comments about it. But she says she's not ready to tell any of her current friends about chastity.

I think one of my good friends knows or suspects I have been locked up, based on some of the vague comments he has made at times. But we haven't actually talked about it in the open. When my wife and I started with chastity I would never have considered sharing it with friends, but I am much more open to the idea now if it came up in the right situation.

 

I told once close female friend at work, she knew I was in to bdsm and was asking advice on play, and how limits ect, I mentioned bdsm can be a 24/7 thing, mentioned my cage, and she asked to see it so I showed her, she was fascinated and asked lots of questions.
Madam and I are quite open about our bdsm life style, she has told some of her friends about me being locked and her bull knows to.

 

Most of my friends are in the BDSM lifestyle and/or LGBTQ. So I’m open to sharing my kinks and poly pansexual experiences and challenges with them. That said, I only share appropriate things.

My doctors also are aware of my lifestyle.

Otherwise, I see no need to share my private life unless there’s a legitimate reason. So yes I’m open but on an as needed basis.

 

Other than my Wife, the only people whom I have shared with are my general practitioner doctor and my therapists (couples and individual)

I wish I could share with close friends but so far (3 years) I have not.

I do not wish to share with family

 

I agree,wife knows that's it for me

 

My wife of course knows as she locked me up. Mutual friends know as that couple brought it up to my wife. And it seems my 19yo daughter has been brought into the light & is being given information which could put her boyfriend in a cage. I’ve many times wanted to say something to other friends but the thought of their reactions always seem to stop me. If my wife tells someone I’m ok with it. She has also stated that it isn’t something she wants to talk much about. But I suspect she has told more than I’m pervie to. Her mother knows & she isn’t tight lipped.

 

I have thought of suggesting to my 25 year old daughter that she should consider locking her boyfriend but I would not actually want to cross that boundary

 

I think it would be amazing if your wife teaches your daughter to have FLRs.

 

I didn’t say I was opposed to such, just not sure how ready I am to explain any of it to my daughters. I have 5, 2 of which are over 18.