My wife told me today that she was researching sexting and nothing she found really helped. The articles she found were about what the man wanted her to wear or what he was going to do. She wanted something geared more to a guy who is locked up. Conversely she also found help articles that suggested to tell a man what she was going to do to him for instance on a date night. But our circumstance there is no guarantee of sexual encounters. Kids that refuse bed time, or unforseen illness, or just being run down. She wanted to sext but not have to actually back up what she messages. To keep our connection. I thought maybe task or something. Any thoughts or recommendations on sexting for man in Chastity?
She can create her own content that arouses her. Who cares what turns others on. She should send things she enjoys. And you must learn to reply with what excites her
But that's the catch. This all isn't her thing. At the end of the day she is doing this for me, but she knows it will benefit both of us, but she really doesn't know where to start. We had a pretty good conversation about it on our date night.
She's not a "send nudes" kind of woman and she doesn't want pictures of me. I thought she could send a picture of the key on her feet and tell me that her feet need pampering this evening. Or a picture of the key between her cleavage, teasing if I'll be lucky to get unlocked at some point this week. A sink full of dirty dishes, telling me these need to be taken care of asap. I usually clean the sink and kitchen when I get home. A picture of two pairs of panties asking me to pick one because I'll be wearing them while i fold laundry in the bedroom while she watches TV.
They all sound great ideas, as you said before just keep talking about it and let her know what it is your looking for, or even text her the type of things you like so she has something to build on.
As you're saying yourself if "it's not her thing" I would try to find something which is her thing. Everything else will likely feel akward es (for her). To me a huge turn on would be, of I feel that she knows she is in power and knows it. A good start could be that she is "informing" you what she wants when you two met again, for example: "I know, you're concentrating not thing about me and focus on work, but be home on time, my feet need treatment". I guess that this is an easier start for her and you can also help her, just by texting that you care about her and was just thinking if she would enjoy <put whatever she really enjoys here>. I think the key is to be sensitive about what she really enjoys not you getting your sexual phantasies satisfied Piet
That's really what I'm trying to do. She brought this up to me I didn't ask her about it. Good ideas though. Thank you
I sent her a screenshot of my last message with the ideas and it switched something on inside of her. She kept me in the bed room with a literal mountain of laundry, not only in a pair of lacey panties she picked out but a blue frilly nighty dress. I was not expecting that. When I finished the laundry she told me I wasnt getting unlocked and we sat on the couch and she had me rub her feet.
wife likes to text me a smiley face, means she has had an orgasm without me and of course i only orgasm with her permission...