Settling into the new normal

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    Hello everyone. I've been looking at this site for a while and have just joined as a member. I came across male chastity 18 months or so ago and it intrigued me. I've long since been interested in a submissive lifestyle and on many occasions tried to get my lovely wife to participate, but those attempts came to nothing.

    Chastity appealed because I saw it as a way of getting close to my wife again as her sexual interest dwindled. So I bought a cheap cage and broached the subject.

    That was met with what seems to be usual surprise, horrors, scepticism etc. I tried the ill fitting cage for a while which kept falling off and the attempt petered out.

    Move forward 9 months and another cheap cage and another attempt. This time a little less hostile reaction but soon some rubbing because of major gardening forced abandonment.

    Move forward another 3 months and cage number 3 appears to be bingo in the cage fit lottery. And a bit more of an accepting wife. One week confinement became 2 after me declining release. Week 2 then became week 3 after a dinner party left us too tired. And 3 soon became 4. Then some playtime after which she was annoyed I did not put it back ok immediately. An interesting and unexpected reaction.

    Then we started lock up number 2 which lasted 3 weeks before playtime again. When asked if she was enjoying it the surprising reply was yes and the default is now it should be worn all the time until she says so.

    In the meantime I've started a private tumblr blog where I post things that amuse me, things I'd like to try and things I'd find hard to do. I told my wife about it as a way we can communicate without the awkward situation of me seeming to top from the bottom. I did not think she would look at it, but at last playtime she gave me the option of locking up and playing again next week or Cumming and lock up for a month, which was one funny caption I'd posted to the blog. So wow! That was another interesting development.

    So now I'm at the end of week 1 of 4 and my wife is starting to refer to my predicament. Not as often as I'd like, but enough to feel like I'm a fish on the end of a line.

    So we'll keep the blog going and see where this leads. Exciting times.
     
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    Welcome to the site :)
     
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    Welcome to the site and we'll written experience.

    Wish you blossom more into it
     
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    welcome. Hope you both continue to enjoy the lifestyle.
     
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    Welcome to the community. I’m not default locked and spend more time unlocked, but my wife has taken the key for 5 weeks before. She never suggests it but will take the key if asked.

    Care to share a link to your tumblr?
     
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    Hi, thanks for the welcome. I'm afraid the blog needs to remain private so we can both post to it without worrying about revealing identities etc. I know some couples enjoy the tease of sharing their lives publically on a blog, but we're not there I'm afraid. In any case it is nothing really exciting. I reblog some of the funny captions I find amusing to give hints at what I'd like to happen and occasionally comment on something she had done or said as a way of providing feedback without the awkward face to face conversations that in my view would destroy the dynamic out the chastity game. It's all a bit experimental, like a game of Chinese whispers where you're not even sure if the other person is playing, but I guess that is part of the game. The purpose is to overcome her concern that she is somehow not doing it right. So far so good.
     
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    It's pretty clear she's doing it right. Welcome to the Mansion.
     
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    Welcome to the Mansion. Well you opened the door. You never know what is around the next corner.
    She may just run with it. I would say she is doing it right, but there is always the chance of a surprise
    you wouldn't expect. Good luck. Hope to see you around.:+1:
     
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    I LOVE a success story! Good for you!
     
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    Congratulations on your successes so far. Finding a cage that fits that you can wear long term as you have already found out, can take some time and research.

    Your in for a wild and exciting ride. Thanks for sharing and please continue with your adventures.
     
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    No problem glad you guys are enjoying the life!
     
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    Thanks everyone for the nice feedback.

    Ours is probably the 'test match' rather than the 'limited overs' version of the chastity game (my analogy is cricket for the non-British/uninterested of you). It would be nice to give an over by over or ball by ball account of all sorts of exciting escapades, but the reality is nothing much is likely to happen for long periods if time so I'll post when something of significance does. We are mostly still comatose before 10am, so I'm afraid I won't be recalling tales of multiple sex sessions before breakfast, and the only bull around here has his way with the cows in the neighbouring farm.

    Still, Saturday was interesting. My cage stayed on and we had a cuddle while my lovely wife tried to unscrew one of my nipples. I asked again if she was enjoying it and she replied with a resounding yes. She said she enjoyed having foot tickles whenever she wanted, she liked me no longer pestering her to stop doing crosswords in bed, she liked that I'm now offering more cups of tea during the daytime and she enjoys cuddles without the risk of being jumped on. She said these were all things she had wanted all along. So we were not going back. You'll notice that none of these things were anything to do with sex, which is fine with me because it all helps to bring us closer.

    We'll see how it develops. There is another 30 overs to get through before stumps!
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    Now I gotta research cricket lingo.

    At least for us, chastity lifestyle is only 1% of actual sex related interactions, mostly it’s the closeness and attentiveness that not being obligated to take things further brings.
     
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    Panda2010 There's a fine line between pleasure and pain

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    Maybe it will be an old fashioned timeless Test.
     
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