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    #1 GoddessB, Aug 16, 2019
    Hey!
    So my sub showed me this website a few times, showing me others stories and tonight i thought it was time i joined.

    me and my boyf have been together for less than a year, he is into domming and got me interested quickly. It started normal, being tied up, blind folded, etc. Then got freaky(in a good way) we was scrolling through amazon at toys and a cage popped up(maybe on purpose on his half) but one thing lead to another and we got it.
    Started with a few days and now turned into weeks.
    My partner is selfish in the bedroom and wanks everyday, so this seemed like a good idea, so the point is meant to be, when he is locked he pleasures me then finally when i let him out he will get pleasured but that doesn’t seem to be working, it will take him a good few days to pleasure me and because of his selfishness it’s not as exciting as i want, only a buzz of my wand.
    So i’m hoping this will start to work soon where he becomes less selfish and pleasures me like i want.

    I am a push over with it and will let him out after a few days to breathe but i think i need to become stricter as i’m obviously not getting what i want.

    Comments and advise welcome!!
    xxx
     
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    #2 Notouchy, Aug 17, 2019
    Evening GoddessB

    Welcome to the site. It’s a brilliant site and thank you to the people who look after site for us all. Ask away, connect and you will come across some great like minded people. For me with my wife who is the key holder and new to it, it’s great to get people’s opinions. Hopefully you will find this too
     
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    #3 Yelehiah, Aug 17, 2019
    Welcome to this amazing community. I hope both of you enjoy this site and get what you are looking for. Good luck!
     
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    #4 MissyB, Aug 17, 2019
    Welcome to our community. It does sound like he is still putting his needs first. But he did show you the site and I think it is likely finding the cage wasn't an accident either. If you can, take a little more control and see if he responds. Good luck.
     
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    #5 LesterBallard, Aug 17, 2019
    hello
     
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    #6 nathalia, Aug 17, 2019
    Welcome to CM!
    You will find that chastity is a powerful tool to train your bf. With a bit of imagination, strictness and perseverance he will only have your pleasure in his mind ;-)
     
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    #7 Disciplined Boyfriend, Aug 17, 2019
    Chastity can be many things and there's no right or wrong way to do it. But when us guys are caged we change. We become more affectionate, more submissive, and really eager to please our women - especially if there's a chance of an orgasm.

    If you want to be dominant, then learn the word "no" and lock him longer. Then sit back and watch the results as he becomes frustrated and more eager and keen to do things your way and then wait a bit longer to see what he'll agree to just to get out of the cage.
     
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    #8 madams-sissysub, Aug 17, 2019
    Hello goddess and welcome to the mansion!
     
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    #9 sissy_connie, Aug 17, 2019
    Welcome to the site and the world of chastity. I am certain that you will enjoy both. Look forward to updates.
     
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    #10 Idle Hands, Aug 17, 2019
    Welcome goddess

    I wish you and your boyfriend the best
     
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    #11 GoddessB, Aug 17, 2019
    Thank you all for your replies! He is getting better, let’s hope this last when he isn’t wearing it!
     
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    #12 Digital, Aug 18, 2019
    Welcome to the Mansion.

    If he is not giving you what you want you may need to spell it out.

    Set him a simple goal he must achieve before you unlock him. It sounds like you need him to make more effort to satisfy your needs so try and keep him locked until you see him improve. If he can survive a few days then it shouldn't hurt to push him a day or 2 longer.

    Feel free to guide and encourage him towards his goal. If he has a better understanding of what it is you want and enjoy he can become better at surprising you in future which should help you get the excitement you desire.
     
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    #13 latexbound, Aug 18, 2019
    Welcome to the Mansion
     
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    #14 sissysammie31, Aug 19, 2019
    welcome to chastity mansion and congratulations
     
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    #15 RhiannonT, Aug 19, 2019
    Hi, and welcome to the Mansion
     
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    #16 keptIII, Aug 19, 2019
    Welcome. you are in a good place to learn what works for others and hopefully take away from this the knowledge to help you grow along your journey.
     
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    #17 cagedjon, Aug 19, 2019
    Welcome, from a sub who used to live in Essex but now lives in the USA.
    You are in the very best place to be learning, it is a truly wonderful and supportive community.
    Every couple's journey is different. What works for you is what is important.

    "Thank you all for your replies! He is getting better, let’s hope this last when he isn’t wearing it!"

    My question would be, why would he not be wearing it?
     
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    #18 taped2, Aug 19, 2019
    Welcome to the Mansion! There are many benefits to keeping him locked for longer and longer periods (as others have said).

    It is important that he remains comfortable and clean in his cage. You will have to supervise those moments when he is unlocked for cleaning and hygenic purposes. But he should understand the attention he gets from you (his reward), and pleasures of going back into his cage, will be greater than what he is giving up (his daily self-pleasuring). Your attention to him and your clear communication of your desires and rules for his behaviour, will be critical, I think.

    Keep it consensual and have fun!
    Congratulations on your relationship!
     
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    #19 jemima, Aug 19, 2019
    hello and welcome to here.
     
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    #20 mwsubmissy, Aug 19, 2019
    Hello and welcome. The biggest advice i could give is make sure you are both talking about this. Reality is a lot different than fantasy. Remember chastity is just a tool you can use to fix a problem but just like any tool it must be used correctly. It took me awhile to learn that sex does not always have to be about me getting an orgasm. Through a lot of talking between me and my wife and a lot of trail and error for us to get where we are at today.
     
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    #21 sissy_christine, Aug 19, 2019
    Welcome to the group Ma'am
     
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    #22 GoddessB, Aug 19, 2019
    Thank you! I’m enjoying reading through everyone’s experiences.
    We are new at this so only doing it for fun at the moment or leading up to something, eg his birthday he was locked for over a week then released, then we would go back to ‘normal’ relationship then when feeling naughty will make him wear it! haha
     
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    #23 GoddessB, Aug 19, 2019
    Thank you! definitely feel this!
     
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    #24 krystalasbaby, Aug 20, 2019
    One of the first words we learn as babies is no, unfortunately for some of us we have to learn to say it again. When you start to say no then his attention to you will get better. He may pout a bit but it will get better and you love the attention
     
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    #25 Love2blocked, Aug 20, 2019
    Hello to you GoddessB, I’m sure you will enjoy it here :lock:
     
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