Ruined V Full Orgasm

I voted 9/10 only because there was no 10/10 option. Seriously, there is no drop for me after a ruin, although my Miss has become an expert at them. Stopping well before an orgasm builds and lets the cum just flow out without any feeling.

~Sierra

 

Not really, my last orgasm was about 6 weeks ago at this point... I think once you reach a certain point, your want/need to cum doesn't diminish until you actually do.

I get my pleasure from pleasing my Mistress. Being able to experience her orgasms brings me more joy than the few seconds of my own orgasm.

 

Not a lot of experience with them yet, but of the few I’ve had, only one I noticed a bit of sub drop. The others I didn’t experience any drop in sub space or horniness and they left me more frustrated as they should. So I voted 9/10

 

It's been a while since I have had a ruined, but for a period of time, that was all I got. I found that the reset would vary depending on the nature & intensity of the ruin. Sometimes there would actually be a contraction & spurt (maybe technically not a ruin); other times just a dribble or ooze; and sometimes not even that.

Maybe I should add that all ruins were with wearing a Kali's Teeth Bracelet. Mistress wanted to be sure there was always pain. But as a masochist of sorts, I found sometimes the pain would set me off to spurt instead of dribble. The more of a spurt or contraction, the longer the reset for me. Makes sense.

I'll bet the reset varies a lot, person to person.

 

I don't understand the question, sorry

 

I think i understand the survey question. My wife and i refer to these as no-handers. I masturbate myself but take my hand away right before the onset of my ejaculation. My Wife being a Fertility Specialist realizes my inability to empty myself properly a d knows they leaves me very unsatisfied.

 

Depends on how ruined the ruined orgasm was!

 

I voted 7/10. While there is "some" drop, usually when allowed a ruined orgasm, rare, I am hugging and wanting and needy of the wife within 30 minutes to an hour.

 

I voted 9/10.

To me a ruined orgasm is nothing but anger and added frustration. Worse is if we are making love and I lose myself and she pushes me off just as I am cumming. Grrrrrr.

I almost fear them, and I dread the day my GF wants to do them, and I cannot imagine the trauma associated with a caged and ruined orgasm. Nope! I think I'd cry.

 

I said 8, not quite a 9, but pretty good. I really don't like the feeling after a full orgasm, so if it was up to me (and it isn't) I would go the ruined every time.

 

I wouldn’t say anger but it is incredibly frustrating to be so close to the bliss of an orgasm only to have all stimulation taken away at the very last second.

 

This year has probably been around once a month I'd guess. I journal rather than keep a spreadsheet.

The longest without is 37 days because I was weak and gave in.

We are currently on a mission for 91 days, 13 weeks, and we are 12 days in I think.

I have discovered, this year, that I get really depressed for a few days after a full orgasm and it makes me so unbelievably sad that I have been struggling with it. I kind of think it's due to my age (early 50's, andropause) as I also experience other symptoms.

I want to kick the porn habit. I don't jerk off much but I do spend too much time watching or looking at porn. I'd like that to change. Last time we tried (31 days zero unlocks) I found around week 3 that porn did nothing at all for me. Zero. And that realisation that porn has always done nothing for me was really powerful in my view.

I'm at the stage where work feels impossible and my mind is screaming for release. In another week, based on my past experience, I'll cool down and be able to be normal again ha!

Also, we are doing T&D this time and so pretty everything feels like the volume is tuned to 11.

It's cliche but meditation, cold showers, push ups, going for a walk, eating healthily, and doing useful things do work for me <- Also a good depression treatment.

I'd forget about the destination and the things people say about denial. Everyone has a different path up the mountain, a different perspective, but really it's all about the view on the way. There's no where to go when you get to the top so why rush or fantasise about it, why not just enjoy every fleeting moment of torment and desperation instead haha.

I hate ruined orgasms, properly hate them. All of the waste, none of the fun.

 

It completely depends on how ruined it is.

If it is just a very small leak, then zero reset.

If it leaks a bit, a bit more.

If it almost spurts but just runs out, than about a half reset.


My wife is excellent at getting me to barely leak. She will do that two or three times and then lock me back up. As I'm tied spead eagle I can do nothing to stop her and I wear a Lori's with a PA there is nothing I can do after she unties me either.

Very frustrating and it keeps me loving her.

 

I had a ruined orgasm by accident earlier this week. I was playing with a vibrator on my bed, which I've done before when locked for short periods, but I miscalculated how quickly things might happen with a longer period locked. It occurred when I was having a 'rest' period between short bursts with the toy.

It didn't progress to a full blown 'O' and I sort of burped out a little cum. I then went to the toilet and before peeing more slowly dripped out in long strands, like I've seen from videos of prostate massages.

I went from a 10 to 6 and relieved not to have gone lower.

I have confessed to my KH. She was very understanding though I expect I won't be unlocked now any time soon, and I plan to surrender my vibrator to avoid future accidents.

 

I was able to climax once using a magic wand. I ended up confessing and got tied and whipped severely as a punishment.

She now puts a padlock through a hole in the plug prong on the vibrator, so it cant be plugged in.

 

I agree with those that say it varies based on level of ruined. My Queen has been experimenting with this and can tell just by looking at me immediately after how much reset has occurred. The most frustrating, usually the lowest/slowest leakage, are virtually no reset. If I get a spurt or two out then the setback might be some days. She has found a few ways to give me a more complete and exciting "drain" without so much setback, which is our goal. Usually this involves prostate play with just the right amount of penile stimulation to trigger a release (I cant be hard else I go over the edge). No idea if this is a ruined, or prostate, orgasm, but I feel a tremendous sense of relief for a few hours and am wound up tighter than ever the next day.

 

For me there are two very different kinds of "ruined" orgasms:

1) The one where exactly one spurt or dribble comes out, without any contractions - this one leaves me at 9/10

2) The one with contractions (but missing stimulation) will leave me at about 3/10

 

The last ruined I had, that was a while ago, I had no drop, my madam let go of me, and it took about 5 seconds and I just spurted, no sexual sensation, was just like passing water. But I think it may vary from individual to individual.

 

It depends on the time when you stop stimulation and cum dribbles out. The more time, the less you feel. That makes for a perfect ruined orgasm.