Ruined Orgasms

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    Ok, I’ll just ask.

    What is a ruined orgasm? How does it work? What is your practice and how do you do it?

    I know I can google it, but when I did and there is a bunch of porn that pops up and I don’t know what it really is. I am really interested in how it is used here, with real people. Also, I would love a females perspective also as this is new to both myself and my KH/Goddess/Wife. Thanks in advance. ✌
     
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    My understanding of ruined orgasms is that there's at least two ways to bring one about:

    • stimulate the person until they're close to orgasm, then stop the stimulation. The orgasm happens, but it's not as strong and complete feeling as it would've been had stimulation continued.

    • as orgasm just begins, hurt the person - usually their genitalia - to stop the orgasm in progress. One gentleman with whom I was doing tease and denial went too far during a lone-edging session and started to ejaculate. To stop it, he pinched the head of his penis shut hard.
    There are probably more methods, but that's what I've heard of.
     
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    There is no standard terminology, so you'll see a range of opinions.

    Ending stimulation just before or as the contractions begin. The orgasm is less rewarding than normal, and can feel uncompleted. (As Byrdie mentioned. This probably what is most often described as a "ruined orgasm").

    Overwhelming the orgasm with pain, the effect is largely as above, but it hurts. (Also mentioned in the previous post).

    Blocking or compressing the urethra during orgasm. The feeling is a lot like the first example, although if the urethra is compressed close to the body, it puts a lot of pressure on the tissues, passages, and musculature, as the contractions struggle to eject the ejaculate without anywhere for it to go, which can be quite unpleasant.

    What I consider to be the purest example of a ruined orgasm is when the stimulation is applied carefully, holding just short of the point of no return (PONR), and then pushing on ever closer. If the subject is instructed not to orgasm (or, alternately, the subject can be instructed to orgasm, while the manipulator provides less or incorrect stimulation compared to what would typically induce orgasm), the body can be induced to release part of the fluid that comprises ejaculate, without any contraction, or perhaps one weak contraction. This fluid is thinner and less opaque than ejaculate, will pour weakly out rather than spurt, and feels to the subject like urinating.

    There is no orgasmic release, although the expulsion of fluid can relieve the intensity of desire to orgasm, at least partially. This will not induce a refractory period, and further stimulation can induce a full orgasm quickly, or, if done skillfully enough, further ruined orgasms can be induced. The effect is, in essence, identical to prostate milking.
     
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    Great explanations from the previous respondents. A ruined is very frustrating because although there is ejaculate you don't get any of the pleasure that comes from ejaculation.
     
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    I agree, when I was allowed ruined orgasms I would be stimulated to that first jolt, then madam would stop, there would be contractions for a second or two, then I Would ejaculate, but with no sensation at all.
     
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    Absolutely amazing explanations. When @hansolo detailed it in his last two paragraphs, I realized I had a few of my own doing pulling out as I thought I was going to cum and never did. Well, I did. It just wasn’t my normal orgasm. It was exactly like he explained. I seriously thought, am I getting to this next sexual level where I can cum and cum and cum and not go soft? But I didn’t have the aura after spraying her with just liquid, but not the normal, complete orgasm. THAT’S IT!!! Someone finally explained what happened to me those couple of instances it happened. It will be interesting to see if we can repeat it.
     
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