Road to my Birthday Celebration

I haven't had much of a reason to start one of these blog-type threads to this point. But the next couple months are going to be a trip for me, and I think I want to share it.

Because, as @Chaste-pegged-switch mentioned in chat, I'm suddenly going from a "sex roughly every two weeks (on average)" schedule ... to a multi-month lockup. All in advance of what I'm hoping will be an epic birthday celebration.

If you want details on my background, see the next post.

The Scene: Monday night. As we're getting ready for bed.

My birthday's coming up next month. And its traditionally when I'll ask and my wife will indulge me in some bondage play, even with our chastity play the last few years. So when she asked me what I wanted for my birthday, I thought about it and told her I did need any things - I wanted time with her ... just wanted a nice weekend bound, tied and teased.

My wife said ok. But ... she had a condition. Conditions were ... new.

What condition? I asked.

She said that well we don't have that many free weekends around when my birthday falls in March. Too many things going on. So she said I'd have to wait until after *her* birthday, which falls in early April.

I said that was fine. I mean I could wait for some bondage fun!

But she said there was more. She told me that she wanted to keep me locked up *until* my "birthday celebration".

I started getting a little nervous. I asked when we'd start this lock up (I'd already been locked up since the end of January)? To which she replied that there wasn't a need to unlock me from now until the celebration. And then she saw my reluctance and said she'd give me 24 hours to decide. Then she turned over and started playing on her phone and getting ready for sleep.

Uh oh. But as I thought about The Bargin over Monday night into Tuesday when I was in the shower, or commuting, or otherwise alone... I was finding that my cage was getting tight every time. so very tight. So the idea was definitely appealing on some level.

Flash forward to Tuesday night. Again getting ready for bed.

My wife comes out of the bathroom. Naked. And looks over at me on the bed and asks me if I made up my mind. I get out of bed to go over and hug her. I'm not naked, but only in my boxer briefs (and cage, of course). I guess I needed the extra support to tell her "yes". She reminds me the length of time we're talking - "it'll be April. It's now February" ... and "you know how you get after a few weeks". I murmured something like "I know but I've done 5 weeks before and could do this". (In retrospect, I'm pretty sure at this point I'm obviously thinking with a horny dick that's been locked for 2+ weeks already).

She kisses me deeply, pulls me close to her. Then adds in the kicker.

"Are you sure? I'm not going to make easy." She pinches one of my nipples. "You're going to have..." twists the other one "... a very hard month." ... Yelp. I'm in for a long couple months, I think.



Coda: the next morning, she's laying rather cutely in bed watching, the morning news, when I come out of the shower so I walk over and lean over for a deep kiss. She moans softly and when we separate she says "I don't know why you're choosing to do that. I mean I don't care, but this is going to hurt you a lot more than its going to hurt me."

 

The Background of My Journey

I've known my wife for a couple decades now, and been married for 13 years (long engagement). We met early on in college and started exploring our sexual selves. Turns out, I really enjoy being switchy-leaning-submissive and really enjoyed being bound and teased. And "made" to do things to her. And light to moderate pain. And other similar kinks. She was a lot more vanilla. And while we tried a few times and a few different things nothing really spoke to her. So through the engagement and marriage and our 20's and early 30's we settled into vanilla-ish sex. A couple times a year she'd agree to indulge me in some bondage play. Usually at least on/about my birthday I'd ask for it, and she'd indulge me a lot. But during this time our libidos weren't really in sync a lot. I was masturbating fairly frequently and thus not really "ready" for her when she was in the mood and wanted some action.

Then I found chastity as a kink maybe 4-5ish years ago. Can't really remember where, but I think like some guys here, I ended up jerking off to chastity porn/stories/photos - a hell of a lot more than I should have. And took that to finally got up the courage to ask my wife for my birthday a few years ago - rather than do straight up tied-to-the-bed games, I wanted to wear a cock cage and for her to hold the key and most of all, decide when to let me free. That first time was a CB-6000s and went ... ok. I wore it almost immediately into public when we went to dinner and a movie. Wasn't the most comfortable, but the sex we had that night was awesome. Simply mindblowing. I was hooked.

Continued with the CB-6000 for a while but it was definitely uncomfortable. Progressed quickly to a HolyTrainer v2. This is what let me start wearing it 24/7 for several days to a week at a time. My wife would unlock me for some fun on a weekend, then usually it would be a couple days before I would put the cage back on. After about 6 months of this, I wasn't that comfortable so decided to buy a custom Evotion Wearables "Cage 8". That was much more comfortable, if a bit pinchy at times. And lasted almost a year. During which I was locked for a large portion of, 1-2 weeks at a time before released for intercourse (which my wife still very much wanted my dick insider her). Then re-locked immediately about half the time.

In between the releases I'd try to make a move on her, offer a foot massage or back rub or offer to eat her or finger her or whatever she wanted. But it wouldn't happen all that much. It was during this time we had a couple vacations that she unlocked me for before we left. And the second one (in mid-Sept) I didn't re-lock when we got home. I was unlocked for about a month and fell back into a fairly regular masturbation schedule, not paying as much attention to her sexual needs or desires. Kind of like our pre-chastity days. It took her a few weeks, but she eventually caught on. And ... was actually pretty pissed because she *didn't* realize I was free - she thought I *had* re-locked after we got home from vacation. (She immediately made me put the cage back on and told me not to expect to be free again anytime soon).

I think that was the incident that changed the relationship from something *I* wanted that she was indulging me in, to something *she* wanted, in that my wife decided she "much preferred me locked up" because "I treated her better". And I suspect because she also liked it more when I was ready for her whenever she wanted, and took more of a the lead to make her cum without her feeling she absolutely needed to reciprocate (though she did quite a bit). We were fully in a schedule where she decided 100% when I could be let out, and she was getting stricter about it not happening for 2-ish week long stretches.

A another few months later, Evotion came out with their new Orion cages and I ordered one of the first. This was another comfort upgrade, and after realizing the filigree pattern needed to *not* be on the ring part, my current cage is 100% comfortable. I've been locked in it continuously for almost a full year now. But I was getting unlocked on average every two weeks because she still likes my actual penis inside her fairly frequently. And hey, its her choice after all, right? In between, we still do other things but they've been fewer and further in between I think. I've spend a lot of time this last year locked up without much teasing or interaction outside of our weekend encounters and some kissing and other "normal" married-folk activities.

And I've started to sense a little bit of a further change in the relationship. I've had a couple of lengthier lockups the last few. Several weeks leading into November. Then about 5 weeks from from the week before Thanksgiving through Christmas, (then a week between the holidays), then again New Years through the end of January. I've asked her what she's planning here and there, but she doesn't really plan *any* of it, choosing instead to go at her whim.

Which brings us to now ... and the start of a 10-week-or-more journey to my "Birthday Celebration". I'm both looking forward to it and regretting my choice. My record is just shy of 6 weeks, so if we go all the way through, this one's going to about double it... Yelp again.


(PS - for the record, I consider myself a 7/6 on @Tom Allen's Chastity Denial Matrix: https://vanillaedge.wordpress.com/2019/12/04/the-chastity-denial-matrix/, if that helps describe how much of a change this is...)

 

It's been a week since I first posted this. We haven't really done much since her proclamation. My wife got a nasty stomach bug last Friday into Saturday, and while Sunday into the first half of the week she wasn't feeling nearly as bad, she still hasn't been in the mood. I'm still locked and have been locked the entire time. Except for a couple hours today for a routine doctor's visit.

I asked her this morning to unlock me so I could do the doc's visit and take the opportunity to shower/clean the area. She did without question or saying much. Per my standing instructions, I asked her when I should lock back up. She said "immediately after you get home of course."

And that's where I am now. Relocked, horny, denied, and almost forgotten...

 

Couple days later... another weekend is almost past without any sexual interaction. But not because she's not feeling well anymore.

Oh quite the opposite ... this is because the denial has kicked in. My wife gave me a big hug on Friday night as we got ready for bed. I was in my boxer briefs (and cage) and she was deliciously naked. And as she held me close, she asked me if I wanted any of her. I leaned in, gave her a deep kiss and said "oh god ... yes!"

She pushed me lightly away and said "well too bad", got dressed in her pjs and went to bed. I groaned slightly.

Yesterday (Saturday) we were super busy so nothing. But my wife last night unlocked the box we keep the key in because she had some errands to run and might have the house before me. She told me to unlock myself in the morning (and not till morning) so I could shower and go to the massage. But I better lock back up immediately after I got home.

Today I did the shower (it was *so very* difficult not to jerk off...). Did the massage, then got home and realized she was going to be out for a little bit longer on her errands. Don't tell her ... I stayed out until she said she was on her way home. That hour of freedom was nice.

But I'm locked up again and waiting for her to finish her errands and come home. Maybe I can get her pants off tonight? Wish me luck!

 

Hahahah! Alas no. She came home pretty tired after her errands and didn't want me touching her. Then went to bed early.

Monday passed without so much as a kiss. Last night I sat her down after dinner and we had a brief chat. I wanted to make sure she was still game for this because I've basically been ignored outside of the encounter that seemed so promising Friday night. We'll see how it goes.

 

Now some things are kicking into gear. The last few days of last week and through the weekend led to more teasing and fun. My wife's not much for fully concentrating on me or pulling the cage off and edging.

Instead she's more fluid with it... and something kicked in because the last few days have been really rough. I'm coming up on my record, and with the teasing I'm starting to go a little nuts.

Some things she's done include randomly grabbing or smacking my ass when I bend over or walk by.
She grabs me and kisses me deeply.
In the car over the weekend, while I was driving (mostly while stopped), she was reaching over and caressing and squeezing my inner thigh.
At night, while getting ready for bed, she's been squeezing and playing with my nipples.
And my favorite, we showered together on both Saturday and Sunday. Where I get to wash her and she washes and grabs me in spots (I was fully caged both times).

Then, we wrapped up last night by going up to bed a little early. And I started kissing her, but she stopped me (grr) and told me that she wasn't super interested in "getting dirty". And asked me to massage her shoulders/back instead. I, of course, obliged. She didn't want lotion and left her shirt on ... but then asked for me to massage her lower back/buttocks area. Which, I of course did .

As my hands got really tired and sore I leaned over and asked if she wanted anything else. She said she wanted me to make her orgasm, but she wasn't going to roll off her stomach. Which presented only a *small* barrier.

I started fingering her, and she stopped me and told me to get some "props". I asked if she wanted the strap on, she did not. Instead I pulled out my finger vibrator and started in on her.

Several orgasms later* she needed me to stop ... or not ... she was definitely enjoying herself. But she said this was when she would normally unlock me and let me fuck her because she wanted more. And she gave me a fat lip and cheerfully/sarcastically said "But I guess that's not happening!" I groaned. Asked her if she wanted me to get the strap on. She said "no, we'll do that tomorrow..." And then told me to get back at it with the vibrator... to the tune of two or three** more orgasms. She really wanted me to keep going I think after that point but also really wanted to get to sleep. And sleep won out. I stopped and held her for a while, but she was still shuddering from it, still getting waves of pleasure... at which point she twisted both my nipples. HARD. And physically pushed me away to my side of the bed. Told me to stop touching her and go to sleep.

It was a great night! Except for the moderate case of blue balls that kept me up for another hour and change.

And damn, I am horny and going a little nuts.

* Fun fact: I find it a lot hard to tell she's cumming when she's on her stomach like this...
** Again, not really sure.

 

Today, found out that an event we were doing this weekend has been cancelled. My heart did a leap and I briefly thought maybe we could celebrate thiz weekend! So much closer! Not still weeks away!

I mention this to my wife as we're gettimg ready for bed just now, and she tells me no, she's due for her period to start in another day or so. Then she asks me to eat her for a bit...

 

The last few days have been much of a bust - my wife got her period, and she tends to not want me to touch her when she's crampy and not feeling great.

Didn't stop her from slapping *my* ass a bunch, or squeezing my nipples a little bit, though.

Then last night that ended, and she demanded I pleasure her! She started by rubbing my chest and thighs while we kissed deeply and I rubbed her back, butt and breasts. Then she laid back and gestured with her hand. I started some fingering, then moved to get my finger vibrator (great toy, recommend it), and ended up eating her for a good fifteen minutes.

I was straining in my cage through most of it, my boxer briefs had a very large wet spot when I was done.

And then she said tonight she's looking for penetration, so we should head to bed early and I should be ready with the strap on. We'll see how that goes!

 

Maybe the damn virus did some good... since it cancelled all our weekend plans, I won't have to wait till next month!

Last night, at bed time as I was getting into bed, she told me I was improperly dressed (in my normal boxer briefs).

She told me to go put on my leather bulldog harness, which I'm not to take off except to shower, and a pair of leather underwear, and sleep in that.

It was a rough night, I kept waking up with random cage-straining erections and erotic dreams.

Still in the harness and leather underwear this AM of course.

 

Here's a live update!

After being told to make her breakfast this morning, she gace me the key to my cage, told me to unlock and head upstairs and take a shower, after which I was to lay out the bondage equipment and tie myself down to the bed.

After doing that, she put a remote controlled cock ring on and left the room woth the remote. Thank god the battery only lasted 90 minutes, it was driving me crazy!

Anyway, right now as I type this, my hands are secured over my head, my feet are very secured to the foor of the bed with leather cuffs and a spreader bar, and I am still in the leather harness and now a collar. All of it is locked on*, and my wife just checked in on me. Before leaving on a run. She left me my phone in case I needed assistance, so I'm using it to let you all know what my status is...

Cage unlocked... but everything else on my body is pretty locked down.



PS dont tell the wife I used my phone for this, I'm supposed to be blindfolded and laying still in my bonds!

PPS I can get out if I need to, no worries about me

 

Well I've got the worst case of blue balls I've had in years.

When my wife left for her run, she apparently put the remote vibrating cock ring back in its charger. When she got back (took about an hour and 15 minutes, she didn't leave right away). She stripped when she got in, then decided to lay down on the best next to me and started teasing me while she cooled down a bit. Rubbing my chest, pinching nipples. Then she put the cock ring vibrator back on and turned it on again and randomly cycled through the settings. Drove me wild again.

She then pulled out the crop we have, and smacked me a bunch of times with that, while the vibrator kept buzzing away. She told me to stop moaning every time she changed settings, and reinforced that with a smack. This went on for another thirty minutes or something. By the end of this I was getting pretty far gone, and that's when she decided it was time for her to shower. While she was getting ready for the shower, she keep the vibrator going randomly changing settings.

But when she actually hopped under the water, she stopped it. Blessed relief. I was really deep in, didn't really keep track of the next 15 minutes or so she was in the water. And I was super happy the buzzing stopped. I needed it to stop relentlessly teasing me.

And then she popped out of the shower and ... buzzzt - she started it up again. It was too much, I started moaning loudly. She came out of the bathroom, asked me what was wrong.

I told her I really, really needed to cum.

She said ... "too bad"

"Huh?" (or at least that's what I wanted to say, it may have come out more slurred)

She said "I'm going downstairs in a few minutes and you're going to put your cage back on and follow me." She then unlocked my hands and told me to finish unlocking the rest of me while she got dressed.

After I finished she told me that I had 10 minutes to put my cage back on and then come down. When I pointed out I still had a pretty major erection and might need a few more, she told me again "too bad, do it or be punished". Then smacked my ass a few times with her crop. Then grabbed my crotch to make sure my erection was at full tilt! Argh. I asked her what to wear. She reminded me that for a "shirt" I was to continue to wear the bulldog harness (which I still had on). And to put on sweatpants. And to make sure the cock ring was back in its charger so she could use it again "later". Threatened to make me wear it overnight and randomly start it up.

I struggled, didn't have access to ice or anything so I basically forced the cage on. I got dressed quickly and made it downstairs. I don't think I was in the 10 minutes, and it turns out what I did put on wasn't what she was considering sweatpants, so she told me I was getting punished for both those things, later.

So bottom line? Its been 8 weeks since my last orgasm. I also realized I've only cum *once* in 2020 so far, with March basically over. And today, when I thought I was going to get relief, ended up in a 6-hour *major* tease session*, followed by me being re-caged and put back on "display".

And then she told me to make dinner.


* We've never done a tease session that's lasted this long or was this deep. It's a new in so many different ways. I have been in bondage for that long before, but it always ended with me cumming before...

 

Now as we get ready for bed, she follows through on her promise and makes me put the remote controlled vibrating cock ring on over the cage. And is playing with the cycles. This could be a long night.

 

The cock ring was this one https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B07RZX2LK5?psc=1&ref=ppx_pop_mob_b_asin_title

Powerful little bugger. Battery lasts ~1.5 hours it seems. Which is plenty long for some torture, as I found out again last night at bed time!

Luckily the battery cut out before we both turned out the light, but that was still a long 90ish minutes.

 

I don't know if this weekend was my birthday celebration as promised ... or if it keeps going. I haven't cum yet, so I think I'm just going to keep writing.

Sunday was interesting.

She made me continue to wear the harness all day, adding a pair of pleather jeans-style pants to it. (PS those are really comfortable, will wear more often!). Except for when I ran out to the food store for the week. But she made me take it off right by the door, the put it on right after I came home and unloaded the car.

Kept me that way all day. She had brought down a flogger at some point yesterday and smacked my ass a couple times as I was walking around the house. And she let me grab her and french kiss and hug her frequently, as she was grabbing my exposed nipples and pinching a lot too. At one point she commented "are you sure you want to keep doing this? it's just going to hurt you more than me". Guh. And she said she decided that I was to sleep in the harness since she really likes the way it looks. I can't say I mind, I feel really good in this thing.

Monday we were both working from home. She told me she wasn't going to do anything during "work hours" since there's the chance I'd be on a video chat really kind of randomly, in addition to several scheduled ones. So normal clothes when I got out of the shower. But as soon as my workday was done, she told me to go put the harness back on, no shirt. I could leave my jeans on.

And that's where I am now, sitting here half dressed and waiting for her to decide if she wants some action tonight or what...