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    After a long absence i thought I'd come back for a peak!
    My wife and I are now 2 1\2 years into permanent chastity with no end in sight. I found this site a great help when starting out but gradually drifted away as chastity became a normal part of our life and stopped being at the forefront of my mind every waking hour!
    It took around 18months and at least a dozen devices until we were both comfortable and had found a balance between expectation and reality( mostly my expectation)
    My thanks to everyone involved in the site for creating a platform to openly discuss chastity, device issues and related kinks, it's nice to know we're not alone :+1::lockkey: and that we're not sexual deviants;)
     
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    welcome (back)
     
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    Welcome back! Just out of curiosity, which device did you finally decide upon for long-term lock-up?
     
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    It’s stainless steel with a hinged ring( think it’s called black widow) under £50 from Ireland! Comfortable and clean, I have an extra small cage from China that fits same ring, also very comfortable. Been through quite a few brand name ones and an expensive custom made from Australia
     
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    Rewelcome. It is nice you didn't forget about us all. Things probably look different. There have
    been a number of changes and I think it is more welcoming to women now. It is great to hear how
    things are from the other side of the lock. Happy that things smoothed out and you came back to
    visit. Hope you won't be a stranger, see you around.:+1:
     
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    Welcome back
    I’m a newbie to chastity and this site has really been great. A lot of great info and advice. Hopefully my journey will continue on as yours has
     
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    Welcome back! I’m happy to hear all is going so well. I’m curious as to how how you found that balance between reality and (your) expectations? Was your wife more kinky or vanilla in the beginning? I’d love to hear your back story!
     
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    Would be interested in seeing the cage if you have pics available (off, or on if that’s what you have and are comfortable sharing).
     
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    Both cages shown, hinged ring and integrated lock
     
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    Thank you for sharing. I received a device similar to the 1st picture yesterday. Im a self locker and couldn’t work out a method for getting it all together. Do you put it on yourself? Suggestions for a newbie to this cage style?
     
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    Looked up “black widow” and Irish chasity and got no matches. Where did you say you got it?
     
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    Definitely vanilla!! To start with she would release me every couple days, beat the wee man off then lock me up again, thinking this was what I wanted I then got a small notebook that I would write ideas in and if she liked any she would photo that one and text to me on the day to perform. That proved very one sided as it was all about me, my wife couldn’t grasp getting her own pleasure!
    For her birthday I presented her with a selection of hand written ‘gift cards’ each one had a task on it,75% of which were for her pleasure and non sexual like back massage, foot rub even simple things like a cuddle . She would then photo 1 or more and text to me whenever she wanted, occasionally I would get a sexual card to perform. This worked very well as my wife is not vocal and is unwilling to ask.
    Over time we found some sexual things that she did enjoyed doing and others she enjoyed watching me perform. We found that she really enjoyed edging and even started laughing at my expression and antics when denied,also getting me to edge and deny myself!
    We now use gifs off the internet to send suggestions and ideas to each other though the ‘gift cards’ can still be used at any time.
    The best lesson learned for myself was if my wife didn’t respond positively to a suggestion then drop it and leave well alone because women very rarely change their mind!!
    For my wife, participating in chastity became more appealing to her when I stopped expecting her to be sexually demanding and accepted that she wanted simple things.
    I would love for my wife to demand oral every day and tie me up while abusing me with a strapon but that isn’t going to happen and I’ve accepted it.
     
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    Bought from Ireland’s Dungeon
     
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    Bought from DHGate a company importing from China, search chastity on their site and loads come up, cheap but can’t fault quality of stainless ones. Downside is can be up to 3 weeks delivery
     
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    Thanks I have a ZCLianer that looks similar but has a padlock- also from China on the 3 week plan
     
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    Can be a faf till used to it. I found easiest to put on sitting down, get base ring in place then close your legs holds ring in place while getting cage lined up, watch out for sling getting caught on locating pinsouch!
     
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    Panda2010 There's a fine line between pleasure and pain

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    Hi I couldn't agree more. We aren't sexual deviants - in fact probably the opposite lol. But we need a place to discuss these issues and there is no place in the 'mainstream'to have an open discussion.

    Thank you CM for providing this space. @L_U_C_Y
     
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    Sounds like my wife and I but in time mine turned the cornor on her own one day and she has not looked back yet sometimes its more then I bargained for LOL
     
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