Over years of experimental chastity play, two things have most often caused our chastity experiments to end suddenly. 1. Keyholder tires of the daily responsibility/ tires of the very unequal status. 2. I start feeling abandoned (which is mostly my problem to figure out). Usually when she's had an over abundance of fun sex for 3-5 days, and loses all interest in the "chastity game". This note is mainly about #1, and how I seem to be lucking into an idea that is working, at least for now. I'm only in day 5 of a very fun lockup, but it just got extended a couple days. At least for me, having any kind of a goal, like 30 days, usually backfires. We've tried so many interesting things with chastity play, that are always super hot, fun and sexy for at least a few days, and sometimes a couple weeks. I am more kinky, and she is a very busy adventurous person. She will try most things, and make the best of them, in whatever spontaneous way she finds authentic to her, or interesting enough to try. I would say our most common chastity game is 1-4 days, where she gets a lot of great sex, and I get deeper and deeper into my submissive chastity state, thinking it's an amazing adventure. And then it suddenly ends when she removes the device for sex, and has no big desire to get it reinstalled, or she removes it just because she's a bit tired of it (thinking about it, thinking about when she wants to unlock it, thinking about how to tease/ motivate me while I'm locked up). A month ago, we had a really hot week, and it ended suddenly, when I was thinking it would be really hot to be kept this way for a month!. And she commented she can start to feel lonely. She misses the equal relationship and her equal partner and wants him back. This was the first time she articulated that, and I found that really interesting and compelling. She has often commenting on feeling the keyholder role as an additional responsibility she has to be in a certain mood to be up to the job. I have tried many ideas to make it less stressful, but this lonliness- wow, that sounds real. This innovation: What seems different this time is a. I try to be her equal partner I'm acting 95% as my normal, equal partner self, except we both know I'm in chastity, and she hints at a couple things she'd like done, and sex is certainly very different when I'm in chastity. But I have many ways of pleasing her, and years ago came up with the idea that one of my goals in chastity is "To strive to make her normally great sex even better when I'm in chastity". Which has gone pretty well. b. The key is out of reach for 2 days at a time, and she doesn't have to think about or manage that, unless she wants to extend it, and today she did. Instead of playing the fun game of begging for release and her being strong or strict and saying "no way, I like this better." I locked myself up, and set the key up on a timer release system for a couple days. During sex, she asked when the key is available, and I said not til tomorrow. She said good, and we had great sex. She didn't ask me to relock or stay out when the key becomes available, she left that to me. So last night we're having fun sex and she says when is the key available? And I said Noon tomorrow and 4p two days after that, for one minute each. She said, good, so all I have to do is distract you for those 2 minutes, and then I keep you as you are. I didn't even respond. So today, she did indeed start making out with me, telling me I was not going to the garage to the key box, and it was so sensuous. After making out for 5 minutes or so in the kitchen, she mentions a few things about the weekend, and went to do some writing. So she doesn't have to worry about when will I/ should I/ get out. Often she would unlock me for sex, and loose interest in the game after being satisfied. Details: How do we lock the key away? > There are various apps for phones. I use photo time lock using a Master Key Box and the phone. It just took a few tries a year ago to learn a good process for taking a photo of the combo, and locking the key away for a preset time. But this method opens the combo and keeps it open when the time arrives. > The key box we have that is open for 1 min. every 2 days was a home made key safe project. Very sturdy wooden box, 7 day appliance timer, electronic "Strike" that is activated (like an automatic door a security guard opens by pushing a button). And the inside is big enough for a Master key safe, so there can be even more complexity. Anyway, she was kissing me while the 1 minute passed today, so I didn't go to the garage, and now it's a couple more days to the next minute, and she asked to know the schedule.