Realizing the Power of the Dom

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    I've been quite vanilla since my surgery back in September . I found myself doubting why I even became a Dom. I asked my sub to do something, but he declined. I repeatedly told him to do it and I even got out the discipline paddle. Nothing. :eek:

    I realized that he has to be the one to accept the submissive role. So after a long conversation, we decided I was indeed the Dom and he was the sub. He is back in chastity. It has been 1 week. Quite honestly, this is the longest he's been locked up for. I always find myself giving in to his wants and my desires for his throbbing cock. I've decided to be a good Dom and keep him locked for as long as I want.

    I'll keep him wanting me so bad that he will do anything for me. He has already stated how my denying him has made him realize how bad he wants to please me.

    Yes, he will be leaking cum before I let him drain. Just thinking about it is making me wet.
     
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    I hope I can learn to be more submissive for You. I truly want to make You happy.

    Always Yours

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    Keep pleasing me like you just did ;), and you'll make me very happy :D.
     
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    Dear diary,
    My husband has been trying to find out what my kinks and fetishes are. I'm still trying to figure them out myself. However, the other night I had him dress in women's lingerie and wear a wig. I was so turned on! I came to orgasm so fast. I think that being with a girl might be one of my fetishes. In high-school I used to joke with my friends that if I wasn't married by the time I was 30, I'd be their lesbian lover. I was somewhat serious. I knew I had an attraction for girls (we are gorgeous), but never believed it would get me so horny.

    My hubs and I have a strong bond in our marriage. We both believe it would hurt our marriage if we invited another in to our bond.
     
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    Is it just me, or do you get upset when your sub asks to play? I give you attention, even more so being locked. But I still get questions on when we can play. It's like my toddlers repeatedly asking me if they can play the Wii. Did I not just give you attention last night? What do you think? Should I punish him, or let him ask?
     
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    You know what many who pretend do not know. The sub has all the power. You can only dominate him if he willingly submits. You can only do things up to his limits and perhaps push them a little. The sub can instantly stop the action by using his safe word. It is not like those who live their sex lives online make it to be with the sub being mistreated and things done against the sub's will.

    I think your approach is great. I am the dominant one in real life and my marriage. However, my giving my wife control over my penis and orgasms, she is in charge of that aspect of our life as well as non sexual areas. We each do what we do best with no one of us having absolute power over all things. I consent to domestic discipline and orgasm control. If I refuse my wife hands me the keys and tells me she does not want to play anymore. Knowing that, keeps me in line. We do however agree to terms at the beginning of each year. We discuss what and what does not work. I agree to the longest time to go without an orgasm (3 months this year) and when domestic discipline can be applied. We compromise since my wife would love if I never came since she has been more into girls for the last 15 years or so. I have been denied intercourse for longer than either of us can remember. My wife gets almost all of her orgasms from her vibrator while holding onto my erect penis so I rarely get to perform oral on her.

    We were in your situation when my wife had major surgery 1.5 years ago. She was in bed for 3 months and using a walker for another 3 months. Even though we have been into 24/7 chastity play going on 4 years at the end of this month, we view it as just play. We have tried many fetishes over the last 44 years and it was always sex play. Chastity is the only fetish that does not end at the bedroom door so we had to adjust. When my wife was well again I too found it difficult to be submissive to my wife after she was dependant on me for 6 months. She paddled and caned my butt (you can see some of her handiwork in my gallery) but it had little effect on my submission. I remained locked up but nothing else.

    We never recovered as fully as you, it seems. My wife still occasionally canes or paddles me but has stopped telling me to fetch her things and do more housework. We pretty much live our normal life except in the bedroom and that I am locked up while at home. I do not lock up when I go out anymore. Too many times I found myself in pain. I am still locked every minute at home and since I work at home that is most of the time. I only go out a few hours a week at most anyway.

    I can always tell a real story when I read it. When I hear things like 24/7/365 abused slave and other things that sound just like what you see and read in porn, it sends up red flags for me. I have led a fetish life style for long enough to know the difference between reality and fantasy. I is nice to read a post that I can believe because real life does not mirror porn.
     
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    I've been trying to get a guideline together. I know it will help him with the do's and don't's. We found ourselves lacking intimacy. So, we started chastity play. We quickly realized it wasn't so much a game as it was a lifestyle change. I absolutely love how he looks at me now. He has never had a problem with giving me attention as long as he got something in return. Now, he wants me all the time even if he just came. My original intention was intimacy and submission. Now I feel like I want more, but I can't figure out what it is I want.
     
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    A guideline would be great. Post it here in you journal if you want Mistress. Ill write here what I have already professed. You have my complete submission. My body is yours. You have control. If that means getting a PA or nipples priced than so be it.
     
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    All I want is you happiness. I know I require training. I humbly ask that you bear with me as I am trained. My body and mind constantly crave your attention. Its hard to control at times. Your like a drug, I can't get enough.

    In submission and devotion

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    The idea of being with another man or woman while my sub watches makes me excited. The thought of him being pegged by another while I watch makes me excited. So tonight my hubs and I talked about cuckolding. We both thought it would be hot. But alas, we came to the same conclusion that we want our marriage to remain sanctified. No others are to come between our bond. My question now would be how can we satisfy the fantasy? Time to go to the drawing board.
     
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    The idea of another man touching you enrages me. The thought of another woman being with you doesn't seem to have the same effect. Having another person enter our marriage go's against my devotion and personal beliefs. When I married you I pledged to be with you and no one else. When I gave myself to you as
    your submissive it just seemed to be the
    next step in my devotion. Letting another person in our marriage in my beliefs, would make all of that meaningless.
    What you do to or with me is completely your choice. I gave up my self to you as a proof of my complete dedication to you and your happiness. I am so happy that we could sit down as a couple and sift through our deepest fantasies and come to terms with what is best for our relationship and marriage. Yours forever


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    If I may.... sometimes it is better to keep fantasy in our fantasies only. Some things cannot be undone. And cuckolding is one of them. So if you both are not for 110% sure and if there is even slightness doubt I would avoid it.
     
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    You really have to want it bad if your going to be a cuck, with clear expectations on everyone s part if there's any chance it will be good for all involved. It would appear to be one of the most difficult and certainly one of the ultimate forms of submission. Not necessarily for everyone. Don't feel bad if it's not for you.
     
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    I have a very high respect for people who can stay together whilst living within a Cuckold relationship and I mean that honestly, I couldnt, we struggle to share Oxygen up here in Yorkshire ;-) Yes the last bit was a joke....The rest wasnt
     
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    We are certain that we won't be doing anything with anyone but each other. I'm not interested in destroying our relationship for a fantasy that I quite possibly could hate.
     
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    The ultimate submission is what I loved about it. I don't feel upset at all that we decided not to go through with cuckolding. Our love is too deep. Once it's done it can't be undone. Just talking about it with him made him furious as soon as I said I could be with another man. He was fine with me being with another female, or he being with another male or female. But it's best to just keep it a fantasy.
     
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    So tonight is going to be fun. I've had him set up the bed for a bondage session. He was released from his cage to groom himself. After I got home from the gym, I had him strip down and lay on the bed. I gagged him and blindfolded him. After an extremely brief tease, I headed to the shower. I know the scent of my cleansers and perfumes make him hot. After I was out I put my robe on and left the room. I sat with the kids to watch a movie before bedtime. I untied him to give the kids a hug goodnight, then straight back to the bed. This time he thought I was going to play as I strapped him down so tight.
    I have had him tied up for about an hour now letting him think of all the possibilities that could go on tonight. He has been in chastity for 8 days without release. That's the longest yet. He will not get anything tonight. No tease and denial. No breath play. No ruined orgasm. All of those are what he has been dying for. I think I will go lay on the bed and vibrate myself.
     
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    It's been a while since my last post. I did exactly what I said I was going to do. It drove him crazy! I actually thought he was going to break out of the straps. He couldn't see or feel me, but he could hear my vibratory and my heavy breathing. When I started moaning, he moaned just as much if not more. I took my time. After I finished, I simply unstrapped him and went on like nothing happened.

    Fast forward to the 3 day weekend: AMAZING!!! After he pleased me, I let him out of his cage. Friday alone was 3 orgasms for me, and 2 for my slave. Saturday was just as good. Sunday? Yes, another orgasmic day. I don't remember the exact count, but we averaged 2-3 orgasms each all 3 days.

    On a side note, my slave told me he can't wait to get back in the cage (jokingly). He loves the Dom I turn in to. I kept him free until Saturday (yesterday). He was surprised by my request since the weekend is usually our scheduled release. I guess he will have to wait and see what I have planned for him this time.
     
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    This is one of my strongest fantasies at the moment, being made to watch my Wife pleasure herself without being allowed to join in, or even more intense, only be able to hear her using her wand massager. I can totally understand why the experience drove him crazy!

    One of the hottest images I have seen on Tumblr was a gif of a woman, on top of her partner who was tied to the bed. She had slid herself onto his penis and was masturbating. If my Wife did that and then started using the wand massager as well I might just explode,
     
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    I would be very concerned about having a third person in our relationship and the potential for damage to our marriage. It all sounds hot and all that, but, in reality there's just no way I could agree to that.
     
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    Yes, it's just a fantasy. We discussed it and we are happy to stay the two of us.
     
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    Damn thats hot
     
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    If my hubby asked to be played with I don't play with him. I might of giving in a time or two But for the most part I stay strong.
    Also. If he asked me to do certain things for him like play with his bum of suck him I especially don't do it.

    Stay strong
     
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    I'm very happy that we started back in chastity. I still feel the exact same way that is outlined here on your thread.
     
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