Reality check on “necessary” release

Not really

 

I've gone 130+ days without an orgasm of any kind, and routinely go 30+ days. He's a whiner.

In my situation even asking for release, or time out of the cage, is an automatic additional week without release (other than for cleaning or emergencies). Asking again during that week adds a month more after the week.

You must assert your control and tell him only you will decide when and for how long his penis will be free.

Free Dick Day, we like to call it.

 

Unless prostate cancer runs in his family, to name just one reason

 

Let's work together on this: You put in a good word with my wife for me, and I'll encourage yours to let you out more often?

 

Finally. Somebody gets it. Deal.

 

Introducing Male Chastity into a relationship that wasn't using it as a foundation for the relationship is always going to end up as a compromise. It takes two people to make it work... and I think a lot of the comments here forget that.

 

Here's my 2 cents lovely lady:

Strap you one on, interrupt something he is doing.... bend him over, make him feel humiliated... and milk that p-spot so that he can't say you didn't try...

Then tell him later that's the only way he'll find release with AT LEAST a 20:1 ratio of you to his 'milking'.

Bonus points for putting a condom on his cage and making him drink it.

After all, this is what he asked for, beautiful-- and I dare him to complain about it!!

 

Not much sympathy from this crowd.

 

It all went so well until the fantasizers got on this post. What part of "reality" don’t they get? Reality check doesn't mean checking reality at the door.

 

I'm the caged one, not the boss. Also, I've only gone a bit more than a week in full time chastity. The discomfort is bearable and the built up energy seems to give me more energy and focus (especially on her). The discomfort and urge for release are exhilarating for me, and they pass after a bit. Each time I "need" release and am denied, those benefits only multiply. Keep him locked up.

 

OMG! I need release so bad right now!! I asked for this, so I have to live with it. I know it will pass again, but it's taking so long this time.

 

Update: of course I survived the urge, but it was my biggest hurdle so far! I love her so much for taking control and denying my penis to make my decisions for me. I'm becoming a better husband and a better man because of her.

 

I feel the same way. Stay strong.

 

I think the support and encouragement we find on here is wonderful.

 

Like many others here, I need a release really bad. It never really passes but does get bearable.

I use to get embarrassed seeing stains in my panties from the precum daily.

 

Simply put…no he doesn’t “need” to cum. End of story.

Do we want to cum? Do we want to get hard? Do we want to be touched? Yes yes and yes. We don’t need it. We will be fine, just frustrated, which is what my wife prefers. I know it’s a bit mischievous, but she prefers I stay in that needy desperate and pampering stage. Me having an orgasm resets that and does not have a physical benefit for her. I know eventually she will let me cum, but it certainly isn’t something that benefits her so there is little reason to do it often.

 

My wife likes when I have an orgasm.

But I thinks she's starting to figure out that not letting me have one also has some benefits.

My new goal, though: To find ways to reduce the wasted "refractory period". Because if she wants me to have an orgasm, I want to very quickly get back to the husband that I want to be for her.

 

If I'm not locked back up right after an orgasm, everything goes sideways.

 

We're also in the process of having learned that lesson.

 

My Wife allowed me many orgasms per month over the first couple years of playing with the cage. We learned it only took me 2-4 days to fully recover and be back to my eager to please and serve submissive space. Now over this last year and half or more, I’ve learned my Wife must not enjoy waiting those 2-4 days as often any more.
This year it’s mostly ruins, and we’ve discovered that if she only gives me orgasms by handjob and I lock up right away, the subdrop isn’t even a day any more. Plus she’s good helping me stay submissive.

 

The one possible thing to keep in mind are the studies that show a link of frequent ejaculation to lower risks of prostate cancer. The thinking is that frequent ejaculation expels toxins out of the prostate more frequently than the body would normally do on its own. Frequent release also would attract more blood flow and resources that might help keep the cells healthier and aid the immune system.

The biggest study on this showed that the benefit required very frequent release. Upwards of about 20+ times a month over a period of years to get the benefit. In this case the study showed it cut risk of prostate cancer up to 1/3rd if been doing it a long time.
Now this isn't something that is very heavily studied. Nothing is solidly proven. There have been some smaller studies since that big one. Some have found a benefit and some found no benefit at all. It is also unknown if prostate "milking" provides the same benefit or not. There would need to be more study to try and find a cause or eliminate other variables.

If a guy has multiple people in his family with prostate cancer, he may want to speak to his doctor concerning his risk factors and whether ejaculation frequency is something he should be concerned with.

Beyond that, it is not medically necessary to orgasm.

 

The precursor for cancer is inflammation

Genetics play a huge roll, but semen retention can cause inflammation of the prostate, ejaculatory ducts, seminal vesicles, etc

The trick is to expell seminal fluid before inflammation of those structures

Everyone is different, but I've learned for me, more than 5 days will cause inflammation


Orgasm isn't important, per se, but some type of release is needed, with a variety of factors kept in mind

Family history being one of the biggest

 

All I can go off of is my own personal labs of course, but when I started TRT, it was a couple years before we started chastity and we still had sex on average 35-40 times a month and now 6 years later (4th in chastity)
and orgasms down to a ruin or two and one full per month, and my PSA level is always either 1.25 or 1.2.
I was very worried that chastity may drive that number up, but so far as my age is obviously going up, and my orgasms are being taken away more and more, my psa hasn’t been any different.
My maternal Grandfather had prostate cancer but he had it at almost 90 years old, and that wasn’t what ended his life.
And if I remember correctly, odds are that if we live long enough, we’re all probably going to get prostate cancer. But I’m not a doctor and I’m sure like everything else, there’s 40 articles that prove whatever point of view you’re looking for lol

 

Actually, it's recommended to not ejaculate for at least 48 hours before a PSA test. When you ejaculate, the prostate releases slightly more antigen into the blood. This is normal and temporary. However, the test is so sensitive it might pick up this spike and give a inaccurate result. So chastity might actually give a more accurate number as far as that test is concerned.

Yes, most men eventually develop cancer cells in the prostate at some point. And most won't ever spread outside the prostate. Which is why just watching it and not doing anything is one option that is sometimes taken. And if you are normal after age 75, some doctors may not even bother with the screenings anymore. The danger zone is especially between ages 50-70. It's key to catch it early in that window, if it forms.

 

My record is currently 51 days with no release, I could have and wanted to go longer for my Queen, but she enjoys making cum, when I least expect it. We love to break records so no doubt she’ll push me longer at some point.