real life update

How long have you been doing this?

 

You're trying to make this all about yourself. Sorry, but this is exactly what a chastity marriage is like for most people except they don't get sex every couple weeks. Boring 99% of the time and frustrated all the time is normal. She's not the one asking for her privates to be locked up. Consider yourself lucky for now because your once every 2 weeks will soon go to once a month and then a couple times a year. If she gets more dominant it won't be to satisfy one of your urges, rather it will be for her to get what she wants. Anyways that my experience for the past 20+ years.

 

Thanks for sharing.

 

Oh gosh. Locked up for her pleasure. Let out only every couple of weeks… sounds awful. How do you cope

 

What about finding things that require no work or effort for her, allow intimacy and aren't directly sexual. My wife rarely turns down foot rubs, body rubs, back rubs. If she does turn them down, it wasn't awkward to ask about or any thought of rejection if she said no. Again almost always a yes on those, but just saying no huge emotional dip to ask or feel rejections if she says no as would happen for bigger fantasies. Those are all still huge turn ons for me. They aren't at the level of getting teased by her or me going down on her but it's enough to keep the plane moving fast enough to hold altitude. Another habit we backed into is going to bed at the same to watch tv and "snuggle." I have my arm around her with my hand caressing her ass; her head is on my chest and she fondles or just holds on to my balls. We sort of melt into each other and fall asleep; it's awesome and really cute actually. She'll typically fall asleep before me and still holds a grip on to my balls even after making subtle readjustments. It feels so submissive and so manly at the same time. We have kids in high school and middle school, so this is all stuff I can do in plain site.

But in general, I'm making the cliché "meet them where they're at" recommendation. I'll also leverage things / technologies we're already using like send her a calendar invite for date night. The whole timing and mentioning of release is always tricky. It can really take the wind out of your sails when you hit 14 or 21 days for the first time and were expecting a build up to some great make out session and she forgot. I don't want to nag, ask or talk about release or anything sexual too much, so after I do get a release, I send out a day long event (so it is just at the top of the calendar, not getting in the way of her normal calendar etc) "Last Release - 1 week" then another 2 weeks out for 2 weeks etc etc. That has been an innocuous way for release to just come up as small talk.

I hope those idea helped- good luck!

 

Happiness is a state of mind. You did get what you asked for. I would do backflips if I got "it" every 2 weeks!

BUT if it bothers you then you probably need to have a talk. One where you indicate what works and what doesnt and then spend the remaining time listening.

Not trying to bust your chops, pretty sure you were mostly venting but hoping to get a bit of feedback so just trying to mirror...

 

I had to meet my wife at the foot rub stage. For me foot rubs are on par with PIV or close. It’s all about working to get her there.

she doesn’t tease me a ton either throughout the day but I can help my self with the tease during the foot rub.