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Discussion in 'Online chastity and self locking' started by Thatgirl, Feb 16, 2018.

  1. Thatgirl
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    This, ladies and gentlemen, is why I never have my mini chat on. Like most KH on here, I get a decent amount of these random emails. Me and my guy decided to mess with him this time and told him to send a $100 check and his key to me and I’d be happy to hold his key. We will see if he reads this thread. If he does, we will have proof that he actually takes some level of deeper interest in CM instead of signing up just to troll for random key holders.

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  2. L-u-c-y
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    I had the same.
     
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    Most likely a rando then. Sad.
     
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    Got your answer,
    I do take deep interest
    It's just like since I don't have any keyholder, I m kinda desperate to get one
    Therefore asking out many of them just in hope that atleast one will agree.
    Rando, sad? huh?
    Don't be sad no more, not a RANDO
    and $100 is not a big deal for me.
    I was very decent you could have replied with a no
    Why did you create such a big issue out of it?
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    Throwing everything at the wall and see what sticks. I get it, I have a buddy that goes to the bar that way. He hits on every single woman that comes in. He figures even if only one in a thousand say yes...that means just 999 no’s before magic happens.

    Although here, if you take the time to open up minichat or send a message, you certainly have the time to read their profile and decide if she would like the advance.

    Just me though, I don’t have a lot of people asking.
     
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    I can't quite see the problem. The request was polite enough and if you have no interest then just a simple "No". will end the matter. QED.
     
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    I was trying to prove a point. You’re not the first random guy to message me and I’m sure not the last. Many KH deal with this on here. The polite thing to do would be to strike up some conversation first and then broach the subject instead of flat out asking somebody to hold your key. I’m glad to see you read the thread. It’s just strange to me that somebody who just signed up, has no information his profile and has no activity at all messages KH here before anything else.

    If you took the time to read my profile, you would see that I am married, which means for me that I have no interest in holding anyones key besides my husband’s. I hope you find the KH of your dreams, there are some on here that would take you up on it I’m sure, especially since you seem so generous. Mods, feel free to lock this thread since I’m sure it will turn into a sh**show.
     
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    @Mistress B - from your response one could be forgiven for thinking that unwanted direct solicitations from men hasn’t been a near constant complaint from female members and mods here for as long as I’ve been visiting the site.

    Apparently for you, at least as far as Thatgirl is concerned, the absence of obscenity or vulgarity is all that’s required for a behavior countless women (including yourself) have bemoaned to go from something akin to a cardinal sin to something “you don’t see a problem with”. I find that interesting in this context on a number of levels.

    But anyway, Thatgirls chosen response was at my suggestion. A similar response she/we’ve made many a time, generally garnering either perfect silence, or mildly amusing anger.

    If it’s okay for men to solicit women en-masse here on CM, it should be okay for women to allow themselves a little fun here and there in their responses (as long as nobody involved uses naughty words of course - because THAT would make it inappropriate of course).
     
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    Joroincharge Lock em up - 24/7/365!!

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    I agree. I don't really use chat but do get PMs requesting I be a KH from time to time, and it's easy enough to reply politely.
     
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    It's okay, I don't need to lock it.
    It's your point of view, let it be there.
    And since you are more experienced than me, I do respect your advice of how to approach KH's and in future will definitely be on this mark only.
    Thanks :)
     
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    Since I m new, I will definitely learn something here and will update my profile asap so that it looks genuine.
     
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    @Slave rahul Maybe try to dress up your profile some. An appropriate avatar would be a great start - no caged cocks/male nudity per forum rules. Also, some more information on your profile would be good - what you are looking for, etc. Be active here, engage in threads that catch your eye, make friends. Be sure to read a KH’s profile to see if she is attached/single/looking for a slave or whatnot and you may find women who are more receptive. Good luck.
     
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    Yeah sure
    Will definitely try on this.
    Thanks
     
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    And sorry again if I hurt you in anyway.
    If I did, it wasn't my intention.
    Peace ✌
     
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    maybe this thread should be mandatory reading for all new members.
     
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    The fact that the pm had no vulgarity or obscenities is precisely why I found it strange that it had upset your wife. It may have been direct and to the point but the member is new and is just trying to find a key holder. He has since apologised for his directness on this thread. There are some members that do send upsetting pm's and I may have complained about those.
     
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    Joroincharge Lock em up - 24/7/365!!

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    I indorse this. FYI I also had similar PMs from same new member, which I can see might well have been upsetting to some. But they were not malicious. And whilst they were unwelcome to me, I took them on the chin and did not take offence and directed the member to a more appropriate area. As I am sure he will corroborate. He was and is a new member and honest and to the point anent what he sought and seeks and i wish him well.
     
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    @Mistress B @Joroincharge ... while this thread somehow is Only talking about whether the PM was rude / vulgar / etc ... I personally (while those may have been the words used) do not take that understanding from @Thatgirl ... what I take from her statement (no matter what words were used) is that it can be ANNOYING at best for a female on this forum because men will log on and seek out every female here and PM them (whether they are polite or not) in an effort to fulfill their fantasy.

    Specifically @L-u-c-y (Partner) @Mistress B @Joroincharge @Thatgirl all state that they received PM's from him (again not about him specifically or the tone of his message) but the fact that as a female here it is sad that you most expect to get PM's requesting KH'ing ... when 3 seconds on their profile would tell you they are NOT interested.

    So I would say that @Thatgirl was pointing out that the question of "why spouses / female KH (my wife as example) are not members here" or active here is because they don't want to deal with issues such as these.

    Of course there is a setting preventing Chat ... etc etc etc ... however the simple fact that a male can become a member (member currently being discussed is only 1 week old here) and start PM'ing in a matter of moments is probably not the best idea particularly a male member being able to PM female members ... while I have stuck with the term PM it is to include the idea of Chat as well.
     
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    Joroincharge Lock em up - 24/7/365!!

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    Thanks for that @danleft1 But TBH I don't get a huge amount and I accept those I do get as
    part of the territory.

    And the other side of the coin is I also sometimes - less often though - get constructive PMs from brand new F members who've plainly only just delurked.
     
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    Joroincharge Lock em up - 24/7/365!!

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    So true. And no way of knowing who they are as anyone can look at the site as Guest for an indefinite period before deciding to join when the time comes that the like what they see enough to be a part of it. And I've no problem with that at all.Then also there are members who join, do nothing awhile and then suddenly start up as if from nowhere. One recently (and someone I think you in fact reported it) had joined when the site started in 2008, and only just now surfaced substantively to post something. Truth is often stranger than fiction!
     
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    Clearly I'm, losing my sex appeal, he didn't pm me:D:D:D:eek:.
    Unusually I'm on the fence with this one.
    @Thatgirl highlights the fact that some effort on profiles (creating and reading) would assist those seeking, who's not interested. I have had persistent pleas for KH and Femdom and occasionally I shall go a little nuclear! I have received an OPs bank account details to plunder as I so wished. Very tempting, but very dangerous. He was lucky, he got me, not some scam artist who could have blackmailed him to ruin. It does however show the depths and desperation some males will go to, to feed their sexual fantasies.
    I'm not bothered by random KH requests, the ignore function will be used for those who try and mess with me too much. I do get the occasional kick from the power trip such requests may garner. The one thing you can say about this guy, he's unlikely to be a fake.
    Happy days.
     
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    @thatgirl.your profile reads"Life is good. I love being a Owner KH Wife to such a good boy;)"
    it doesn't say you aren't looking for others
     
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    Nicoftime The suspense is terrible...I hope it lasts

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    It also doesn’t say she isn’t looking for a lot things...she said she is a wife, that should be enough to perhaps find her own subs if she were looking for more. I am surprised this has gotten so many mixed responses.
     
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