Im a bit surprised to be here today. My wife and I are a plan straight heterosexual couple with (teenage) kids living your basic busy suburban lifestyle. My wife is very vanilla and has a lower sex drive then me. I think our issues are probably an old story. A bit too busy to give our relationship the time it deservers, a bit of neglect, and before long Im on a cycle where Im taking care of myself more and more. (The internet is for porn). Being so vanilla, it was difficult to introduce a CB (using a 6000) but I really needed my wife back. I felt like I needed help stopping the cycle I had fallen into, and I also desired for her to take some (hopefully positive) steps with our relationship. I have never really viewed myself as a submissive, or my wife as a Dom. I (believe) I would be willing to give up control if it will help us. And I thought there was a small possibility my wife might like to be in control. She has subtly used her charms to successfully curtail, or outright make impossible, most of the kinky things I have periodically wanted to try (which I have found frustrating). Well she didnt really understand or take to the CB affair. The last 6 months have been a hellish rollercoaster ride. The last fight was bad and she finally, too my surprise, read one of the resources I had pointed her at. (Yes, up until this point she had consulted any adult material). That night she told me she read the web site I pointed her at and asked a few questions, like do you really want to be locked up at night? and you know this says Im supposed to let you have only 1 orgasm a week. She then asked me to rescue the CB and to give her the key, and that from what she read this was supposed to be about her getting pleased and enjoying this and thats what was going to happen. Its not been a week yet, but its like a switch has been flipped. She has me lock up every morning before work (and she checks), teased a few times telling me Im not going to get released or that she read I should take care of her while being locked up, and this morning after I was locked thats exactly what she did! I know its not a lot by the standards here, but its been 3 days and after this morning Im ready to burst. I have to stay fully busy. Whenever theres a down moment my dick begs for attention and its driving me crazy, or maybe desperate is a better word. My lovely wife has not kept my locked over night yet, but I doubt I can be trusted tonight. I have to tell her I just hope I can do that without making she doesnt get upset.
underwraps, It sounds wonderful. I think you should be completely honest with her. Tell her you're loving it, but you're SO horny, you're afraid you'll cheat. Best of luck! arty-075: mikecb
Outstanding! Being locked overnight is the hardest. Once you get use to that then you are about ready to go 24/7 and for longer than a week. Just wait for your wife to see the change you are about to go through. She will want you in it forever!!!
Congratulations and welcome to the vault! It is great to meet new members in this way. Please make sure you avoid topping from the bottom as much as possible and you will quickly see the benefits of this lifestyle. Of course you are about to see the drawbacks as well~chuckles~ if you can call them that! Best of luck and remember communication is key so follow the advice above and keep the lines of communication open. by the way the nights suck so be warned you asked for it!
I do feel like Im topping from the bottom a little bit. E.g., I felt like I made the decision to stay locked up at night. Im also getting more sex than ever. :jumping0046: Two times so far this week, and I would imagine a there's another coming this weekend. I shouldnt complain because its great, but I am concerned. This morning she found 3 things I didnt do that she didnt like, and then proceeded to ride me hard until I got off. And Im pretty sure she and didnt have an O herself. But on the other hand she locked me right back up, and while the sex was great its been some number of hours and I swear my thingy is more frustrated now then when I woke up! I probably could have gone twice in a row earlier.
I am so happy for you both, it sounds like a good thing you have going. She may naturally ask you for more lock up time one day, and it may be a good idea to bring it up, but if she says no the first time, asking repeatedly may annoy her. You don't want that of course! Vanilla women as well as Dommes can understand that: "The best way to control a man is to control his orgasms" but they approach it quite differently. The fact that she is playing with contolling your orgasms sounds like too much fun to ever risk losing from asking or pushing for too much of a good thing.
3 weeks.. Its been a couple of weeks and I thought Id make a quick update. It seems as if my wife is clearly interested in keeping me under lock and key. Currently I get unlocked every morning to shower, and shes clearly made it a habit of popping in on me unannounced if Ive gotten up before her and am in my office to verify Im locked back up. We had a couple of days where I was unlocked due to irritation of the A-ring and she was far more ready to call me healed where I had wanted an extra day to be sure Shes also keeping me locked up at night now. There was no real discussion. It happened a couple of times as she went to bed early or something, and now its just expected. I havent found it to be a real problem. The biggest issue is in the early morning if I have to wake up and pee. Everything is so scrunched in the tube that peeing can hurt if Im not careful. The solution is to wait until things shrink a bit and then its no problem. An unanticipated side effect is Im getting more sex then I have in a very long time (since our kids were born). So far its been 2+ times a week and its been great. But while its a lot by standard here, the waits are actually starting to get challenging at times. Significantly more challenging than initially. But it also means I get good and hard pretty easily, which in turn is making my wife horny too. The biggest challenge was two Saturdays ago she surprised me and was totally gone by the time I woke up, and didnt return until noon. OMG! I cant believe what that did to me. It doesnt seem like getting let out for a shower is that big of deal, as Im being well behaved (and shes been spot-checking that too). But for some reason it must be. Anyway it only happened that once so far. (The following Saturday we needed to travel so I sort of wonder if she noticed and what tomorrow will bring) Lastly the other night she mentioned my less than stellar record of doing some of the things she wanted me too. That she had read that this was expected. I told her Ive been trying, but so far its all be carrot and no stick (I wasnt brave enough to tell her that if she made me wait a complete 7 days I would probably do anything she asked).
Let's hope she does not read this like my wife does! LOL by the way one comment I would add is this. There is nothing wrong with your wife is giving you sexy a couple times a week. As long as She is controlling when you have sex then She is still in control. This does not have to be all about denial. the point is to make sure you are saved for Her and Her alone. That sounds like She has well under control so enjoy and let things go. By the way you probably will do anything She wants after 7 days!
Underwraps, I hope you appreciate how good you have it! Your relationship appears to be developing in both positive and exciting directions. Respectful
Great to hear that things are going so well. I completely agree with xcitex2, it is about her being in control. Whatever that means. Just do what she tells you to do and be happy (or try to be happy) with it. If she is reading (or anything like my wife), the discipline will come in one way or another. Perhaps she is putting you through a high sex rotation so that the "famine" that she has planned for you will hurt even more :anim_63:
The description of "its like a switch has been flipped" sounds very familiar. This also sounds familiar. Very familiar........ I wouldn't be too sure... (That is what i thought also and i was sooo wrong.) Now, when she is seeing the benefits of having you locked up, are you prepared for the future? Very interesting and fun reading your story, it is very similar to ours. sophia
I agree with the above, My Mistress has a higher sex drive and although I am not locked up yet she controls when I have sex or Orgasm. Of course she Is only using me to Orgasm herself. Sometimes I am lucky to Orgasm most of the time I am not. Good Luck with your Journey, Exciting isn't it?
Thanks for everyones kind words. Its been a while so I thought Id check in again. Chastity play with us is pretty similar as before. My wife is not demanding but she likes having me locked up and I try to please her so Im locked up pretty consistently. Most every day (had a few scattered days off for misc issues), night, when we are out with friends, etc.. She either gives me the key in the morning or leaves it out. I shower, dry off, lock back up and head to work. Most mornings shes around and locks the lock herself, but shes always around to get the key back. Sex has slowed down slightly from greater than twice a week to a little less than twice a week. Which probably sounds like a lot, but it doesnt feel like enough for me. I.e., Im horny quite often while locked up. Especially when I dont have anything to do (like now). I think most of her motivation is that the sex is better for her, and not so much about the control aspect. Im always very hard now, with lots of cum, and to a large degree its on her schedule now which I think she likes too. After sex is one of the main times Im uncaged and not necessarily locked right back up. Shes satisfied and trusts I can behave for a bit. Which is a bit of a crutch for me at that moment. (E.g., Ive cheated during some of the unlocked time). Ill probably have to introduce getting locked up after words, but it will be a challenge. The big news is that shes travelling for a week. I offered to lock up with the plastic serial numbered locks and email her pictures to record the times of the changeovers, but she wasnt interested. She wouldl still like me to be chaste, she just doesnt want pictures in email about it. I couldnt come up with anything easier, so Im trying to pull a mikecb and have some self control. Shes gone, and Ive been locked up on the honor system for a day now, and Im going to try to go the whole 9 days. Im also trying to go 2 days in a row with no release, which I suspect it make the second day a lot tougher as I now commonly get a woodie in the shower soaping up anymore. I will be sure to post the outcome. I just hope I dont have to hang my head in shame.
Could you not just leave the CB on for the time she's away? You don't say what type of device you have, but if it's one of the CBxxxx's you could just leave it on for the nex 9 days or so, giving it a good clean in the shower with cotton buds each day for example. Mine stays on 24/7 and I shower daily, although it comes off once a week for a real good clean (the device and my cock!). It can be done, just put it on, lock it up and forget about it! :anim_25:
I really enjoyed Reading this thread and how your wife is slowly getting more and more into keeping you locked. It reminds me of how chastity became a big thong for us too. I too had a porn addiction and we had drifted apart a little sexually. At first I was put in chastity as punishment and it helped break the cycle as well as my darling feeling she was giving me so ething I really wanted. As time has progressed my addiction has subsided and we have become closer and more loving. What started off as punisment and control has become a game we both enjoy and she likes keeping me locked most of the time now. It's not the only thing that has helped us but it has been great. I love hearing that your wife is making sure you behave in the shower and is happy to lock you at night and when she's away. It really is the most delightfuly frustrating thing to know she is away with the keys when left to your own devices you would normally wank. I remember the first tome is was locked up by her, it is so intense but I have been able to build with her pushing the duration further and further. It does get a little easier but when that earlier morning frustration is there I would still give anything for release..
my record is 13 days in my CB3000 without removal for any reason. i showered daily using the hand held spray and lubed twice a day with baby oil.
I find that using a CB3000 and a KSD often gives me little cuts from the pressure of trying to get hard if I have it on for more than about 10 days. I wish I could leave it on more but the reality is it's easy for little cuts to develop slowly and when I we were new to chastity I was locked 24/7 for three weeks (she likes to see me suffer), I got a really bad cut that I wasn't even aware of till I took the cage off. You should be ok for a week at time especially with a night off once in a while though. Self discipline is much harder.. Once you start to cheat its hard to stop..
lock yourself up and pop the key in the post box and mail it to yourself second class post it will be back in a couple to three days and you wont be tempted, and what a laugh if it goes astray!:scared0016:
I have a KSD G3 and have worn it for yonks now. I can't remember when I got them (I'd have to look at my bank statements), but my CB6K has been on 24/7 since Nov 08 (except for a full weekly wash/clean of both my cock and the device), so I reckon I have had the G3s on for at least 6 months. No pain or bleeding for me (I use the middle sized one). HTH.
I have (or am captive in :evilgrin0010 a cb6000. Up until my wife left on vacation it's been off every morning for a shower and cleaning, but then right back on. My kh is very vanilla anyway you guys have given me some courage and I will try to keep it on for 3 or 4 days before taking it off for a good washing. I already tried 2, and when I chatted with my wife on the phone that seemed to interest her so who knows Its been 5 days so far, on my own, and Ive managed to be good. It is getting more difficult. I think Im only half way there. I hope next time she manages the lockup while she's gone.
Self discipline is the harder, I was releaved to be locked again today as I knew I was close to losing control after 24 of my 28 days. She came up with a great deterrent though, any cheating and no chastity play for 6 months. I can't lie when I look her in the eye.
"Once you start to cheat its hard to stop.." Hmmm just found this thread. Is there something you want to tell me emsprisoner?
Emsprisoner, your in trroouble!!!!!! Although looking at your mistress you try to stay in trouble allot.:whipbang:
No Mistress, I have been behaving properly even unlocked. It's taken a huge amount of will power but I want to do it for you. I couldn't lie even if I did cheat anyway.