I was looking for this subject on here, and could’t find it. I apolize if it’s duplicated somewhere else. Anybody else relegated to the guest room. She was clear the master bedroom is hers, and I am only welcome in when invited. We used to have challenges, argue about the covers, etc. Now its her room and bed. She snores… REALLY loud. I have mixed feelings about this. Has this happened to anyone else? If so, Did it help or hurt your marriage? Maybe we both get a better night sleep. thoughts?
I know of couples that regularly sleep apart. They come together for sexy time, then go off to sleep in separate rooms. Snoring is usually the driver behind this. I'm sure it doesn't help if there is nothing else going on to make up for it, but with the right conditions it probably improves things to be honest.
If my wife told me to sleep in the guest room, I would do as I was told. It sounds like you're a submissive like myself. If she says the Master bedroom is hers and you're only allowed in it with permission then so be it. She controls your chastity I'm assuming. I would see this as just another step in the D/s lifestyle. Consider yourself lucky she has control of your marriage like this. She sounds like a strong willed woman. I know of a few submissive males that sleep in other rooms.The Master bedroom is off limits to them unless they're invited in. IMHO, I think this would strengthen a marriage that is involved in the D/s, caged lifestyle. Just my two cents.
We're not there yet and I don't think we will ever get that far. I'm not sure I'd want to? It's Her bed, that's for sure, and I ask permission before getting in every night. But it's our bedroom and the thought of not being close/cuddling at night would bum me out. I need that just as much as strictness and discipline.
We allways sleep together. She loves me petting her as she falls asleep. She calls me her heating blanket. Can not even imagine not sleeping together
We sleep together. If I notice she is having trouble sleeping, or is restless, I will gently rub her back until she falls back to sleep. She likes that. Nonetheless, in your situation, I think you have reached full FLR status when she has you make HER bed every morning. I’m just kidding. I think many couples sleep apart for the reason you stated. I hope sleeping apart is not too hard for you.
My best friend is in a more or less egalitarian marriage, and they sleep apart for a few reasons including snoring. This has been going on for years and they’re still together.
i got my own bedroom but it only cos i fidget lots in bed and it wake Mistress. i have sometime fidget that much that i fall out of bed and that make a row as well. i am allow in Mistress bed when She dont have work in the mornings like Friday and Saturday nites.
I’ve ended up with my own room, well the spare room or as my Queen refers to it as the Maid’s room and as a confirmed submissive I quite like that. We more often than not do go to the same bed together and if I am lucky I get to pleasure her with my mouth, fingers or one or some of her toys. I’m lucky to be kept in panties every evening and panties are my chastity cage, tease and edging is allowed but not orgasms without permission. Once I’ve had a few hours sleep anything will wake me up and as my Queen talks in her sleep and dare I say it snores also I am normally making my way to the maids room come 2am (ish). I don’t mind as it gives me another chance to tease and edge myself for a while before trying to go back to sleep for a couple of hours, I’m normally back up come 5am femmed and ready to do some chores around the house.
Haven't slept with Mrs Chaste for many years due to her snoring! Started when she was in her late 40's! It's more the pitch I think although she can be very loud sometimes. When we stay away in a hotel I wear moulded ear plugs! Never been a problem at all for us.
I suspect it's pretty common, particularly among older people. Snoring is the number one reason. Blanket snatching, tossing and turning too.
The only problem we have with separate rooms is the fact that I'm sometimes visited by "The Cock Fairy". When I'm safely tucked up and fast asleep I'm sometimes woken in the dark by a woman playing with my caged cock! She likes to tease me until I'm stiff and bulging to escape. Then she stops and leaves! She never says a word! When I mentioned it to Mrs Chaste, she denied all knowledge and said she thought it must be the naughty Cock Fairy! Sometimes she doesn't come in for 2 or 3 weeks and sometimes I can get 2 or 3 visits in one night. I just never know!
I can understand your mixed feelings on being told to sleep in the spare room. It’s like even though your wife seems to be taking more control which for most of us is desired, you still feel like you’re losing something in your relationship or it’s changing in a way that you’re unsure of. Since you mentioned she snores really loud, she might have always been embarrassed by this or at least since the snoring started and it makes her self conscious and perhaps not sleeping well herself. Now you’ve given her the power to make those kinds of choices for you. It may not be so much a power move as much as a comfort move for her. Perhaps she is using her influence as a domme to make this move for you more fun and lifestyle related versus because of her snoring. If you sleeping in another room really bothers you, you should approach her about it for more understanding.