Poll: What is your MAIN reason for wanting to be locked?

For me it started with number 5. As a result of jerking off I was in turn losing the motivation to focus on pleasing my wife non sexually and sexually. Big difference now though!

 

first : other reason
it was to secure my Wife when i was at job
but i like it and now it's to reserve my thinks and acts to Her

 

I find it hard to define and harder still to put in order of preference. I regard my being reason (s) for being locked all intertwined.

But for being locked
there are the conbined senses of one's denial is enhanced because I can not cum or I can not get erect are for me far more pleasurable sensations than I MAY not cum or get erect.
Being locked provides reminders that I have consented / requested to be denied by someone that enjoys doing that. it reminds all the time through out the day and in many situations.
There are other sensations too, the senses of being owned or controlled being the ones that most come to mind. There is a feeling sometimes that one is being led around by a hand around one's penis which is by no means unpleasant.


However

If by Locked the opening question means Denied then that requires far more detail but the gist of it is for me in no particular order as I feel its all part of the one thing


I enjoy all the aspects of being denied by My Lady and being locked to ensure that I remain that way.
There is a lot to be said for being locked and denied I particularly enjoy the headfuck of sometimes craving an erection or wanting to cum but preferring that she deny me both.

I can't say I have forgone my own pleasure because being acvtively denied by someone that enjoys doing that and really the sense of control it gives her is the source of my pleasure.

Her conditions are strict and I have not only learned to embrace them whilst hating one of them but through them we are enjoying exploring how my submissive feelings towards or for her I might develop

Have I given up thoughts of sex? Definitely Not... because having the opportunities of bringing my partner pleasure sexually or otherwise is important to me and has for intents and purposes become my desire. I genuinely do enjoy her pleasure as much as she does and I willingly and happily forgo my own to enhance hers.

Given the choice and considering the potential negative feelings one gets and their duration from the drop, the way one's focus can become distracted and how for a time focusing on her and her pleasure may become less important following an orgasm of mine .... I'd not just prefer I'd ask to be denied.

I never have had a porn or jerking off addicition. Not that I'm against it nor am I against very much that gives people pleasure but would argue that addiction is not pleasure.

 

As I originally said, I started Chasity to stop a porn addiction and stop masturbating so I could give more to my wife. I believe that in a good relationship each person gives all they can to meet the needs of the other. After reading some of the journals and blogs on here, I can see that I am in the wrong place. I am not judging any one else, but as for me, I want to cum all I can! I want balance in my life and this is not balance. I wish you all the best.

 

For me, it's a facet of me being a submissive and wanting to be dominated and forced into submission by my Mistress. My fantasy is to have lots of bondage and discipline in my life and chastity is a form of both of those, and also could be considered punishment in a way. And even humiliation if I think about it which also works for me. Plus the part about pleasing my Mistress, and in my ideal world, I'd have a Mistress that would enjoy keeping me in chastity as a way to convey to me the power that she has over me. There's a lot to it for me, all very intense and very much a turn on.

 

There are many of us here that want the same as you. I am locked for all the same reasons as you.

 

For me, it was the first rule when I met Mistress in person after the interview at A BDSM Munch when walking with me out to our Cars She handed me a box in it cb2000 that was 20 years ago and now in a belt

sissy christine

 

They may all be good reasons, but it is because She likes it and wants it that way. I believe that is enough of a reason.

 

For me, it keeps me from masturbating. That's the primary reason, at least. It also turns me on. The wife/gf thing doesn't apply as I'm single.

 

I am turned on by the idea that my wife locks me up to change my behavior to her liking. Huge mind trip.

 

I read through the choices.
One point that is not mentioned is that of giving over all the control of that part of me to Mistress.
She has the total control of that which can bring so much pleasure and there is nothing that I can do. She and she alone has full control. I have given that part of me to her.

 

I'm not sure I want to be locked, but it is something I'm just used to now so remaining locked is my best option.

 

To focus on pleasing my partner also to remind me of my inadequacies as a 'man' x

 

Neither - it is rather a symbol of my submission to my wife and of our relationship in general.

 

For me, yes it turns me on and the humiliation of it is a big part. I self-lock, and can only go a few hours due to a urinary issue (long story) so I lock it up and then partake of media and chat that will cause me to become aroused. My little thing tries to get hard and I can't touch it. Oh yeah...like that.

 

Sorry that its causing you mental anguish.
To me that sounds so hot, though.

 

For me it’s control, having someone else take it from me, the emasculation of chastity is wonderful too.
It would be a real benefit to the world to have all men locked away, the reduction of thinking with the “little head” would benefit everyone.

 

Well for me it changes my mind set after a few weeks i start to feel very feminine and the sissy really comes out in me. I love the feeling of being like a girl alot of times life gets in the way but i try my best to dress up when i can because I'm not comfortable with anyone but my master seeing me this way.

 

At first, because it turned me on, I became interested. Then I bought and wore a device for the first time and it changed me. Now the device doesn't turn me on, porn doesn't really turn me on, I am more focused on my wife non-sexually and as a result we are both more focused sexually as well.

So my main reason for wanting to be locked was because it turned me on. But my main reasons for remaining locked are porn addiction and non-sexual/sexual relations with my wife

 

Looking at the pole it would be interesting to know how people read the question. Whether they answered (past or present) why they first locked or why they remain locked. I chose to answer why I lock up present tense.

 

I got interested as I wanted to keep sexual energy going longer. Like a lot of guys my interest plummeted after orgasm, and when excited it didn't take much to set me off.
I'm not at all into sissification.
It does turn me on wearing a cage.

 

It helps me mastrubatie less

 

Like most men, I always thought of my pleasure before my wife. Sometimes sex would follow a pattern, she would suck me, I would give her an orgasm, then have her suck me some more, and then I’d screw her to completion. When we got to our swinging phase, it was my pleasure or the other guys pleasure, if she came great. Even those times she did her own thing with a few guys, it was all about getting their cock in her and being able to say they fucked a hot babe.

travel was a bright spot, I would be in my hotel at night and find a magazine store and buy a fantasy letter magazine. Some nice hand moisturizer and going to town reading the fantasies or exploits of others. Then a hot shower and a good night sleep dreaming away. My wife is bi and when she had a girl friend over, I would wack off while listening to the two of them.

the change came during our bdsm phase, when I topped her it was my sado part being satisfied and then my physical needs. Her reward was I was tired and satisfied, her orgasm did not factor into the equation. When we started to switch, when she topped I was made to satisfy her multiple times before I got any pleasure. One day she finally said as long as my tongue worked like it does, I would never need my dock.

then chastity came into our life, knowing I will be locked up for 14 days and she wants to play on day 7. If I fail to do a good job, I will be unlocked on day 14, failure will result in me seeing day 21 still locked. It now is all about her pleasure and not mine. I do get rewarded in many ways I never imagined, milked, pegged, pleasing 2 women every now and then, and when the cage is off anything I want with her.

we use chastity as a tool and an enhancement to our lives. Our marriage is solid and we are not only man and wife, but friends. However, when I am naked in nothing but a cage I become her toys, not a bad thing.

 

I voted for this: It helps with porn/jerking off addiction, because I thought it was the best answer. The best way I can put it for me, is that I have this set of genitals, and they shouldn't be touched whatsoever.

 

I answered porn addiction.
I am in a sexless marriage so my only avenue for sexual gratification is through masturbation. After some time the fantasies in my head and all of my wildest and sexiest past encounters were not enough anymore. I started reading erotica and was intrigued with the BDSM stories I read and some included male chastity. I guess that planted the seed. I guess it was about that time I started watching the free online porn teaser videos. Then found some sites that allowed longer viewing. I really loved all aspects of it and started looking up the BDSM scenes. This is where I saw the first man caged. He was teased and forced to please his Mistress and another female Domme. That was it for me. I would play that scene over and over in my head wishing it was me.

Unfortunately for me my wife is SUPER VANILLA! So I knew she would never be interested in dominating me or keeping me in chastity. So I thought I would buy one and see what it felt like to not be able to jack off whenever I wanted. It felt amazing when I locked the little pad lock on. It was a cheap Chinese cage in stainless steel. The weight and tightness was arousing in itself. My cock tried to get hard and was straining against the bars WOW! I was hooked. I started just wearing it around the house at first then out on short trips to the store. I finally decided one day to wear it to work and left my keys at home. It was so emasculating having to sit to pee. Yet it still caused my cock to stir and tighten in it's confined state. Unfortunately it did not wear well I started getting irritation around the base ring and my nuts were getting crushed at times when I had to crouch down. So as soon as I got home I took it off. I decided that all the stories were just "hype" no one could possibly stay locked 24/7 or at least not in a trade occupation as I was in at the time. (welder/metal fabricator)

A year or so later I was searching online and found another cage that looked promising. It was contoured and looked like it would be more comfortable. It was. Finally I could wear it throughout the day with no issues. The problem was I still could unlock whenever I wanted. So I started looking into ways to prevent that. That is when I came across Chastity Mansion and was just a "lurker" reading the posts other members had posted. Soon joined and shortly there after met my BEAUTIFUL @MistressS . Now I had someone who held me accountable. She pushed my boundaries W A Y past my comfort zone. Pleasing her and making her happy in order to have a chance of release became my total focus. So here I am today. A former stereotypical heterosexual man that now shaves most of my body hair, wears panties and stockings and dresses as a woman every chance he gets. That is the power locking a man up can do!

Sorry to be so long. I just couldn't really explain it in just one sentence. To surmise, 1) my porn addiction (or love of, not sure if I am addicted) actually gave me the idea of real life chastity. After being locked, 2) I loved the feeling. After finding my Mistress 3) It makes me focus on pleasing her.
So as others have stated it has been a progression. I have loved it every step of the way.