Poll: What is your MAIN reason for wanting to be locked?

Ying/Yang
Denying myself orgasms over the short term in order to have them more intensely when I do PLUS it turns me on having the wgt squeeze my testicles.

 

All of the above, really. I chose "It makes me focus on pleasing my wife/partner non sexually" because that covers the biggest change when I'm in chastity, but it clearly relates to the other choices. My wife would probably say the same thing usually, but I know she often locks me when she feels I've been masturbating too much.

 

It is impossible for me to pick just one.
I have always known I prefer a woman who knows what she wants.
As I got older I realized I am not nearly as horny as I used to be at a younger age. Being caged and denied an orgasm keeps me as horny as I was at 16.
With that being said. It makes me be a better husband to my wife all around. It keeps me from masterbating. It helps me to keep my focus on her where it should be.
It simply makes life perfect for us both

 

Pretty much all them but they are all related to the porn/ jerking addiction.

 

At first it was a turn on . Then it became more about masterbation control. Over time it has became focusing on her needs in or out of the bedroom. I will probably never stop thinking about sex , because I am a over sex senior citizen, but she has me under control now.

 

My interest has changed from what was a new ‘kink’ (self locking as my wife was completely uninterested in sex following our first child) to, as of 3 days ago, being a compromise based on our still differing libidos.

 

At first it was a curiosity kind of thing, it slowly turned out to be a part of me which I feel nice and secure

 

I don't want to be locked up but my wife insists on it for masturbation control.
I have noticed that being locked up has changed me drastically. My wife and her needs always come first now. She controls any release I might get. Which has been over a year now. November 15th will be 2 years in lock up for me. She loves it. Me not so much. It makes her so happy so It will remain locked until she says different.

 

I think, none of the above. Not sure if there is even a category for me. Due to my wife's health, intimacy is off the table. Plus, she has no desire at all.

So I had this crazy idea. Let's see if a doctor or urologist can do anything to shut this &%$# thing down so it doesn't work anymore. That didn't work out.

Then I had a brilliant idea. Research. Research = Google = Chastity devices.

I tried it. I liked it. I removed it. I didn't like it. I started wearing on and off. On was great. Off sucked. On was really great. Off was miserable. On was incredible. Off was...obsessing over putting it back on.

So I didn't feel like taking off was helping. (Really its because it feels unexplainably great.) So I stopped taking it off. I am feeling much better now. I know that most find some fun in the frustration, because you want the O. For me, the cage has removed all my frustration from not ever having it, with nothing to make me feel good.

Good for her, good for me. We both win. I am permanently locked. She doesn't have to feel bad about life not being normal for me.

If I had to say a reason, it's love and respect. I just didn't know that going out of my way to make such a sacrifice was going to feel so good.

 

That’s a great description, couldn’t put it better, my situation is different you yours , however your summary is perfect, I can’t explain, but it just feels right!
Brilliant post!!

 

It turns me on. A lot. All that sexual tension then goes into me pleasing my wife (sexually). She accepts it for that reason. Shed be happy if I didnt "need" or "want" the chastity part but willingly accepts and plays along because she a) loves me and knows that's what I want and b) has learned to accept the benefits (so the speak) without feeling selfish or that "this is too wierd".

It took time to get to this place, of course.

 

The primary reason for me is that it helps me accept sexual frustration and disappointment without being angry at my Wife

 

It's a turn on for me, and it keeps me from jacking off to porn. In return I can focus more on pleasing my wife. Ultimately, I'm go for quality over quantity.
And I don't judge, but I don't get the never wanting to cum again? One of life's best things!

 

For me it's all of the above. And most of what everyone else said is true for me. I initially tried it out of curiosity and to finally killed my porn addiction. Then it turned into pleasing my mistress sexually, and focusing on her pleasure. And now I focus on pleasing and serving my mistress non-sexually. Chasity changed my mistresses life and my life more than I ever thought possible.

 

Please my wife sexually and turns me on

 

It is way more exciting to want something that one doesn't have. So locked in chastity, makes you want sex more. It is more exciting. For me it simulates being single, where you dont know when you have sex.

 

For me, never cumming means I stay focused on my Wifes pleasure and enjoy her orgasms. I enjoy having PIV sex and withdrawing from my Wife nice and hard when She decides we are done and then being locked up with all of my sexual energy retained

 

Not to say its easy!

 

Number one reason is submission to another person. That's a big thing for me. Number two porn addiction control. That's it really.

 

For me, as a mostly switch Dom in the past who has a deep sub side, I decided I needed to be a better husband. After trying many times, when I asked if She would lock me and/or control my orgasms she agreed and She’s never been happier. Since in and out of cage (but always denied orgasm), I find myself more upset when we don’t get to spend time together unlike the past where I’d edge and masturbate while she was working. So... I chose again to ask because I know I wanted to be a better husband and focus more on her which is happening quick. Now, since orgasms are controlled, as stated in other posts, I vacuum the house on Saturdays and always make sure I have her coffee ready and poured on the table every morning. More chores and training are in the future I am told by her.

 

It's a symbol of transfer of control. I never realized how submissive I was until we tried it.

 

I am drawn to chastity for a few reasons....

Porn/masturbation addiction

To eventually eliminate sexual release from my life completely. I do wish to serve a Mistress or dominant female long term in a non-sexual servitide.

Punishment

 

I think it's a 2 part question: I started for the kink. I don't know why but the idea of being dominated and denied turns me on.

Once I accepted the fact that my vanilla wife wasn't going to change much, I stayed mainly because it makes me a better husband and makes our relationship better.