Poll on how you feel after being granted an orgasm

Use the word "prostate" rather than "anal"...

Yes, it can take time. It took me over 15 years before I could touch her ass.
Now she rolls over onto her tummy when I slide down the bed to give her oral!
Sometimes just don't talk about it but do it. My wife has never discussed it except to object many years ago, but she obviously enjoys it now whereas it was a hard limit before.

 

It's my default configuration

 

None of d above.. i fact i feel guilty.. having experienced a suposedly ilegal pleasure.. regret in d sense tat i shd hv gone longer orgasm free.. feeling obliged to reward my wife or granting her wishes further now tat i hv take in som pleasure instead of her being satisfied…

 

Maybe an hour or so. I didn't make a point to lock him right away, but he was locked before we went to sleep that night. I could try something different, but I have no idea which way would be better. Should I insist on relocking right away? Should I give him overnight to kind of settle before putting the cage back on? Anything that mitigates that post-orgasm drop would be fine with me. I'll probably just have to experiment a bit.

p.s. I don't mean to derail this thread. I'm getting a lot just from reading everyone's responses to the poll. Thank you!

 

I don't always get the emotional support, and teasing I yearn for from my wife. Life gets in the way, we are busy people. But day two and three after O are when I'm weakest, and want teasing more to feel that feeling a bit. I don't know what's best, but I'm locked up right after. I told her once I should, and she rarely forgets now more than a few minutes. Lol. If I wasn't I would probably try to sneak in one, thinking she wouldn't notice the drop on top of the drop. Then I would probably be even emptier and that 2-3 days might go 2-7.

 

Relock straight away - it's far better. While your hormones might get out of sync, at least that keeps you in the right mindset, you don't need time to start thinking about being unlocked, and all the other negative thoughts that start to creep in.
Well, that's how it works for me, of course experiment but there doesn't seem much point in delaying locking back up unless there's an actual reason not to.

 

While he is still buzzing from the orgasm, what better time. I feel it sends a message. "I'm done with you, I don't need it anymore, it must be locked all the time I don't need it." It's a strong message.

 

Hmmm, maybe my own attitude of not making a big deal about it opened the door a little too much. I'll definitely try immediate locking next time and we'll see if that works better. Thank you both for the suggestion.

 

I LOVE to orgasm and feel so satisfied after. The mood swing and depression dont hit me until after I wake up. So it would be 2 AND 4 if the poll allowed.

 

Rather than worry about what to do after he gets an orgasm, why not work out ways that will keep him happy without an orgasm? There are plenty... ruined orgasm - unlocking, an erection and/or tease and then being locked up again - pegging - him giving you oral.
Yes, even him giving you oral under denial can become a looked forward to treat and give as much pleasure for a locked up guy as penetrative sex used to.

Sometimes I dread it when my wife makes it clear that an orgasm has been granted!
It's a bit like an introvert being asked if they want to party!
No, really, I'm very happy just as I am!

 

I didn’t vote, as you didn’t specify what type of orgasm, and that is the game changer.

 

I 100% agree. I promise that after a week or so to get over it, putting him in permanent denial will be best for both of you. It's like that pressure to cum goes away, he wants it yes, teasing never stops but he just knows and becomes at peace with it

 

I have a feeling of disgust after i've orgasmed, but knew i had that need to orgasm. (if that makes sense)

 

My Wife(KH) and I hate it when she allows me to have a orgasm. She hates the mood swing and I hate starting from zero again. We found that I have to get the cage back on right away. While I'm locked, I want a orgasm so bad, but when the time comes, I some times beg my Wife(KH) not to make me orgasm. She knows how to play me by bringing me right to the edge, then walking away.

 

sleepy?

 

honestly, i feel like a balloon that has been popped. I feel flat, Lazy and soft. (pun intended) I have no motivation and can be rebellious. It feels like time is the air that inflates my balloon where i feel like i'm ready to burst again. It's like a double edged sword. I really love to be granted an release or pleasure my wife, but i also love the floaty high feeling of being that inflated balloon.

 

Make no mistake I am always excited at the prospect that she wants me to ejaculate. I do enjoy the burst but it lasts 30 seconds. I regret it every time, I would rather stay in a state of desire permanently.

But it's not my decision to ejaculate or not to.

 

Exact same here. I think the lock up period has a lot to do with it. After 1-2 weeks I have mind blowing orgasms and I am drawn even closer to my wife. Now if I don't lock up and help myself to a second later on then the drop is real. So I know to lock right back up. I see a pattern here where guys go from weekly to monthly to quarterly and yearly and the corresponding larger and larger drops has their KH pushing the intervals longer and longer, when in reality maybe a shorter interval could keep the emotional bliss going and everyone gets to still have fun. It's a self fulfilling prophesy. Since I have gone from daily up to 3x/day orgasms to weekly/bi weekly they are body twinging, desperately trying (and often failing) to stop letting out a barbaric yalp and loooooong lasting. Just last night we had a great night after 8 days for me and when I finished her comment was "Jesus (insert my name here)!". Followed with "you have a job to do". I still don't know why I talked her into having me do that...

 

Depends how it happens…