Piggys Last Chance

What did it for me was to give up all porn every last bit of it. Porn really clouds your reality and the relationship. I gave it up over a year ago and my life is so much more satisfying.

 

That seems to be the root of the problem for me!

 

There are really good ways to block porn if thats really what you think will help.

 

BK has been talking about doing that with parental controls, but she has not acted on it yet.

 

its not too difficult. look up opendns and she can password protect the router and lock you out.

There is also yourbrainonporn.com. Can help with a lot of explanations about porn addiction. I know personally as most men probably, how porn can put its claws into you. Men are so visual when it comes to arousal. But in the end fantasy cant beat the lovely woman in front of you who is desiring your attention. Good luck.

 

Why put it on his Domme? If you are serious about this and you are admitting that it is the root problem then put on your big boy pants and knock it off. Your view on life will change if you just stop and your kh will bring you highs you never new existed.

For me a year removed from it and it turns my stomach. It took a little will power but I have zero desire to watch porn anymore.

 

Thanks, it looks like a hard road ahead but I really want it. An I hope BK will help me.

 

You have to stop expecting your kh to do it for you. You are putting her in an impossible position.

 

I wish it was that easy, i am an addict and I have been since my early teens. It’s not that I don’t want it I’m just having trouble getting there. But I do appreciate you guys posting and giving us ideas.

 

Not really expecting her to do it for me just asking her to help me

 

I was also 2 to 3 times a day. Look like any addiction the first step is the hardest. Now just walk away from it and within a week or two the urges will subside.

 

I’m ready to do it, you’re right it has to be done. There’s no way around it anymore.

 

@Kristi my KH managed to move on from that stage rather quickly.

 

Even if porn deprivation does not make a difference, you have to try it, otherwise there really is no control at the level you want, without the control there is no meaningful change, it is just a game.

 

It’s not porn deprivation, that imo will not work, I tried it a thousand times. It was looking deep inside myself and figuring out why I was addicted to something. I had to untangle the web in my brain and sort everything out the best I could. I needed to be on solid ground for it to work.

For me it started 2 years ago, I did a lot of self reflection during the first year. And when I gave up porn about a year in I found it relatively easy. I missed the high I would get but, by that point I knew how negatively it was affecting me and I had no desire to be that person ever again.

 

BK talked to me while we were lying in bed tonight. She told me that tonight I go to bed without any porn. she’s also going to come up with a list of things she want me to do in the future. Then she mentioned a few other things I need the stop doing to make this a FLR work. A little while later she thought I was giving her back talk and she came out of nowhere and grab me by the ear and slap me pretty fucking hard Across my face. She has slap me before but I always knew it was coming, and I was kind of a Femdom role-play type thing to get me excited. Not this time, it startled me and she meant it. Needless to say it shut me down and I got an ear full.

I know this is probably novice stuff to some of you that have been into this for a while but I was so proud of her, she jumped in an took control. I was a little proud of my self too. I finally shut the fuck up and listen to her and replied with YES BK while she was telling my how things are going to start changing. I really think that her being on this site has helped her get a real perspective for this lifestyle, not just my perspective/fantasy.

Thanks to all that have posted the real, sane, and obvious ideas for her to use. I’m sure she will pick out all the ones that will work for our relationship.

 

Keep working at it.

There are heaps of ideas out there. But one thing pretty much everyone says is that there is no single correct way to do any of this. What is important is that you find what works for you as a couple. So @BKwife picking out the ideas that might work for your relationship and giving them a go is they way forward. The ideas that BK doesn't feel will work can be discarded. @Gigaman follows where @BKwife leads.

 

Maybe a fun thought is happy wife means healthy husband. So maybe the days of summer don't count unless he tracks 10000 or more steps in day with exercise and / or daily weight loss if over weight.

Something tells me that a chaste husband with a 6 pack and some muscle definition in the same equal way women have been doing for men would be a good recipe in the marriage that is female led.

Since he I believe shared his desires to be ruled my suggestion to the court is a chiseled body man for the wife, and the days of summer are replace with this goal in mind.

What an wouldn't want to consent to looking gkod his goddess?

 

He is indeed very lucky to have an understanding wife like you... how ever i get the sentiment of worrying about him so much... He needs to understand he is a very lucky hubby... very few wives will actually go through with this.

 

Very well said.