Piggys Last Chance

speak to @margarett . She had the same problem of worrying about her boy. She's overcoming that very well now...

 

With some guys it's just a kink or fetish thing and not something they want 24/7; maybe that's the issue.

 

It's hard to see the long term prospects of a relationship when one of the participants is called little piggy.

 

I think this is true for some of us who arent naturally submissive. While some of us love the idea of chastity, submission is difficult. But i'm sure most of us secretly desire that dominance also. But it has to be convincing and somehwhat strict to be effective IMO.

 

r Start with a restrained handjob About 3minutes in add some lube.
Make sure the lube is some icy hot but don’t tell him what it is
Once you’ve massage it into his member and prior to the heat kicking in tell him how disappointed you are with him and tell him your going to leave him now to contemplate his actions
For the next hour he will have a front row seat to his own weenie roast

 

Like BK said it’s just a pet name. I think your reading to much into it.
And I am a little more than a participant, we are wife and husband, lovers, best friends, and of course Mistress and her male pig

 

Have lil piggy change its name on here, at least on a temp basis, and let it be earned back

 

forty years and you still don't respect your wife's wishes. She has had the short end of the relationship by your own admission, yet you expect the fulfillment of your selfish desires to fix these character flaws? Kink, and chastity are powerful, but they can't overcome ignorance, or self-centeredness. You have diagnosed your problem, yet you expect her to fix it; you've set her up to fail yet again for your own ego preservation. Just my thoughts and as always I could be wrong

 

Good. Have never seen the name little piggy ever used in LT marital relationship. I am amazed, but confess I don't like the term. (To put my cards on the table.)

Be well.

 

Ignorance no, self-centeredness sometimes. Not really looking for BK to fix it, I am asking her to help me with it. She always has been and probably always will be better at relationships and intimacy than I am. Your words are a little harsh but they’re true and I accept them. We will work through this even though we’ve been trying for a couple years, we’ve been together for a long time and we worked through a lot bigger things than this. BK and I are here for support, ideas, and words of wisdom to help us through this. And while I don’t agree with everything that’s posted I do respect and appreciate Everyone that took the time to reply.

 

Everything worthwhile takes work and dedication. I hope you both find solutions that suit your situation! Best of luck.

 

When subs get over that hump, some can truly flourish... if you stay on it, as well. Glad you've joined us here.

 

I had no intention of being harsh, or unthinking, I only wanted to bring new perspective, best of luck

 

Thanks I could use some luck right about now. And what you said was true, it’s just a little hard when someone points it out to you, and you know it’s true.

 

I can't get bf to go fast enough. I seem to be the rare case on this forum where I introduced chastity, CD and spanking to him.

 

I don’t think this kind of dynamic can fix a relationship, but like you two are doing, can help adjust some habits and priorities. There is no shame in admitting you have problems with certain areas and needing help to adjust.

I myself have come to understand that I tend to shut down, not communicate, act a bit selfishly, and lose a lot of attentiveness. I have welcomed the chastity and discipline that apparently I need to keep me being a better partner. Is it fair or right that it’s needed? Maybe not, but the end result is a very happy couple...the ends justify the means in our minds.

Good luck

 

Thanks for the post, I think everyone knows that BK has a couple of threads going and everything revolves around my inability to conform, submit , or behave. I do have a hard time separating fantasy from reality and that’s clear to me now. All I know is I have been dreaming of this stuff for almost 40 years and that puts me 38 years ahead of BK in the FemDom FLR chastity lifestyle. That a lot of fantasy time and it really fucks up your head. FF to now and I am left with the realization that it is mostly fantasy and I am getting older and there’s only so much time I have left to have this lifestyle. It’s not a reason to act the way I do or the treat her the way I do, it’s just what’s going on in my head right now.

I know I need to do better, and as far as BK goes She’s doing a fantastic job. She is dealing with it the best way she can with the information she has on hand. Remember I’m 38 years ahead of her. I need to buckle down and give Her a chance to run this the way she wants to, and become a keyholder she wants to be. you think after all this time I’d be comfortable with it, but it’s really scary to give up total control!!

I wish I could fix this all in one big step and be done with it. But it looks like it’s baby steps for me, a little time. And I’m grateful that BK stays with it as long as we have forward motion.

Thanks to all that reply to her and try to give her support and help I know she appreciates opinions other than mine So she can get some clarity on the situation and not just my fantasy world opinion.