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    #1 Anonbipinoy, Jul 9, 2020
    Heya! So I'm new to ANYTHING chastity related, but had noticed my sensitivity was going down. After doing some research I came to think that it was excess masturbation that did it. But im really bad with willpower when it comes to my cock. Now my GF doesn't know about this side of me, we have yet to do anything sexual, which is fine, it's her first relationship so I'm fine with letting her be the first to approach the situation. The most we do is some simple touching over clothes, thats it. But because of that im not ready, or don't think she's ready, to find out i sometimes wear a chastity cage. Now the reason I wear it sometimes is to curb the urge to masturbate. But I only wear it when I watch porn then I usually take it off and just go to bed. I've never masturbated in my bed, nor have I ever felt the need to. Its simply the time when I watch porn where I touch my cock. I guess my question is do you think wearing it only during those times is enough to help regain some sensitivity? Or is it required to actually be in the cage 24/7?
     
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    #2 Anonoman, Jul 9, 2020
    Ignoring moral arguments to porn so purely a practical, physical note... I believe excessive use over a long period can also reduce your sensitivity to stimulation. This may especially true now that there is a vast depth of types that never used to be readily available. When it was just black and white pages 3s of ‘tits and fannys’, that was one thing but now with HD video of everything and anything, it’s easy to get drawn into deeper and darker stuff looking for a bigger and bigger fix. That, I believe in the long term, can also lead to real life physical encounters being underwhelming. :eek:

    Personality it sounds to me you need to limit the time when you simply watch porn! :rolleyes:

    Unless your GF seems that way inclined, it does sound like your not at the point of discussing chastity yet. But it’s a good game to play on your own too :+1:
     
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    #3 Jessica Alexander, Jul 9, 2020
    I think it’s the abstaining from orgasm to regain sensitivity, not wearing the cage. So if you can just wear it during your times of high temptation, it should work. You can buy a Kitchen Safe on Amazon that lets you lock the keys for up to 10 days. You could set it for two hours or set to release 5 minutes before you need to leave in the morning.
     
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    #4 Guest 2684, Jul 9, 2020
    Start wearing 24/7 and slowly star a cover station with her. I started doing chastity to stop masterbating be ready when she is.
     
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    #5 MissyB, Jul 9, 2020
    Using it to limit your masturbation seems useful. Your relationship with your gf seems really early on to have any kind of discussion about chastity. If you've not explored intimacy beyond what you've described I see no point to introduce anything outside of that. At some point she may be open to it. But if you two are still fully clothed while you kiss or hug, then you should go slow. Good luck and enjoy.
     
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    #6 King Hippo, Jul 9, 2020
    I don't understand... you lost sensitivity in your penis over how long?
     
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    #7 Jessica Alexander, Jul 9, 2020
    I would wait to tell her for at least a few weeks after you have been intimate the first time. She will be much more open to the device early on in the relationship so don’t wait until for the infatuation phase to be over. Start off as a short term game then work into she holds the key except when she wants to use it. Keep it all simple and it will evolve from there.
     
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    #8 Anonbipinoy, Jul 9, 2020
    Thank you everyone for the advice! She and I have been dating for a while, but I was away for 6 months of that time for an exchange program so that was almost basically time away. Idk if this makes a difference but she is Japanese, so she is actually really reserved, although she is slowly opening up little by little. Perhaps we would have been more intimate by now if I wasn't living with parents to save money while I go to college. Likewise to many of the comments I believe that my lack of sensitivity is purely due to me masturbating too much, hence why I have only worn it during the time I usually watch porn. Maybe eventually I will open up to her about it, maybe not. Because of her upbringing in Japan, (very normal and basically she has never watched porn or had any thoughts of anything outside of vanilla sex at all) I dont think this would be the first thing I open up to her about. I think the first will be about me being bi and being the bottom part of the relationship is fun for me. After that we can work our way from there.

    Once again, thank you all for the advuce!
     
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    #9 madams-sissysub, Jul 11, 2020
    totally agree!
     
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