I’m lucky enough to be in a relationship with a woman who is even kinkier than I am. Despite her being in her 20s and I in my 30s, she has much more experience of the kink world than I do. What seems extreme to me is mild to her. Although I’ve always been sexually submissive, I never had a thing for chastity. If anything it frightened me because it seemed so humiliating and extreme to have this imposition at all times, not simply during play, and in any case I really enjoy PIV sex. I was glad it was one sub fetish I didn’t have. And yet here I am now locked 24/7, because she absolutely loves that permanent manifestation of her ownership of me. She actually finds seeing my flaccid penis uncaged offputting and uninteresting now. She likes it either hard and being used by her, or neatly packed in steel. She has a high sex drive, but also likes how attentive, “sweet” and submissive I am when locked and frustrated, so she experiences her own internal tug-of-war there. I aspire to be completely amenable to whatever she feels like at any given time. On her initiation and instructions, I am locked in a wear a custom made Red Chilli “Sissy” cage (not keen on that name since neither of us are into sissification, but it’s the most discrete Red Chilli model) and a steel security chain securing round my waist (which makes me permanently fearful of discovery, since the chain can easily slip above my underwear). It’s impossible for me to remove the device from my body, but I can slip out the penis, and have abused that lack of security more than once. As a deserved consequence, she is going to have me pierced with a Prince Albert at a time of her choosing, and my current cage was selected for compatibility with that destiny. Chastity aside, I am gradually learning to be a more obedient and submissive. A breakthrough for me was learning to accept her inflicting pain on me whenever she feels like it. She is much more sadistic than I am masochistic, so this has required a concerted (but fruitful) effort. Her desires for my eventual subjection to her are extreme and total, if I take her at her word, so I am still a long way from that possible endpoint. Our relationship is still evolving, and I’m very excited to see where this awesome woman who walked straight out of my fantasies will lead me.