My wife and I had a serious talk about my orgasms last night during sex and again this afternoon. I know that after my last orgasm which was not due for another 6 months, I was bitchy, argumentative, grouchy, bored and in generally in a bad mood for almost two weeks even still locked up. This has gotten worse over the last few years. From my side it is due to living in a high state of sexual arousal and the energy I get from it being lost. I am living with high sexual energy almost every day of the year and it has become my normal state over the last few years. When it is gone, I feel like a different person. Plus at first I was having problems in getting erect after long term orgasm denial. Now I am having problems feeling like I want to orgasm. My wife can try all she wants but I will not get close to orgasm anymore which negates the pleasure of teasing and edging. So we talked. I reminded my wife about how I get after I orgasm and distant we are. We talked about how much I cannot keep my hands off of her and in am constant heat and like men courting women, am on my best behavior. She agreed 100% so I asked her why she allows me to orgasm before she says I will. We were suppose to go 4 months between orgasms but she gave me one only after 2 months. She replied that she did it because I told her that I could not take it anymore. She does love me after all. However we had established a safe word to signal real distress and I have yet to use it. After we talked she said that she would like me to have as few orgasms a year as possible. Ideally none since we have not had intercourse from the time she got serious with her girlfriend about 15-20 years ago. After that my penis was something to torture and use to sexually frustrate. She thinks semen is disgusting and the whole ejaculation process not attractive. She does not even find penises or male butts attractive. She prefers the female form. However she is not a lesbian because she does enjoy sex with me, but not other men. She has good orgasms on the few occasions she allows me to perform oral on her, but great toe curling orgasms with her vibrator every time. Once in a while she will have full body cramp orgasms with me but that is not very often. The result of our discussion is that she will not let me manipulate her again and my orgasms will now only be when she wants them and since she hates the way I am afterwards, that will not be very often. Xmas and my birthday are 6 months apart so I think that is what she will do. She knows that even though she prefers no orgasm for me and has said so very often, it is not practical since it will give me no hope of an orgasm and therefore not sustain my courtship behavior. I would just get grouchy all the time since there is no rewards in sight. As usually I post the truth and the truth is that we do change what we do often because we discuss chastity often and toss out the things that do not work or are not fun for both of us. I also do not make it sound like I am forced and a slave to my wife because she has me locked up, as if that is all it takes to change an alpha man to a beta one. Chastity is our sex life so we still have a good sex life in our mid sixties unlike all of our friends who just have F you sex. That is where they pass each other in a hallway and say F you to each other. We do chastity with tease and denial. It is not part of some FLR or BDSM fetish. I was into BDSM for 47 years but not for the last 7. Got too old for that since S&M was our man thing and I do not heal well or withstand pain like I used to. Chastity has the element of feeding my sexual masochism without physical pain and appeals to my sexual submissive side which ends at the bedroom door. We also do not use sex/orgasms as currency in our marriage. I cannot dot get an early release or days added based on what goes on in our marriage although I am sure if I piss my wife off that week I will not be getting an orgasm. I just will not know that. So we have entered the final stay of our 4+ year chastity voyage entering into uncharted territory. It will not be that bad since I have ED problems and my new medication makes it very difficult to reach an orgasm anyway. I have been on that medication before until my wife and her girlfriend got tired of riding me all night long. Time will tell. Just curious as to how the rest of you decide when it is time for an orgasm and does your wife actually do it when she wants to or rather when she thinks she should? That is all over now. She is not going to feel sorry for me after two months of orgasm denial. She has always said if it was up to her I would have no orgasms at all because we never have intercourse and have not had it for two decades or so. She is not a penis fan as she prefers sex with women.