Orgasm without ejacuation while eating her out

I've only just introduced my wife to the idea of chastity. She's not interested in long term denial, but is quite excited by the prospect of me spending a significant amount of time pleasuring her, and then saying "time to go to sleep".

We've only made love once whilst I was wearing the device and it was taken off only after a minute or two of going down on her, so I've never been "denied" and therefore I'm very new to the feelings that I might experience.

You mention that you're using chastity for fun rather than as a femdom/led lifestyle (as I am), but does this happen every time when you're in the cage? And does it matter how long it's been since you last came?

Therefore how tight do you put yourself in the cage? I have a CB6000 and CB6000s. I think I have the ideal choice of spacers and ring, but I can just about fit in a smaller ring (and the even smaller ring) for a short period of time - but the only time I have made love wearing the device I've been in the looser of the rings.

In any case - I certainly hope I get the same feelings and it's a common thing. It sounds divine.

Cheers

 

that feeling is so very normal for me when i please Mistress!

 

Eating my keyholder's pussy also give me a very intense feeling towards her. It is almost like having an orgasm. I have had lots of dribble from my little clit while locked up and pleasuring her.

 

Congratulations! That's exactly how it is supposed to feel... you get VERY horny and VERY turned on but don't get to cum, you are able to tune in to her responses instead.

Try closing your eyes and directing your gaze directly up towards the middle of your forehead while you go down on her, and imagine your energy flowing into her body. Soon you will actually be able to feel orgasm-like feelings coming from her and actually feel the subtle energies and currents in her body when she reaches orgasm.

I have been doing this for years, not wearing any kind of chastity device, and I only can manage to cum that way after about 6 months or so of absolute horniness.

 

I like this advice you gave locked 4, this is what it is all about, keeping us chaste men focused on making the lady happy!

Cindy

 

Thanks! The way I see it, it is not about denying a chaste man all pleasure or making sex into something he doesn't enjoy... exactly the opposite. It is about making sure the most pleasure he gets is from pleasuring her, and making sure that is something he will REALLY enjoy, but never get a release from... this keeps him craving more.

If you can get this feeling after 4 days, I envy you quite a bit! It takes me several weeks after an orgasm to build back to the same level of excitement, and several months to build back to the peak experience.

 

Keeping the guy happy and engaged by getting some relief is required in most cases to maintain the guy's incentive to please his Lady.

The key for the lady is balancing her needs with our desire and denial with occasional rewards... but I imagine that few of us (at least not me) can handle months to experience the peak of denial... and cum within a few weeks instead.

Who knows if our ladys will think that we need as many cums as we think we do?!

I suspect a lady's guess would be less than mine...

 

Wow - this is amazing stuff. I'm currently out of the device and cant wait to get back in.

I'm gutted i'm out, especially as she would have locked me herself in the other week (for the first time) but she caught me wearing it without her permission.

I'm really going to pursue a denied existence for the next couple of weeks, even if it kills me - just so I can try and get close to what you're suggesting here.

This sounds Lovely from two aspects...
1. The entirely selfish aspect- that I want to feel this "Nirvana"
2. Spiritually (and I'm normally sceptical about aura's and stuff) , it sounds as though you're tantrically bonding with her and there is nothing I would like more than to show my love for my wife by giving her absolute pleasure.

 

Yes, I am not in chastity at all, but the longer one goes without orgasm, the more intense these pre-orgasmic feelings become while performing oral sex on her. I am lucky that long-term orgasm-denial came easy to me, but I understand going longer than a month might be difficult for some people - especially if you are under 30, I can't imagine it working too well. The older you become, the easier and more control you have.

Eventually, you can learn to have a very intense orgasm-like feeling for the entire time you are pleasuring her. This is very much a tantric connection with your lover, and not something you need to shy away from or surpress (unless you want to, of course, some people may be into that, but that is not my cup of tea). This is very similar to what is called "male multiple orgasms". Which are actually not orgasms at all, just very intense peaks of stimulation, without the "over the top" sense of release that a full ejaculatory orgasm brings.

I say, don't worry about what it is called, enjoy the feeling, because the longer you can refrain from ejaculatory orgasm, the better it will be for both partners. It's only the "release" part of the orgasm that you need to avoid. At this point, eveything else has become so much more rewarding, I seriously doubt whether I want to go back to having the release part at all.. I'm happy to just let her cum for both of us.

 

There is no better feeling than being locked up and giving Mistress the ultimate pleasure over and over. i find that after long periods of chastity w/o orgasm that i will leak a great deal as is i was being milked while going down on my Mistress. When She has an orgasm it is as if i can feel it in my body as well.