Online mistress needed

Tough thing to find. What would she get from it?

 

I can tell you that I would get nothing out of that deal. Why should I devote my time and energy to see you fulfilling your needs? Good luck on your search.

 

Hello and welcome to the mansion.
What the others trying to tell you was that it might be very helpful if you look at both sides.
One side is you and your needs/interests which you have listed in details.
But the other side is your KH / your "dominant woman".
You write:
(...) I’m looking for a dominant woman who wants to train me. I would be yours to be told what to Do and I will listen to you, I would be willing to be in chastity for you and wair some fem stuff and send you pictures. I don’t think I’m ready for a face to face (...)
You might have luck to find someone who is fulfilling her needs by giving you what you want, but changes are not that high ;-)
Therefore it might help to think about what she gets out of it and then you might have a clearer picture what this person could be like and where you can start your search.
Just asking and throwing a list of your needs might not be the best approach (no offend).
Because you have asked for suggestions:
What I would do is:
Stop watching BDSM porny because it 's fiction and if you really want this you must become someone who is excellent in communicating. And I also think that porn is unhealthy to start your own journey because it raises expectations which are unrealistic (to reach within a certain timeframe).
What could work:
Start to lock your self up and start to write a journal (maybe only for you to figure out what it will do to you and if you can stand the frustration/lust ).
Additionally to me it looks not clear what exactly you are looking for:
Is it just the kink/femdom part (for free) or are you interested in some kind of relationship (FLR)?
Trust me that beeing in chastity and developing (!) (= Slow approach /.lots of communication) your own thing will become such a great roller coaster which you will likely not get with jerking off to femdom porn.
I wish I had the courage to start this journey 20y ago.

 

To be honest I would go and visit a few pro Dommes online or offline to figure out what it is you like and want. Just make sure to go to someone who is recommended and well reviewed in your city. There is a big difference between a pro Domme and a findomme so don't let that scare you off.
Since this is about you and your needs then you are not looking to serve a Domme so that is your best bet. Sure some women might get a kick of bossing you around online but I, for an example, want a sub that serves me and makes my life easier and better. A sub like you would just be another thing on my to do list. That's why findom started because many of us got tired of being used and cater to a subs need and get nothing in return.

 

Who would know if you don't let them in on it? Many couples are living regular lives but she is calling the shots when it comes to the relationship and family.

 

I think finding a pro domme is a great idea. See her once a month and she can hold your key. You can keep a spare with tamper proof security seal and she can ensure you don’t cheat. What part of TX are you from?

 

It is amazing, BUT it's a complete different thing than just looking for some kinks.
Not meant that the one is better than the other. It will likely not work, when you look for BDSM/kinky stuff and then hope that a FLR will give You this.
You'll find yourself asking why it feels so great to just give her a foot massage

Not sure if I need to mention this, but is it easier to think about that your famoly would find out that you consume femdom / bdsm porn ?
the base of a FLR is the R for Relationship, something no one should be ashamed of in 2020.

You should also consider the hint from LadyBlaze:

I did this 2 years ago and met a pro dome who did everything (!) and I just met her and had a 1 hour chat, yes just talking, which had cost me 100 euros but was very well spent. She was not only very kind but I could also have an open discussion / information exchange.
In the end I found out (just by talking) that for me, it's not about the BDSM stuff and temporary power exchange. It's not about role play for me, but true submission. something which would not work for me in a BDSM/femdom setup.
After I had this clear, I changed my relationship and went through a breakup and found a new girlfriend to which I had lots of communication from day 1, leading to ... Guess what ... a FLR.
Therefore take your time and try to find who you really are or who you want to become. Online porn / phantasy will very likely not help you finding this out.
And there is also nothing to be ashamed of visiting a pro domme to find out more about you and your desires.
Opposed to all this femdom stuff, they are normal persons

Regarding findom, I also think it's not that bad as is lowers the bar for someone beeing interested starting some kind of KH relationship with you. I don't mean that you should throw in all (!) the money.
But one important info from the pro dome I got was that she get tons of request from very very weird men who only want to use them for the phantasy and don't have enough courage to live according to their (silent) wishes.
You better don't want to be one of those men.

 

This sums it up perfectly. I wish I could like it a thousand times.