Hello all What an incredible 1st week it has been 1st of all i still can't believe am actually locked to say my wife has enjoyed it is an understatement. I have cum once all week and told to lock up the following morning. Last night i gave my wife oral and vibrator play and she came twice, the comments that followed really turned me on which was i am done i dont think she can get her head around her having pleasure and me happy to provide it and not want anything in return. I explained i was more than happy last night and also explained about ruined orgasm which i may get in the future . I am going to send her some chastity websites to look at which will explain to her more about chastity for a man. She has come on her period today so nothing for a week, i have been told i can unlock for a few deep cleans only, i guess as someone commented on my very 1st post be careful what you wish for ps love this site x
Are you kidding me?!? A woman's best orgasms come during her period. She may be uncomfortable with certain acts during her period, and you need to be respectful and follow her lead, but fingers in the shower is a pretty safe way to start exploring, and they make pads with a waterproof backing that you can use in bed if she prefers. Don't rush to the "ruins" thing; that's about you. Stay focused on her, if you can. Every couple is different, of course, but one of the big turn-offs (from various people's experiences here and elsewhere) is when the man makes the woman feel like she's performing in a porn video, i.e. performing one of his fantasies. Some women do really like doing that, but many hate it, so be careful, and learn to listen very well.
Definitely respect her wishes 100%. But it might be more about how she feels about herself than anything else. I felt the same way for many years. I felt gross and didn't want hubby anywhere near me, especially that part of my body. Ironically, I was hornier than ever during those days, though that took me a while to realize. At some point we started experimenting a little in a shower or bath. I still didn't want him inside me, and I was even uncomfortable for him to touch me with his fingers. I know this sounds crazy, but it really bothered me. We found ways to work around my hangups. Waterproof vibrators were a godsend, and we had a handheld attachment to a bath spa that was incredible. Eventually I learned to let go. I still needed to freshen up with a quick bath beforehand, and oral was out of the question, but otherwise we had sex more or less normally during my periods. Those orgasms were better than any medication for relieving cramps.
Wow. We have never even talked about this. I think we have both just assumed that´s a no-go period. Will have to bring it up with her, although I confess I might struggle to get over the taboo if she is in fact interested. Thanks for the insight!