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Chas4us2 · Mar 29, 2017

Mac,
Sounds like things are going well for you and your wife and will only get better over time.

CagedAnimal2 · Mar 29, 2017

Thanks for sharing your great journey! Hope we hear more down the road

Mash2214 · Mar 30, 2017

Jasmic68 said: ↑

@macmagna I totally get your confusion. I'm not going to cum and that excites me? What is wrong with me!

Thanks for the more detailed response, it was much more interesting and helpful than the initial post. It sounds to me like you have a very good chance of making this work. You could look at a few alternatives to pure chastity such as semen retention with your wife in charge of when you are allowed to cum and devotional sex amongst many other forms of removing the male orgasm as the main aim of sex. Don't forget though that your wife might be programmed by society to measure her own sexuality by the success of your orgasm. It is quite a process getting over this common issue.

My Wife now has a lot of empirical evidence about how difficult it is for me not to masturbate. She never understood before chastity about how much not cumming affected me. She has gone months without sex in our married life due to being on active military service and it hasn't bothered her. Now she has seen me after four months with no orgasm and seen how quickly I can be turned into a whimpering mess. The thing is she likes me like this and that is why I am not allowed to masturbate.

The one thing I have learnt that has helped my marriage strengthen is what my Wife has called the holistic approach to our relationship. We have been happily married for 26 years but this past year has been amazing. I looked for ways to spend time with her that were intimate that didn't involve sex, intimate ways that were purely designed for her orgasm and by giving her control of my orgasms she was able to have all those cuddles she had always wanted but resisted as she hadn't been in the mood for sex.

Some of the things we now regularly do are me reading to her while she is either in the bath or when we are snuggled up on the sofa or in bed. I do her toenails, removing old nail varnish and reapplying new. She now has the confidence to tell me when she wants a back massage followed by me licking her bottom and then pussy with no need for any reciprocation and crucially no guilt in her part for not giving me an orgasm.

The ultimate for us and our hands down absolute favorite way of having non reciprocal sex is the wonderful yoni massage. I seriously recommend you research it and if you have never done it before try it one evening. She has to be in the mood so a bath followed by a massage is perfect for setting the scene. Phones off, anything digital that might bleep has to be put away. A yoni massage is all about her. It is very different to simply using your hand to masturbate her as her orgasm is not the goal but, if it happens, it is a wonderful experience for both.

I hope that this works for you. And don't listen to any guff from anyone who try and tell you that you being excited by chastity is not the point. My Wife's edict is that this has to be fun for both of us and the return I get for all that holistic activity is she makes sure that it is fun for me and, in doing so, has fun herself. Apparently fun is frowned upon in some parts of the Mansion but I don't tend to visit those rooms.
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Very interesting you mentioned something's that I've never heard of. Holistic approach, and a yoni massage. This is one thing I like about the mansion is the willingness of people like you to share. Thanks. Internet time

Jasmic68 · Mar 31, 2017

@Mash2214 i can do nothing better than point you to this description of what a yoni massage is and how to give one. It truly has been life changing for Elle and I. Before this I had never once managed to give her an orgasm with my hands or fingers. Now she has had some of the strongest orgasms of her life this way, and I get to watch and experience the entire build up, crescendo and moment of bliss. It truly is amazing.

http://www.whitelotuseast.com/YoniMassage.htm

Mash2214 · Apr 1, 2017

Jasmic68 said: ↑

@Mash2214 i can do nothing better than point you to this description of what a yoni massage is and how to give one. It truly has been life changing for Elle and I. Before this I had never once managed to give her an orgasm with my hands or fingers. Now she has had some of the strongest orgasms of her life this way, and I get to watch and experience the entire build up, crescendo and moment of bliss. It truly is amazing.

http://www.whitelotuseast.com/YoniMassage.htm
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Thank you.

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