On male chastity going mainstream

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    Now it may be because I have previously searched on Amazon for some of the low end steel cages but I saw some cages described as 'male briefs'

    So I tried doing an amazon search for 'male briefs' and a couple of metal cages turned up amonst all the other male undrwear.

    So my curiosity piqued I tried another search 'male underwear metal' and more chastity devices turned up. Now this could lead to an amazonan ban on chastity wear or more likely have some of the 'vanilla' people who came across these devices unexpectedly starting to converse about them.

    Who knows.... the key to all advertiseing is not what you say but howe many times you say it .. if the subject of ,ale chastity keeps comming up it will get discussed more... which in turn... well who knows
     
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    We will know they are going mainstream when they start to sell them in places like Boots, maybe in the birth control section :)
     
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    It would be an interesting time when you can go to the store for simple things like shave cream, a razor and a Chastity cage and no one gives you a second look. This may take a couple years but who knows.
     
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    Good bad or indifferent I think the porn industry plays a significant role in this. Personally I think it creates a lot of misinformation about the subject but in my case after I stumbled onto it I went out and did some research and that kinda opened the door to where I am now
    P.S. and of course I’m no longer cruising those porn sites!
     
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    You no longer view porn of any kind? Why not?
     
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    And when they start to be issued by marriage guidance counselors and social services.
     
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    Haha I didn’t say any kind or at all but I am self locked and although my wife is not on board YET with key holding I am trying to stay away from porn and masturbation. I feel I am best to serve her with my hands outta my pants
     
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    Reality check - the majority of women think that men in chastity is weird, and would rather be fucked by a manly hard cock than denying it. The only place chastity cages are mainstream is in femdom porn which is geared up for men’s fantasies. Chastity has a long long way to go until it is mainstream!
     
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    I would agree that there's a long way to go before chastity is mainstream and there is a difficulty of perception /understanding for many women, but we may be closer than we think. The #MeToo agenda is shifting perceptions of what is acceptable or desirable in a wholly positive way. The phallocentric empire is being dismantled, slowly but surely.
     
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    I think male chastity would be a lot more accepted if women knew the advantages of it. What woman wouldn't want a man who's main focus is to make her happy?
     
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    Yes indeed, and a woman who has experienced oral worship from a man who has been locked in chastity for a while would most likely help accelerate the dismantling process.
     
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    You are right of course. And what do we mean by mainstream? Fantasy scenarios such as some kind of Female led Gorean society aside Mainstream for me would mean that generally people would accept that some people are into chastity and not judge them negatively. With familiarity comes Knowledge and a much broader sense of Understanding with those prejudice is slowly broken down which would enable Male Chasitity to just be. Who gets what out of it how and why would I think need to be established first. Mainstream in that sense would have to have existed for some time before, as some people might wish, it became widespread or commonplace.

    For now I think it is harder for some people to accept than same sex marriage.

    Plus of course most of don't let it be known to friends and family that Male Chastity does feature in our lives. Not just because of the potential reactions or fear of stigma or prejudice which are all major considerations but as well partly because we like to keep it quiet and private because it is our 'dirty litte sex secret', and our surrounding it with secrecy enhances it for us..
     
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    I do agree with you that many consider it weird but many new things are considered weird until an understanding is found. I don’t consider a locked clock to be necessarily unmanly. One of the things I would like to have when unlocked is penatrative sex. In my opinion a woman in the plainest vanilla relationship would benefit greatly from the most basic fundamentals of male chastity. And what I mean by that is no feminization or sissification, just unlock him when you need to. The rest of the relationship could still be domme/sub, equal partners or any combination thereof.
     
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    Unfortunately some might think but Porn is the way forward.
    In broad generalisation terms porn is accredited by many for somethings
    Porn has made removal of body hair more widespread ... I'm in favour but each to their own.
    Porn has made oral sex more popular both giving and receiving by both sexes
    Porn has made heterosexual people more open to the idea of anal sex and anal play.
    More than two people being involved in the sex act has become more widespread as has mild T&D, bondage and some CP.
    and other features.

    More widespread occurances of Male Chastity featuring in Porn would greatly help pique interest and promote it. Initially so as not to put off more than it attracts soem aspects that might be more likely to be viewed negatively initially would need to be ignored, let people discover for themselves about, cuckoldry, sissification cross dressing and adult babies etc until the concept of Male Chastity has become a more popular actual activity even if it is only for a few hours T&D initially.

    From acorns ...etc
     
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    I totally agree with you. Unfortunately the problem with male chastity porn is it usually shows some poor guy whimpering while his mocking wife is getting some extremely well hung guy to take her or forced to be dressed up and laughed at by her and her friends. This does a terrible disservice to those who enjoy cuckolding, cd etc. And it sheds no light on those who may want to spice up and strengthen there relationship with a single partner.
    But it’s a start, and with sites like this one where people can talk to each other it’s a start in the right direction
     
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    Mainstream? Maybe not, more popular? Most definately. I remember years ago there were very few choices in devices easily found. Cb was all i could come up with (and didnt care for due to comfort issues and hygiene as much as i wanted to like it).
    Now you can get them all over the place, amazon included and even the knock off metal cages are decent.
    I hope it continues to grow because folks like me in the beginning were unsure and bad experiences can turn them away...the better devices will reduce the amount of ppl that give up on it either from cost or comfort.
    As with any kink, its a niche market but it seems to be more accepted.
    My wife wasnt into it before due to constant maintenance... now she is all for it and prefers things this way. I couldnt be happier and hope others curious try it out.
     
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    As an added thought. With so many people apparently now producing chastity devices when you look at the number of people selling them then the market must be supporting the vendors and production rates. It certainly gives the impression that a lot are being sold.

    If that is the case it can only be good in the terms of a sign of increased popularity and perhaps a little more.

    That fetish club I worked at ... guys walking around naked was ...well shall we say considered not good etiquette... but injust a chastity device beit belt or trapped ball appeared to be perfectly acceptable to all. Though at least two of the guys I knew they had said that they only wore them at the club.

    Still...???
     
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    Bingo-this is reality. Right now, male chastity is LESS accepted by the mainstream than is same sex marriage.

    However, I believe thats because of one major problem: It's misunderstood. Many people think of chastity only as a gay male thing or BDSM or both, because it is often portrayed as such in pornography. Therefore, many mainstream people consider it a taboo.

    In reality, there are many ways to incorporate male chastity into sexuality that do not involve pornography, BDSM, or anything else that may be considered deviant from the mainstream. My wife of 37 years and I have 6 kids, and we have been faithful to each other since taking our vows. Our sex life had been flat to non-existent for sometime before we stumbled on the idea off male chastity last year. I've been locked more or less 24/7 since, and we are happier and more intimate than ever. In other words, we are about as "traditional" as it gets. I just happen to have a piece of metal attached to my cock that keeps me from getting an erection. My wife and no one else has the ability to remove it and therefore is the only person I can have intercourse and an orgasm with.

    If more people understood it in this way, it would be more acceptable to the mainstream.
     
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    Exactly, it's seen as being related to bdsm, cross dressing, pegging, watersports, cum eating etc. If it was seen as a way to stop your husband masturbating for example, it would get a whole new audience.
     
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    If chastity going mainstream allowed women to feel not threatened with rape, and allowed equality and balance in all types of relationships ... I am sure that would help a bit.

    E.g. if boys in high school had to wear the devices and the mothers/parents gave the keys to the girls on prom night and they had the power to "get some" ... imagine how much nicer guys may be .... YMMV of course ...
     
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    Absolutely to both- if the porn industry showed as nurturing a 37 yr old marriage they’d be outta business. So of course they show it as bdsm
    Cross dressing and so on. And that’s what mainstream gets to see. But there are people, like me, who see it like that, research it and find out the truths of it. And absolutely nothing against the folks that practice it with the various kinks because that’s also some of the truths of it.
    Here in the states there is plenty of programming on basic cable that profiles different lifestyles so slowly but surely it gets more exposure
     
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    I believe this should be the core focus of this site and women in general in this age of internet pornography. Once again my thanks to Mistress Lucy.
     
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    I agree. If you've spent much time here you'll see that many of the most involved husbands have used chastity to stop masturbating and open themselves to greater emotional connection and intimacy with their wives.
     
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    An episode of Californication on Showtime directly showed a “cock cage”. I believe this is the closest to mainstream I have ever seen chastity. I didn’t watch this show but I believe the scenario is for him to show his loyalty after cheating. (But I could be wrong)

     
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    I remember that episode. Doesnt theguy get his cock tazed while he's in the cage? If i remember correctly.
     
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