Not sure what to do

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    Firstvtime poster, long time reader here..

    So we have been playing around with chastity for a number of years, nothing ever really took ok like this current stint, 35 days currently, the question I have is I love this feeling and way of life, the way she treats me and the way I respond and treat her. I feel so much closer to my wife then I ever have. I don't want to take off the device, so what is the incentive? T&d is hard when I want to keep it on. I love my wife and her body, I miss being in her and Cumming, but the way things are going now I also love. Just feeling a little lost. Thanks in advance
     
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    The incentive for what, taking off the cage? Maybe your wife wants to, for a bit. Otherwise, don't worry about it, and enjoy the ride you're on now. You two can always do something else later if you want to.
     
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    So it sounds like it is working for you. How about her? Does she want it off of you, now and then? I would find that out. IF she is fine with you staying locked, then you just have to decide how long feels good. Nothing wrong with just keeping it on or taking it off now and then to feel the pleasure and love from her. Really no wrong choice. Good luck and enjoy.
     
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    "Not sure what to do?"
    You're both enjoying it.
    One option is to just carry on doing it.

    Everyone is different, so if you're not sure - experiment.
    Let her take it off you, have a full orgasm, full sex, whatever she wants.
    Unless you experience the differences neither of you can compare, can you?

    But then be very honest with her about what it does to you.
    Especially after a period of you being denied, she'll notice many things herself.
    You'll start to return to the person you were before you did chastity.
    I expect she'll probably prefer the new you not the old you, and so might you, but unless you play and find out for yourself, whatever anyone says on a forum is just talk.
     
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    It’s simple, just do whatever your wife wants you to do!
     
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    This.

    I decree the length of chastity. If I decide I have to have him, I end it. It's all about me.
     
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    just as it should be!
     
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    Let me know if you ever find an answer.

    I have the same question.
     
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    Many years ago, a young man approached me about a career decision. He had the highest of aspirations and wanted to know how to get there. I recommended he try a local operation to gain experience. I pointed out that it was busy, he'd gain a lot of experience in a short time, and he'd enjoy it.

    The young man told me he didn't want to do that. He was concerned, he said, because the operation had very little turnover. People went there, and didn't leave, because they were happy.

    I asked if that was a bad thing, being happy with one's life. He said he thought it was, because he'd lose his ambition. He'd lose it because he'd find what he wanted, and he didn't want to be happy, just ambitious.

    I submit that if you're happy where you are, you may have arrived. Life is very much about the journey, but sometimes we're so busy traveling that we don't realize that we're already here.

    Enjoy here.
     
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    Sounds like you two need to sit down and have an honest chat about this.
     
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