Not letting my husband see me naked

Oh wow, how truly amazing

 

I don’t get men that disrespect women.
I’m sure he didn’t mean to make you uncomfortable or be disrespectful but he was. I’m so glad that he’s learning that you not only deserve respect but will ensure that you get it. So kudos to you for seeing this and taking corrective action.

I’d also like to say I’m sorry. I know I didn’t do this but I feel bad that you were made to feel bad. Please know some of us really do respect women. And I’m glad your husband is joining our ranks.

 

My mistress likes the attention I give her when she’s naked but chastity has changed my thought process about this. I see it more of a gift and privilege to see her naked versus some sort of archaic marital right. So I still get to look with her approval of course but the context has changed because me looking at her like that is just as much for her as it is for me. If that makes any sense

 

The only time I am allowed into Her room when She is dressing if its to lace Her Corset or help with boots. Besides that like You Ma'am a peek here and there to show how sexy She is thank you for sharing.

 

I absolutely love your approach. I imagine he'll continue to be more obedient and respectful, as he should. But I trust you don't extend him the same privileges. If you wish to see him nude or not, that should be your decision, not his. Personally, this would be a super effective approach for me, as I absolutely adore the female form.

 

Yes, just like food. Nobody is entitled to a meal.

 

Nobody is entitled. Wives included. If hubby is ok with that, great. if not he should say something before he finally says the heck with it and you.

 

Taking back ownership should be a key element in any FLR. Good for You Madam.

 

I really don't want my wife to get this idea. I enjoy looking at her. I adore looking at her when I'm locked. I think for now, she enjoys the novelty of my hungry gaze, but I could see her growing tired of it...

 

I'm not sure you understand the dynamic of a FLR.

 

My Mistress used to enjoy teasing me, but if she didn't want me to look she would instruct me to keep my eyes lowered to her feet and ankles, as far as lewd comments rather than complimentary ones I would be severely caned or whipped if I did anything like that, but to be honest I would prefer a severe caning/whipping to being unable to see her naked or dressing/undressing as I find that incredibly erotic. If I was your hubby I would beg for any other punishment rather than denial of seeing you or helping you dress or undress.

 

I find it all kinds of sad that you and 7 other people think an FLR means the man should never express an opinion that contradicts his partner's.

 

As @MissyB says, you don't understand.

 

It's not that. It's the idea that if she isn't willing to show herself to him that it's somehow a reason for an ultimatum. It's almost like he's arguing that women are obliged to be nude around their husband unless he specifically gives up the right.

 

It is really easy to read this as constructive abandonment masquerading as an FLR/Chastity. He has an absolute right to object to the former.

 

Well, I don't see any abandonment. OP teases him with the occasional flash. I mean, it could be that, but I don't think so.

Obviously a guy can have hard limits. It's just that this would be a really odd hard limit to leave a relationship for without other problems.

 

i see both sides. and am guilty of unwanted petting while caged. having this as a permission or reward makes sense. a wife/KH who only denies and does not tease every so often. imo, most men encourage chastity to garner more attention from their wives or KH. atleast thats why i brought it up.

 

I think denying your husband access to your body is an amazing idea. It will suck for him, but isnt that the point? He needs to learn a lesson. Plus, when you do allow him access to your body, it will be that much better for both of you. It would be a highly appreciated reward for him I'm sure.

 

I was actually far more guilty of being handsy pre-chastity. A naked wife was meant for groping. That changed with chastity. While my wife did not go so far as to prohibit my viewing her, she made me aware that the groping and fondling didn't please her. It redirected my touching so that when I saw her naked I would rub her back of kiss her shoulder instead of going for the breast or butt. I quite often stare at her and tell her how beautiful I think she is, but that is both clothed and unclothed. She actually has a collection of old ratty t-shirts she likes to sleep in and I think of those as sexy lingerie. I don't think a no viewing rule would work for us, but who knows what the future holds.

 

Agreed. In this instance, it is clearly part of the FLR and, well, i find the idea that somehow a wife's nakedness is something inherently expected to be... problematic to say the least. As @MsTara specifically points out, she uses this to further control through teasing and teach a little respect - no man should ever simply feel entitled to grope, leer and perv at his wife. She's a human being, you know?

To give some context, i haven't seen my wife naked since 2007. There's a difference twixt constructive abandonment (not sure what that is, some light reading for later methinks) and using and FLR to teach about consent, respect and enhance one's connection.

 

I think this is a very sound idea. It reinforces respective positions in a fair way.

 

If it works for the OP and her husband, there’s not much to comment on.

My wife likes attention and my attention has changed to be respectful, appreciative, and complimentary - what she enjoys rather than what I selflessly want.

If I were to become disrespectful, I am certain things would change.

 

I'm never allowed to see Mistress in any state of undress - when locked in my cage , I'm normally band hand and feet ,often with a blindfold.

Mistress wears tighy figure hugging tops and or jeans /leggings and knee length boots
She teases me mercilessly by touchig her breasts and her leggings - I get so frustrated in the cage and just have to visualise what I'm missing
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Good behaviour is having a worn pair of Mistresses high legged panties covering my nose and mouth ,being told that is as close as you will ever get to Mistress , although I do get the privalege of kissing /paying homage to Mistresses leggings if I've been a good subbie