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  1. QueenKaliyah
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    I have posted a couple of times expressing my interest in finding a sub/subs in a domme/keyholder capacity. I received more than a few responses and I’m confused as to why potential subs find the need to tell me about how horny they are and how many times they masterbate a week. Is the aim to impress me? Am I supposed to sympathise? Is that going to get my attention?
    Furthermore, why would I be attracted to the fact that a sub wants to lick my feet, or my arse for that matter? I really don’t care what your fetishes are and suggest that you read my profile carefully; read it again if you must, to realise that that kind of thing really doesn’t interest me.
    I am not here to help you to fulfill your sexual fantasies; show some respect and tell me how you might serve me. Anything else, I’m just not interested.
     
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    It is a sad fact that the majority of responses you will get from such an offer is what you have been getting as to most of these sad idiots get their kicks from expressing their thoughts to others, if they actually ever were accepted and made to comply they would be the first to plead to be let out as it hurt or was uncomfortable and they could not possibly be expected to do what you had asked. Its a shame for the few genuine ones who are looking but the few chances that are out there are spoiled by the idiots. I do hope you find someone who will be lucky to have you.
     
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    They assume that because you are on a fetish site you must be a nymphomaniac and want to use them as a sex slave.

    Their sexual gratification (through denial) is their biggest priority.

    The first step would be for them to realise they are not subs or slaves, they are sexual submission fetishists.

    The worst place to find subs is on fetish sites. Vanilla subs without demanding fetishes are the best.
     
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    As Miss Lucy said, most "subs" that will apply to your offer, are just horny guys looking for their next sexual kick :/ I'm sorry, but I hope you'll find someone genuine
     
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    I sometimes wonder if these guys ever imagine themselves in the shoes of the women they contact. Who in their right mind would enjoy having a stranger lick their butthole? I can’t think of any situation where that would be anything less than repulsive.
     
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    The one aspect of chastity that I do not understand is the amount of men who masturbate whilst fantasizing about chastity. Do they not get how ironic that is? The ones I have encountered seem to think not being allowed an orgasm for two days is something to be pleased about. It’s these idiots that put even me off so I can only imagine what it is like for a female.

    Actually, I don’t have to imagine. Mistress Lucy’s ever growing list of horrific messages describing this exact issue is a demonstration of how backward many men are. Also the amount of porn pandering to this demographic is a visual demonstration.
     
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    Hello @/queenkaliyah that is well written, if I was looking to be your sub I world tell you how I would wait by the door as much as I can with a glass of chiled white wine in one hand and your slippers in the other when you come in from work. and to tell you that you supper will be ready in fifteen minutes and ask you is that OK and ask you is there anything I can get you.
     
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    for many on here, all of this is mere fantasy and they cannot separate the fantasy from reality. The porn they watch all depicts women as ravenous receivers of such attention and they believe it is normal. It will probably come as a surprise to them that your aren't interested in such things, because in their porn experience all dominant women automatically are.

    I sympathise with you.
     
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    Because they want to show you how much they are willing to suffer for you.
     
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    Well, I suspect even if it was your thing and you agreed to meet someone for them to come lick your feet or whatever, most of those guys would never show up on the agreed time
     
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    I know plenty of people who like being rimmed!

    Moving on, I think the original poster is more likely to find men who serve her needs from an initially vanilla relationship. Advertising for submissives online will result in 99% of applications from needy men with submissive fantasies.
     
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    And they think they are doing You a favour. It should be mandatory that all slaves should be able to read, that way they would be able to understand that not anything is about them and everything is about the Mistress.
     
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    Agreed, some self realisation is needed. That way, they may find what they are looking for, not make a fool of themselves.
     
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    You mean supper will be burnt in fifteen minutes?
     
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    And this is the other typical response - "Oh, I'll be a complete sycophant and say all the 'right' things instead!" It's the same thing, but in a sanitized form. The bottom line is "It's all about ME"; instead of literally kissing your ass, they'll metaphorically do it. In every post where a woman complains about the kind of messages she gets (usually unsolicited), there will always be at least one asskisser who tries to show that he's "not like those other boys". It's like bragging about how humble one is.

    Note that I'm not picking on @spider203 specifically, but his response is the perfect illustration of what I'm talking about.
     
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    Love the term "sexual submission fetishists" - that really put it straight! :D
     
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    Hi @Billus I know you are not but for me I love cooking.
     
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    I love cooking as well, but if I was waiting for my Wife with a glass of white wine and her slippers her response would be, in no particular order...

    • Who is looking after our child?
    • If you have time to wait by the door the house is obviously spotless
    • I don’t drink wine on a week night
    • I don’t drink white wine period
    • Get up off your knees, what if I had bought a friend home with me? Our intimate life and relationship details are personal.
    Now, on a weekend, when we are on our own, I have indeed knelt before her, holding a drink while she phoned someone, read a magazine, went on her tablet to catch up with social media. But not every night.
     
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    I'm in a committed, long term D/s relationship, but I still get aroused by chastity/denial. Even though I don't get to use my guy parts for pleasure anymore, I still get hard in my cage, when we discuss the severity of the denial that I've ended up in. A few years ago, the idea of total denial would produce the biggest orgasms, and as I got closer to that reality, the more restrictive the chastity got, the more aroused my parts got at the thought of it. Now, 9 months of being celibate later, I can be rubbing her feet, and she will tell me how much better off I am not having dick getting in the way of service, and I get hard and drippy in my cock cage. The reality of total denial is really challenging, often very frustrating, not always even fun or enjoyable, but the same level of excitement is still there for me. That's the crazy catch 22 of having a denial fetish. If the severity of it was just a threat with no reality, it wouldn't have the same effect.
     
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    Well, I must say your profile is not much of a conversation starter.
     
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    Exactly - no disrespect but posting ISO's for randos on the internet is easily the least effective marketing tool for a relationship of any kind. That's just sound
    advice.
     
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    I know what you mean. The one thing that convinced my Wife that this was going to be fun was seeing how aroused I got when she denied me. When I understood this I tried not to get so aroused, but my brain and body betrayed me. The more she said no the more aroused I got.

    The difference is with those men who skip the part where they are actually locked up and in a chastity lifestyle and go straight to masturbation. In one way I feel sorry for them, they will never experience what a mind blowing event it is to have an orgasm after weeks of denial.

    Even writing this and thinking about her control is turning me on. I’m doomed!
     
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