I'm not sure if I have got this wrong or if my idea of a FLR is different to other people's. I have been chatting to quite a few people of all sexes and ordination in my quest to try and understand as and as much as I can before I agree to commit to anything. Knowledge is power and all that. When I have asked people about their experiences of a FLR or KH and I've been surprised at how many men have said that it's all about doing what their mistress wants or all about pleasing her. Now I completely agree that a womens (or anyone else's) pleasure is important, I feel like I'm on my own in thinking that I should be putting in as much effort at the man. I don't see been a KH as lock the cock and fuck off. If anything I would want to put more effort into their sexual desires just so that it would increase their frustrations, in turn, massively turning me on. I would take great satisfaction in making my man as horny as possible but not allowing him to cum until I allowed it, and not always having a happy ending. Am I on my own or does what I think not fall into the FLR category?