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No time to serve

Discussion in 'Female led relationships' started by Nicoftime, Nov 1, 2016.

  1. So, recently it has been brought to my attention that @Mistress Amanté@Mistress Amanté is interested in me having more of a domestic serving role. Even bought me a cute pink little dress to wear.

    When we started this, I told her this wasn't something I was interested in. The whole sissy maid thing. Maybe it's the chastity, maybe it's loctober, maybe my hormones are out of whack, but now it's something I kind of want to do for her.

    All that being said, I don't have time. I work 10-12 hours a day, and come home several hours after her. We usually hang out and chat for a bit when I get there, which kinda leads up to bed time. We can sometimes find time for some pampering, but it's not the "chores" and service I think she was looking for. My days off are spent with my son.

    Anyone else having a need to serve without time to do so? And if so, how did you compromise or devide your time?
     
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  2. I don't have the same issue that you do, but I sort of know what you mean. The thing is that sissy maid service doesn't have to happen regularly or at a set time. Keep it for special, an occasional thing. It might be once a month, but just think, that time she does tell you to put on your outfit and service her, it will be all the sweeter.

    Life is a bit of a joker and we sort of have to go with whatever it gives us.
     
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  3. @Nicoftime@Nicoftime i don't has to wear sissy clothes but i has got a maid uniform and i wears that after i have done all my cleaning chores and im serving dinner.
     
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  4. Thanks for the encouragement, my problem isn't so much the clothes, it's the time. I don't have time to really keep the house clean for her, not without sacrificing time with her.

    Maybe jasmic is right about picking some spots and making a special time of it. I think I can take off work once a month and concentrate on her needs for the entire day.
     
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  5. I am not religious at all, but I was brought up being taken to church and learning all of the parables that they love so much. The one that springs to mind is the one about how someone with a little who gives it all means more than someone who has a lot who gives a little.

    If you gave up a day to do this, to spend it caring for her, doing chores, it would mean far more than if you did a little regularly when you had the time. Each of us have to do what we can when we can, I know my Wife would appreciate me doing what you were thinking of.
     
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  6. Thanks, will talk to her about it. She will know more of what she wants than I ever will lol.
     
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  7. if you has to go out to work then its hard cos it takes a bit of time to keep a house nice and clean and then theres cooking and laundry and ironing as well.
     
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  8. Think I might have come up with an answer. Instead of staying up for awhile after getting home from work, I could get up early, get dressed, work around the the home, make her coffee etc.

    3 days a week should be enough to keep ahead of most of it.
     
  9. I know the feeling.
    Just not enough hours in a day.

    I technically have two jobs.
    1 job as an employee of 70hrs a week + travel.
    2 Freelance job (Lots of things to do,Emails,Marketing,Budgeting,Meeting,Traveling,Phone calls)

    During both Im to try serve my Wife and be a Father and do all the normal things in life.

    Best I can do is make Dinners/Put laundry in machine/dryer/Dishwasher machine/Get her Beverages/Massage/Oral.

    Generally trying to make life a little easier for her which is hard as she is very OCD about almost everything yet she doesn't have OCD. :rolleyes:
     
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  10. Awhile back mistress was showing interest in having more of a domestic role. She bought me a frilly pink dress for me to do some chores in.

    I agreed, I was feeling pretty subbie and was awhile since last release.

    Things didn't work out like she had planned. My off days are filled with being with my son, and the others I don't get home from work until 7pm. Little time to dress up and start finding things to do around the house. Plus to be honest, I'm usually tired and want to relax. The dress didn't fit and it kinda got swept under the rug.

    Fast forward to some chatting when we were out drinking during the holiday. She mentioned one of the pics she sent me about a husband needing the proper attire...wearing a maid uniform. I told her that really never seems like a good idea once I actually orgasm...she said "don't worry, that won't happen often" and we both laughed. A week later and more horny texts and pics sent back and forth and I told her I would be her maid. Uniform, heels, and wig are on the way.

    My situation with son and schedule looks like it will change to week on week off. So I should be able to find time for this, a few nights a week.

    Weird how things change so quickly, and how comfortable she is with being in control.
     
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  11. well wearing pretty clothes and thingys take a bit longer to do than men clothes so you has to make time to look nice.
     
  12. Well I seriously doubt I will look as nice as you! But will do my best;)
     
  13. Well all my excuses are gone, all the handyman stuff is finished, big projects completed, and have a few days each week that I can designate as time to service the house and or her.

    I have a few dresses and a few cute pairs of shoes, the house is ready to maintain a chore list or cleaning schedule, and I have the time to make her feel special the way she wanted. It’s put up or shut up time, so complaints and awkward feelings will just have take a back seat.

    I don’t mind it once I start, but the whole act of dressing that way around a female takes away every ounce of ego and masculinity. You can’t help but to act submissive, you become super vulnerable and exposed. It’s not even about looks, I’m not that bad looking dressed up, it’s about all of a sudden being recognized and seen as a different gender that makes the whole world melt away into the background. It makes you even feel differently.

    Deep down I guess I get worried that there is a line I will cross that I will no longer get to be a man in our relationship. Either way, I promised @Mistress Amanté@Mistress Amanté i would treat her like a princess and stay submissive for her. If being her maid, and pampering her makes her as happy as she makes me, I will be the best darn maid I can be.
     
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  14. I'm lucky in that my office is at home. Today I got 3 loads of laundry done while still putting in 12 hours at work. I also woke up early to do my usual coffee, smoothie, kids breakfast/lunches and Mistresses water bottle. My cross dressing tendencies pre-date chastity and my relationship with my wife, but you hit the nail on the head about how you feel inside.

    My suggestion is start small. I started with making the bed everyday. Breakfast in bed on weekends followed. Soon after shopping and meal prep. I swore Laundry was the line in the sand, but now I do that too. The other thing (and please don't take this the wrong way), but spend less time on CM. Love your posts and your attitude, but this place can suck up an hour in a heartbeat.
     
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  15. Lol, the truth is I am almost always at work when I’m on cm and killing an hour in no time is exactly what I’m looking for! I check in occasionally at home but usually just to check my alerts and see if she posted anything.
     
  16. That was when I didn’t work nights @Mistress Amanté@Mistress Amanté
     
  17. I work insane hours myself. But surely you have things that you do around the house. Even if you only have 30 mi utes to knock out a chore, maybe put on the dress & do it with a willing heart. If your Mistress isn’t there when you do it...leave a nice note & take a picture. It’s nice if she can see/Boss you around...but isn’t the point of service that YOU know you’re serving even if nobody can see you? If that’s all you can do on a given day...well....that’s not nothing.
     
  18. Things have settled down and have resumed service. I don't have my child 3 to 4 days a week, on those days I go to bed early after work while she is working, and wake up and start. At least once a week seems to be enough to keep everyone happy.