I turn 72 today and my wife 71. We both have medical issues and my wife is handicapped. I am recovering from two surgeries after losing 90 lbs. One reason for our decision is that when I was grossly overweight my wife as no longer sexually attracted to me. Now that I am in shape again she is once again sexually attracted to me. She wants to make me orgasm. It turns her on and makes her orgasm when I do. As for me, my body can no longer take the S&M play it used to. I do not heal fast anymore and even a shallow scratch leaves a scar on my skin. Plus I no longer get horny all the time like I used to and my desire to masturbate is very low as my orgasms are not nearly as good or long as they used to be. I hardly discharge any semen as my orgasms are retrograde at this point after so many years. I never get hard anymore an barely hard with 100mg of Viagra which gives me a headache so not worth it. I still like to offer advice to newcomers because I know that I bought into all the hype and bullshit posted online about chastity as if there are official rules, a foolproof orgasm prevention and benefits your key holder supposedly gets if they react as you wish to everything you do. I never met a woman, even though all of mine have been serxualy dominant, who enjoyed dominating me outside the bedroom. I am a very strong alpha male and I always attracted the type of woman who are attracted to alpha males. Yes, they still exist and in large numbers despite how porn presents it. We have successfully lived in a poly triad for 30 or our 50+ years of marriage, wife swapped, swung and lots of soft swinging too at parties I threw either in my pool or dance room which was setup with all the lighting and lasers you find in dance clubs from the disco area. I even DJ'd my parties and we had a steady group of people attend. Out soft swinging was basically foreplay with someone other than your spouse but the main event is only with your spouse. A typical example is a variation of musical chairs where the wives circled the men seated in chairs and when the music stopped they sat on the lap of the man in front of them and made out with the for a minute or two before starting over again. Our pool parties meant no bathing suits in the pool and often someone would hide our clothes so we were naked most of the night. We also did sex in public, limos, beaches (no good) and in lots of other places where we either could not be seen or only seen by adults at vacation spots with nude beaches. We did every fetish you can find on Fetlife and more. In other words, we had a very good run sexually and the money to do as we wished. Our sex partners were all upscale like doctors, business owners, chemists, lawyers, etc. It was a great life and now we are retired and having been there (21 countries and 26 States) and done that, we are home bodies now mostly playing my 24 guitars or making videos and recording music in my home A/V studio. I also am a ham radio operator so I spent time talking to people all over the world using a piece of wire for an antenna. Now is it time to retire for good and just sleep in, hit the pool and eat out. The other problem I had was that the cage made me feel like peeing all the time and as an old man I already pee too much so that was an issue too. So we now take it easy and still have sex once a week and still some light BDSM stuff but the kind that does not leave marks. Kind of kinky not being locked. I amy still drop in from time to time to answer questions because there is little that we have not done at least once. Nice knowing all the guys over the last decade into my fetishes and hope your sex life is as exciting and diverse as mine was.