No Fuss - Minimalizing permanent denial?

I posted this status update this morning:
"I Think I found a way to keep him in permanent denial without device, and not depending on him being honest. Very excited!!"

I was asked : "How?" by @Joroincharge and replied:

Controlled numbing.... by banding his member once a week, or preferably once pr. month. We shall see... If not done correctly it is risky. He is happy with the outcome so far. Says it makes him so relaxed.

Can still get an erection though, and last very much longer. He can hardly feel a thing, Certainly not enough to even get close to O. Before I had to push him off at one point, even though he endured a lot!



@philfred commented on this: "Sounds very dangerous - surely a load of numbing cream is safer?"


And I decide to give a longer answer to that, first as comments and now turned into a thread. Almost forget how to, been a while since I did it the last time :


Well, we have looked a lot into the risks, and none of us have a castration fetish. But You are right, small steps in a very controlled environment. It is not something that is to be applied in the heat of of the moment, but it lasts so much longer than any cream I have heard of.
And the application is not associated with sexual action. Ir is more like a ritual- if I may say so. He is well aware that he might loose some sensitivity, but be aware m that just that has been his objective for long. Also the frenum thing was a mutual desire. Me for the esthetics, - him for the endurance.
He promised me it would end up fine, and it did, very quickly indeed. He lives without O's, lives for my O's and he loves that he can serve me with penetration for as long as I want. We are all different people, with different objectives, and it took some time for me to fully understand and accepts his.


It has been 2 and a half year - down a straight path, when I look back. I see a lot of benefits in this approach for me. I have always from the start been very focused on having a very limited amount of gear. I only have the double strap on for playing with Anne, not BlueEyes.

Being without keys, cage, ring in cock and God knows what, is a big relief for me. I can touch him whenever I like. I can have him exposed, I can leave him with Anne, I can send him of on business trips, and he can't cheat ( I don't think he would!!) . I can send him through airports etc. etc... But yes, with care, in small steps...

Comments, concerns, questions and experiences are welcome

Have a lovely day- hopefully better than here. We have 13 degrees and rain - om my day off...

 

Yo can always find horror stories relate to any kind of kinky play and domination but in case of numbing You can also find good experiences, if done in safe as can be environment. I would like to post a few of these - collected with my husband from the intensive research we have gone through. Not to cut off concern and negative comments, they are is appreciated as the supportive ones! But to cast a little more light to matter. I was enlighten!
Banding is not necessarily tied in with castration play. And we are not using the so called elastrator . Just thick rubberbands.... on his member, not the balls!
I am new to this but have learned that cock-banding is some very different from ball banding. Objectives are very different.


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Couples being asked about their experiences:


After a long banding session, how long did your cock stay numb?

:Mine was numb for several weeks after. I loved the feeling of a numb dick. Also was unable to reach orgasm it was so numb.

:I had the same experience. At one point I banded daily for several days when fully flaccid. I managed to stay numb for about 3 months before sensation came back. It was great. I also was completely unable to orgasm while it was numb. But erections were fine, she was happy!

:I banded my totally flacid cock for 1 hour. When it was hanging, numb and yellow, I stopped. Today, now six o'clock here in Madrid, still totally, utterly numb, though a good colour and did have nocturnal, normal hard on. Can't orgasm. Love it.

Now five days later after my one-hour, banding at the root of my completely limp dick. Cock still totally numb. Can't orgasm or ejaculate, although get normal, very hard erections. I love the feeling; like having a 'brain-dead' cock but which still otherwise works.

For me The feeling will come back in 3-4 weeks. I have had the same experience.

:I had this experience and found I prefer just a little bit of feeling so I can stay on edge without cumming. Very frustrating and extremely horny.

:Yes, I can get sustained numbness for several weeks where it is truly numb and no way at all to orgasm. I still can get morning erections, and if I'm really turned on can get enough of an erection for some penetration. She likes that it is still possible, for as long as she would like. No worries - I can’t cum!

:Overall we really enjoy the sensation. I now basically band once per week to keep it permanently in this state for her. Sometimes a bit of the feeling returns and in that case an orgasm would be possible I think. at point when I'm really horny, but the orgasm most feel really weird because you still can't feel most of it and it will be shooting cum but I can't feel it so it is sort of a surprise. Has happened once! The horniness with this numbness gets incredible as I wasn't used to going even a day without multiple orgasms and then suddenly having it impossible to get relief. Amazing feeling. I’m spending all my time pleasing her instead.

:This is permanent. Some recovery does still seem to take place when I don't band for months or even a year or more, but even that recovery is limited. My sensitivity is nowhere near what it was when I started banding, and it never will be again. My wife of 20 years is pleased, I used to shoot so quickly.

id some banding session yesterday with 3x45min flacid banding.
There is still no feeling in the shaft and in the glans.
Erection is possible; I tried intercourse yesterday evening. Finally after 45 minutes without orgasm - she called it a day. No chance to have any orgasm, as there is no feeling left. But she got all satisfied, and asked me to remember to reband.

:This is totally my favorite feeling -- being numb enough to be totally unable to orgasm. But I still get erect easily enough, so you can go with sex until really you just give up trying to orgasm. I find the that the interesting thing is that the first couple times your girlfriend will think it is amazing ("never had a guy last that long"), but later they actually become frustrated because I guess they feel that their sex skills are in question if they can't make you cum. After about four days without an orgasm it is really amazing feeling -- you are so friggin horny but no possible release. i find I am numb for a full two to three weeks after a good banding (I band one hour at the base).

: we just recently discovered the joys of cock banding. I have been banding everyday for the past week. My whole cock is now numb and I can't feel it at all! I am in heaven!

I started doing this when i was about ten and now im 33 but never had time to really go that far. Does the feeling come back then? I still have regular intercourse with my wife and she will band me up with whatever she can find.

To go completely numb is mostly a matter of compressing the dorsal nerve of the penis. This actually doesn't take more time, rather it takes a certain tightness of the band in the right place. For me, a proper band is needed, right at the base of a semi-flaccid penis. Even a few minutes works, although I do like to leave it on for half hour to make sure

:Sex is really interesting because I could still get erect but couldn't feel anything -- so it was like wearing a strap-on or something and I could go forever without cumming. It was also frustrating being totally unable to orgasm, like forced chastity- but without any cage on. She really encouraged me to take this route instead!


:Today I did four 30 minute sessions with an hour break between each banding. My cock's been getting numb and has been constantly numb since Saturday night. Just tried to cum, been at it for 90 minutes, hard as a rock (off and on), no luck. Gonna give up now, wait until the feeling comes back. Has anyone had luck cumming with a numb cock?

:Really enjoying banding and the numb feeling. Starting to think that I won't be able stop banding and may never cum again

:It is sort of addictive, and I find the best thing to do is to make it a planned routine of banding once per week. Otherwise it is really tempting to band almost every day, but I suspect that is overdoing it. With once a week you get the benefits of numbness, but also ensure that you aren't doing damage beyond that. Just make it a weekly routine and once you get good a the right placement it is pretty effective -- I can stay almost permanently totally numb, with just a hint of sensation returning.

 

Let me get @BlueEyes to post a picture and some further information. OK?
Regarding The "damages to the nerves" is is quite possible to do that, - but to do it permanently You really have to go very far. But there is always a risk, and therefore I not advocate these measures. Everbody on their own, is a commonly used phrase in here....

BlueEyes is willing to take a risk, and I have decided that If we work on this together in a controlled setup, we will have a multitude of advantages. It is important to me that he remains a functional as a man, ( he hardly is when he is caged, I would have to say) and even with some permanent numbing he will be "operational", and that is so much on his mind, being able to please be, also with PIV. I fully understand that edging is not going to be on the table much, but I can live with that, and so can he. Ask him yourself. My revived libido is his biggest prize, and I take good use of it, to our mutual benefit.

If You are in to chastity for edging and lots of playtime with your "thing", - this is definitely not the route to take. But For years is has not been the goals of my husband. Simple as that - I think My pleasure is on his mind.... it surely seems. Don't you think?

 

I can assure You that he can pee as norrnal, -no change it that department. He always sits, caged or not.;-)

 

We will monitor the sensitivity return very carefully, and he will never be banded more than max. 45 min, also to avoid the risk of strokes due to blood cluttering. I have no knowledge of drugs to use, and I like that I can see what is going on, and that no decrease in libido occurs and abillity to get erections remains.
But thank you so much for your comments and concern. We have read a trillion pages on the internet on the matter, and chatted with a couple of couples in a similar situation. However I'm aware that the reaction and risk-profile can differ quite a lot. We will be very careful, but so far he has "recovered" well from each attempt. It is vital to have a schedule, so that it does not gets out of hand!

P.S. I like to deprive him from the frictional tension, - and he seems to love the crystal clear submissive message it sends;-). It is about my pleasure not his, right?