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    Well my Mistress/Partner has now decided that she wants me to start keeping my cage on when at work as well, I have not pushed it at all, it has been a slow a natural progression for her more than me. She is even surprised how much she enjoys having me in chastity now. It may have taken almost 1.5 years to get to the stage where she keeps me locked up for more than a day at a time. But the work one is a massive step, and means less chance of release for me as time goes by and she grows with her pleasure and understanding of things. I am excited but also very nervous too.

    I think what I’m trying to say is, never force it or rush it, let it happen naturally on both sides, it builds a much better understanding, bond and trust in my humble opinion.
     
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    I agree with you. Good luck to you. I hope you can do it.

    I am in a similar situation. So far she has not demanded I wear to work but she ultimately wants me locked everyday. I have worn to work a few days but still hoping for a more comfortable cage that will allow peeing while standing... I know most think I should sit to pee... but not possible all to often...
     
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    Metal bar cages can work ... just make sure you get everything lined up very well before you start to pee!
     
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    Good approach - take it steady.
     
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    We got to that stage fairly quickly. For the last 8 years being "free" is not an option. Only for medical reasons!
     
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    Thats a big step. Congratulations.
     
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    If you work in an office or other non-physical job it's a basic step to remain caged at work, it's how you move to longer indefinite lockups. There's no reason not to, it doesn't show. I found it really helped my submissiveness and my acceptance of myself as a beta male to take my chastity into the world, into a place where I was a respected professional, to know I was locked and beta there too. And I kept having thoughts of how attractive and superior all my female coworkers were too, which also pushed my beta buttons, and enhanced my deference and respect for them too.
     
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    If only I had your patience. Lol
     
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    Go for it! And I’m sure it wil be fine. Good luck on your journey!
     
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    Too real :p My metal bar cage allows me to use the restroom standing which is nice, but always a bit of a gamble. One unexpected shift and you have a spray issue that's difficult to control and explain. Just not worth the risk most of the time.
     
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    Risky, risky gamble trying to pee standing up. I wouldn’t risk it, well maybe in a cubicle
     
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    Definitely my opinion, it also means that I am not the one in control of the process at all, which again sort of gives her more control subtly overtime too. Prime example, it actually took another two days before she sent me to worked locked up!
     
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    Don’t think will ever get to that point due to life circumstances, but definitely more on than off is good though
     
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    If I didn’t it wouldn’t have ever happened. And does mean I have never ever ‘topped from the bottom’ either which has solidified it more that it really is her in charge of when and how long I am locked up for
     
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    Thank you
     
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    Very nicely written .
     
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    It really is funny how things just become the norm. I don't know exactly when Mrs Chaste reached the point of "needing" me to be locked 24/7 - 365ish! She is genuinely not at all comfortable with me being unlocked. It's gone beyond a game or kink thing at all. She admits that she has insecurity issues and gets a "tummy flip" if I talk to other women, no matter who they are or how old they are. Especially if she doesn't know them. Although she knows the feelings are irrational they are very real if fleeting. So the fact that I'm locked and she has the keys is a real part of allaying those fears. On the actual "sex" front, she has always enjoyed oral sex and apparently I'm very good at it! And the strap on is so much more reliable than my penis. She really enjoys teasing me and the fact that I enjoy being denied makes it so much more fun. I can honestly say chastity really has improved our already enjoyable marriage!
     
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    And that’s the point of it in my opinion if it brings you together and helps relationship and is fun for you both too then it’s a win win in my book!
     
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    I have been caged 23.99/7 for a little over 6 months. Goddess allows an O or a ruin every 1 to 3 weeks, that's why I say 23.99. But if she's not using it, it's locked. I live, work, and sleep caged. As long as your cage is comfortable, you should have no problems. I work a very physical job and have never had an issue. My cage is an open bar style cage and I have no problems standing to pee at a urinal at work, as a urinal has a little more room for error. I just wad up a little bit of tissue first to catch the drips. At home I sit to pee of course.
     
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    this is where I hope to be. We are currently practicing full time lock up with supervised release only. We are two weeks in and I wear my chastity everywhere.
     
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    Couldn't imagine being free now to be honest! Mrs Chaste has been known to "accidentally" leave the keys at home when we go off on holiday as well!
     
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    Lol…that is properly cruel in the best way! I could see my wife doing this, she prefers clitoral orgasms so she would still get hers…but man would that dive me wild!
     
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    I couldn't believe it the first time she did it! Not that she always leaves it behind though. Mrs Chaste definitely prefers my tongue, her vibrator and the strap on to my penis these days! Apparently it's "so much more reliable"! She did say "I wonder if you could go a whole year locked up?" That was last June. So far I've only been free for a colonoscopy (just a few hours) and when I swap cages for cleaning. We have several Cherry keeper cages. As they require regular cleaning it was decided to go along the lines of having more than one. That way whilst one is being cleaned I wear another one!
     
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    I’m in the market now. We were just discussing a new one for better, longer, more concealable everyday wear. I’ve been alternating between the cb-curve and the nub. Mostly wearing the curve and I do wear it in public, but it’s like having a pvc pipe in your pants. I like the nub for more active wear, as everything is nice and neat and out of the way. I have a cab-6000 but the way the base of the tube is shaped and the size, it cuts into me. The problem with the nub is form what I understand is a “ball trap” style and it won’t stay snug against my base like the “guillotine” style cb’s do. It seems like the cherry keeper is popular on this sight but it to is a “ball trap” style and I’m just not sure about the fit. The colors and shape seem nice to me
     
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    My wife did this the last time we went away for our anniversary weekend. I knew I would be locked when we left, and she had told me to pack her dildo and my panties. But she didn't tell me until we were on our way that she left the key at home.
     
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