I've been locked for 22 hours. I had been self-locking a little here and there for a long time but recently introduced the idea to my wife of 40 years. I was surprised when she was open to the idea so I went a got a better cage, a small Ternence cage and a copy of "The Keyholders Handbook". Saturday night (2 days ago) i put on the cage after dinner and went to bed wearing underwear so she couldn't see it. Then I gave her the book and showed her the cage. She liked it and immediately read the first two chapters of the book to understand where I was coming from. She ended up teasing me for about 4 hours and then took it off. She told me to "take care of it myself". I masturbated to the most explosive orgasm I have had in many years. We left if off for the night but I put it back on at noon on Sunday. I'm still locked coming up quickly on the 24 hour mark. She told me last night that I might get out today but might not. I will report back as this evolves.
Welcome. I am also a newbie, locked up (HTv3) 5 days going for 58 days, the only exception is bathing to make sure things stay clean and safe. Working on breaking a masturbation habit and trying to re-boot myself. See my journal for more details.
Welcome -- Keyholders Handbook is great. Also get How to Set Up an FLR by same author. We took turns reading them to each other, she really liked that.
@G42G Hi and welcome to the Mansion and the world of being locked and your wife holding the keys. That seems like a good start by your wife - keep you guessing.
She let me out today to deal with some chaffing but I'm not allowed to play at all. I went 48 hours before being unlocked. All my orgasms are at her discretion from now on. I will be locked again before bedtime. Bedtime is when I'm bad and get pushy about having sex. She is now in control of when, where and how. It's a start. I'm guessing it will take some time. Any advice is welcome.
You're doing great and so is she. Make sure you don't play -- promise her that you'll report all erections to her, it'll help keep yourself honest. "She is not in control" -- as it should be. Great start!
I'm locked back up after 6 hours of being out. I felt funny with it off. Like when you take off a wristband after wearing it for a few days. I know if I don't have it on overnight that it will cause problems so I'm happy to be back under lock and key.
We made both of our first milestones yesterday, 7 days locked and without an orgasm. She decided to celebrate so she unlocked me and we made love, not just sex. We are married 40 years but last night felt like we were newlyweds again. It was a mind blowing experience. After we were done she told me to lock it up again. I will gladly trade my old masturbation habit for last nights experience even if is few and far between. Locked again now and hoping to go longer this time.
Congratulations! You and She are doing great, and so soon. Make love, not masturbation. Make intimacy, not erections. Keep it locked, she holds the keys, you don't ask or whine. Stay needy my friend.
I know this feeling. Married 38+. There is something about being all Her's and just focusing on Her. I do believe it gets better as time goes by. Wait 142 days and see what happens, you talk about newlyweds. It is a frame of mind that every encounter is a new one. You two are on your way. Perfect!
As a good friend of mine said. “Their is something about being all Her’s and just focusing on her” Thanks @Allen1987 We’ve lived our lives being able to get hard and have an orgasm when ever we want. To give your self and control of this part of your body to someone you love is very exciting. To be held at 75-90% on your excitement meter all the time and Not allowed to Cum can and Will be more exciting than having a release. Your entering into a incredible and exciting time in your life. Enjoy the Ride and Stay Locked.
That's exactly it. I've tried to do this many times during our 40 years but ever time "Mr. Happy" would send the wrong message. She just felt there was pressure to perform every time. I've been lurking and reading about this for a number of years and I approached her with it when we had a good "sexy time" about a month ago. She was intrigued by it which I don't think she would have been earlier in our lives. With the kids out of the house we have more alone time together. Now she knows that we can have interaction that doesn't need to end with me having an orgasm. If one comes it is totally by her desire. She is also taking some interest in the "tease and denial" part of this. Two nights ago she spend a 1/2 hour teasing me in the cage and then smiled up at me and said "that's all for tonight, let's just watch TV now". I took it calmly and went with it. It was fantastic and led to our encounter last night.
Thanks for sharing, you put a smile on my face. Hope you keep it going, being caged, locked and controlled is truly a wonderful thing.
I am now on day 9 and see no reason not to keep going. Isn't everything in life about risk vs reward? I took a risk 9 days ago telling her about my interest in improving our lives by putting her in control of something I had no self-control. She rewarded me after 7 days and is getting into the playful aspect of it. The reward is certainly worth the wait. I am dedicated to do this as long as she does. One locked day at a time. we've come to refer to my penis as "the prisoner" or the "the inmate", btw. Before I left for work today she asked how I was doing. My reply was "The inmate is compliant!"
Day 10 of my penis incarceration with only one exercise time. I added a photo album with before and after pictures. Not sure how to link it to here from my phone. Locktober is intriguing but probably too soon for us to do so soon. We will probably see how long I can go into October without the expectation that I will make it the whole month without orgasm. We will see, it’s still a few days away. Hoping to be let out for exercise once more before the end of September.